Selective silencing refers to the fact that children have acquired basic language expression and comprehension ability, but because of the influence of psychological and mental factors, they are silent on certain occasions. The essence is that children have social adaptation difficulties, rather than the language itself has a barrier. When a child is not getting enough security and self-confidence in an unfamiliar environment, it is easy to show up. This phenomenon of children mainly with the help of eyes, gestures, nodding, shaking head and other strategies for communication. The survey found that children began to appear around the age of 3, and girls were more common than boys. Therefore, in the necessary time is to carry out a certain child psychological counseling.
At home Chirp said a constant baby, into kindergarten but suddenly shut up. Why does the baby do this? How to let the baby in kindergarten also lively and cheerful, love to say love laugh?
Zhou Biao Teacher reminded parents: the baby's selective silence must be concerned about.
There are two different manifestations of a selective mute baby: shyness, timidity, withdrawal, and impulse, attack, and irritability. Individual children may have other reactions, such as enuresis, fecal waste, etc., which are related to the need to express their needs and conditions to adults in a timely manner.
If the baby appears more serious selective silence, need to go to hospital to do professional treatment. But most of the children are temporary, belong to the social adaptation process of normal phenomenon, parents found after active ways to help children, selective silence will gradually disappear.
Don't rush your baby to speak
As long as the baby at home or more familiar with the occasion to speak normal, do not worry too much about his language development barriers, do not overemphasize the baby is not polite and other moral issues. If the parents are anxious, forcing the baby to speak, he will be more nervous, said stuttered again misunderstood as stuttering, the situation is even worse, parents will be more flustered. So parents on the one hand to pay attention to the baby's selective silence, on the other hand do not rush, ask the baby to change the situation immediately, and gradually from the front to find solutions to the problem.
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Investigate if there is a bigger event for your baby
The child's psychological frustration is delicate and fragile, in association with the surrounding parents, teachers and peers, A small event may make him feel anxious, greatly reducing his sense of security, but it is difficult for the baby to tell the bad experience, so the silent way to protect themselves. This requires the parents and teachers to carefully observe, investigate, and timely give encouragement, support and help. For example, some babies are generally not adapt to the kindergarten environment, some babies are not able to operate a kindergarten of a toy, some baby is not a good teacher to complete a manual, some of the baby is not able to adapt to a companion's way of communication ... After the investigation is clear, help the baby to eliminate the specific difficulties faced.
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Use integral method to encourage your baby to speak happily
While observing and investigating the baby, you can use the integral method to encourage the baby to talk more, the parents and the teacher cooperate, the effect is better. For example, Jian Jian is a small class boy with few words, his parents have gone abroad, and the grandmother and little babysitter look after him. He was quiet in the class, playing his own silently, not talking to the children. The teacher asked him to say a word, he would not speak without asking him. The teacher told Jianjian: As long as he opened up to talk with the children, said a statement on a table to cover a plum blossom seal, and so accumulated to 10 seals, the award to him a sticker. But if you find that you have not said a word in the morning, you must cross off a seal. The teacher's approach is very effective. When Jianjian and children talk with a lot of progress, the teacher switched to oral reward way, two months later, Jian Jian finally can talk freely, personality also become cheerful many. The
Integration method has many benefits. The motivation and permanence of a baby can be nurtured by the accumulation of a certain number of times to be rewarded for his proper behavior. And if the baby can not reach the standard, it is necessary to reduce points, not directly to the baby's physical and mental punishment, its objectivity to avoid harm to the baby. The
Simple chart helps your baby to self-observe and self-evaluate, helping the baby to shape good behavior independently. Parents save a lot of preaching, let the child self-discipline, is a scientific and effective method of education. This method is quite effective for correcting a baby's need to drink water without a bottle and not to pack toys. The essentials of the
Integration method:
Clear the target behavior with affirmative sentences
For example, the teacher said to Jianjian: "You have to talk to the children every day." "You can't stay alone all day," he said. "Because only a certain sentence can let the baby know what to do, and the negative sentence just tell him what not to do, the result of the baby can't understand what he can do."
Establish cardinality
The cumulative number of behaviors that can be rewarded, which requires an educator's trial and decision, starts with a lower starting point for a younger baby, and then adjusts it later as the situation changes.
After determining the base of the integral identification
, select the appropriate integral identification, choose the logo that is convenient, timely and the baby likes, such as the pattern stamp, the small red flower, the small sticker and so on.
Determine the reward content
What kind of reward will your baby use for points in order to ensure safety and health, according to the child's preferences to choose. The first use of material rewards, and then the spirit of reward, young children to express natural, normal can be withdrawn after reward.
Increase your baby's chances of being alone with his peers and teachers
The baby is due to the collective environment of the pressure of many people choose to silence, and in the familiar environment and less than the circumstances, his pressure will be much smaller. Therefore, parents can create a number of opportunities for the baby to get along with a certain partner, so as to increase the kindergarten collective environment for his affinity. For example, after school, intends to arrange for the baby to go home with a companion, holiday two adults with children exchange visits or travel together, at a convenient time, take the children to the teacher's home, or invite the teacher to his home to visit. These will bring the baby more social contact security, with a sense of security, the baby dare not talk about the problem is solved.
Let the teacher know the baby's hobbies and abilities
The baby is familiar with the things more self-confidence, parents and teachers to communicate with the teacher what hobbies and skills, so that teachers can find a friendly topic with the baby for targeted communication, but also allow the baby to play his favorite toys to the kindergarten, encourage him to share with teachers and playmates, These strategies are useful for stimulating your baby's desire to communicate.
Let your baby learn to accept and appreciate others and the external environment
Some babies and jingjing in the home do not say kindergarten things, some babies say a lot of kindergarten "bad", for their own in kindergarten do not speak for many reasons, such as a child hit me, the teacher does not like me, toys are not good to play, the food is not delicious and so on. The fact that the baby describes the facts may be true or false, parents in helping the baby to solve the problem, but also to focus on guiding the child to learn to accept and appreciate others and the external environment, reduce the child's self-centered thinking characteristics of the adverse effects, help him improve social adaptability.