The best way to defeat anxiety

The best way to defeat anxiety is to do things that make you anxious. Don't ask, don't wait, don't hesitate, don't look back, since you have recognized this path, don't inquire about how long it will take. -- Yixinli

1. Why are we anxious?

Previously, I said in "the only thing you can grasp is to be the best of yourself." We will feel anxious because we are far away from our imagination ."

Another important reason is "others ". Social networks are one of the biggest causes of anxiety, because most people put the best picture on the Internet, and people only put photos of beautiful scenery traveling around on the Internet, so there are always better people than you, more beautiful and more colorful than you. There will always be an illusion that you will feel like others can have a good life without any effort, and you can do a bad job on your own, so you start to worry and start to worry.

But is that true?

Everyone is not what you see. In fact, people who seem to have no difficulty have made great efforts. When you are attracted by their light, you cannot see what price they have paid. Even in real life, those cool people, like the gods, will not be able to read a book or write a thesis, but will not complain. The difference between the shining cool people and you is that they have learned not to complain, but to do what they should do.

Because you are afraid of being too late, you are desperately buying books and paying for Word books. Some people say that there is a future for postgraduate entrance exams, and you are ready to take the postgraduate entrance exam without a stop. After a few days, you will see travel photos uploaded by others, you start dreaming about traveling again.

A book is just a copy of paper without reading it. A word book is a combination of 26 letters at best, the downloaded public lecture class is just a bunch of useless images. Maybe you just downloaded it and never saw it again. So one day you find that the accumulation of things is no longer enough.

When you look at open classes, you look at a word book, and you don't have to start with it. Procrastination and waiting are the easiest thing in the world to crush one's morale.

If you want to travel by yourself, but want to get together with friends, you want to take a postgraduate entrance exam, but want to work for a few years first. If you want to put words on your back for a few days, you want to join community activities. Sometimes, will you ask yourself if you want too much? Is your life too busy? Do you not know what you want, but want to keep yourself busy, so that you can comfort yourself, so that you don't seem to be behind by others too much?

How many people live a seemingly busy and anxious life?

2. can travel solve all problems?

Someone sent me an email two days ago saying that I was still anxious when I came back after a trip. It seems that the trip did not play such a major role.

Indeed, travel cannot bring much change to the reality you want to face. There are still so many topics you want to discuss, and which of your superiors is there. If you don't realize clearly that you will always be back in the end, traveling may not be so effective for you. Can you discover yourself when traveling? Do not believe this sentence. If you only go to the most popular scenic spots, only view the most beautiful scenery, and constantly access the Internet, it is useless, because you have not been able to grow.

What is growth in travel? In my opinion, the most important thing about travel is to learn to be alone. Travel is a catalyst that allows you to find your own pace, but the premise is that you must be aware of this. It is because you have been in the hustle and bustle for too long that you want to go somewhere else. However, if you are traveling and constantly afraid of being alone and afraid of being lonely, such a trip is just a place where you are tired of traveling to where others are tired. After all, you have to come back. After you come back, you have to face the work that has fallen due to travel. Sooner or later, you have to face the bad luck of your life. If you fail to cultivate a peaceful state of mind, after you come back, you will only feel that your life is more unsatisfactory.

What if I want to travel when I am forced? If you are sad, you want to leave? Then you will feel worse and worse. Travel is not an excuse for escaping. It should be a search process. Therefore, I hope that all traveling people will be able to travel on their own, learn how to face loneliness, how to face loneliness, and how to face themselves. This is the most important thing, so you may wish to take a few books, a few songs on the road, go to a place you are not familiar with, do not chase those scenic spots, I think you will be more rewarding.

3. You are not alone.

I know that you will say that you are not doing well, but from another perspective, you are not doing well, or you can say that everyone is doing the same thing.

You think you love the wrong person, but who does not miss a few scum? You say that you do not like what you do, but who can make everyone like it. The vast majority of people have no way to achieve it overnight. Even those you envy, they have made a lot of effort. Please do not care too much about the hard work in your life.

In fact, while you envy others, you may wish to look at yourself. Is there anyone else saying that your life is really good? It's very nourishing to see your photos. However, no one knows that you have to go to bed until three o'clock in the middle of the night, and you have to get up again the next morning. Some people see that you are full of swollen eyes and ask what's wrong with you. You think you have found a savior and want to talk about it well. After a few words, you will become speechless.

No matter how loud you were last night, the city was still busy when you woke up in the morning.

You and I are all the same, don't complain, don't be sad, in this world there can be so few people understand you, it is a very lucky thing, and the person that fits you very well, don't worry, waiting for you in the future. Don't lose today because of today's bad mood.

The gap between you and others is not as big as you think. Everyone is anxious, and everyone is unhappy. You are not alone.

4. The world is too noisy. Listen to yourself.

Do not always think about comparing with others, think about what you want to do better than him, your life is only you understand, taste is only you know. Your future is yours, and it is not yours. Why should you change your life trajectory for them.

Maybe you didn't get the girl's hand in the end, but you don't have any regrets if you pay. Maybe you're just unknown, but you 've worked hard for the future; you may not be able to swim around the world in the end, but you find yourself on the way to your dreams. It is yourself who can work hard for a purpose, without complaining, not impetuous, not afraid of being alone, can handle loneliness well, silence but try again. Maybe the dream you want to pursue is in your hands.

So what is success in the eyes of others is actually not that important.

The best way to defeat anxiety is to do things that make you anxious. I don't know which book I want to read? Let's just take a quiet look. Too many open classes don't know how to start? Then we can classify, filter, and act. Words are always incomplete? So you just have to calm down and keep carrying your back, don't think about traveling, don't play with your cell phone.

Don't ask, don't wait, don't hesitate, don't look back, since you have recognized this path, don't inquire about how long it will take.

If you do not know what you want, just let yourself down and do what you want. I hope that you will be able to stand by the property of others, and then still pretend to be me, so as to find those truly precious things. You need to look for those things carefully. I also hope that you will be able to withstand the unpleasant circumstances of your residence, and do not feel that hard work is so hard to find the true meaning in your life. If I want to say what this means, I will say it is a kind of freedom and peace.

Such a kind of freedom and peace is a sense of security. It is a sense of security that you give yourself. You do not have to fear the loss of it or the change of the world.

What is more important than success is that a person must have an inherent richness and what he or she prefers to do.

This is why we fought all the way. We fought all the way not to turn into others, not to change the world, but not to let the world change and to stand on the earth with our own strength, and try to protect people around you.

Remember that behind all the forces is a high wall, and behind all the forces is what others do not see. A strong anxiety will also be lost in the face of mobility and persistence. If you ask me what is the significance of time and effort, then becoming a better and unique person is the full meaning of time and effort.

As I often say: "when you are alone and helpless, never escape or immediately talk to others. The best way is to calm down and look in the mirror and ask yourself what you want. You will surely find yourself ."

The world is too noisy. Listen to yourself.

Wen/Lu Sihao