There are only two things in this world: their own affairs, others ' Affairs.
There is a friend, at the end of each month, the unit has an early shift, need to get up 5:30. Every day, he will desperate to scold half a day. Yes, a lazy man, to get him up early, is inevitably painless and complaining. However, after his daughter went to high school, he got up 5:30 every day and stayed with his daughter for three years, declining once. After sending her daughter, busy with the busy thing, a long time even a yawn also did not.
To make a man miserable is not a matter, but a matter of WHO.
Man is the virtue of this. Of course, there is a little bit of selfishness in the depths of each person's humanity. But if you are too selfish, you will be given a lot of cleverness. Cleverness is like a little wife, start is running happily, finally all become torture.
"Zhen Huan Biography" in, so many court struggle, some people are for their own things to fight, some people are deliberately stir in other people's things to fight. Sannomiya Six 72 concubines, which is not vegetarian, what other people's own, in the desire and power there, yours is mine, mine is mine. So, all the while, the chicken flies the dog to jump, jiquanbuning. How many human interests entangled in other people's affairs, so, the Ayutthaya has become deeper, conspiracy thickening, more deceitful. The evil of human nature is to be immersed in the worse human nature.
What is the matter with the unit? We are accustomed to taking it for granted to someone, to work for a unit, or to someone. Hate the unit, sometimes it is hate this person. For example, the year-end bonuses, the final will be interpreted as the teeth hate of leadership. It doesn't matter how much a bonus is taken, it's important that you take less than others. Of course, on the surface with the leadership there is not money, but a reason. But after all, the money behind the rationale. No one has a hard time with money, but no matter how much money you get, you have to start with Daniel. In front of life, no one can play noble. Because the noble will not give you money, and ultimately can not control your breadwinner.
How big a thing, if with oneself even half of money relationship also not, is nothing. A small movement, if involved in their own personal interests, is a big event. In this sense, other people's affairs, is not a breakthrough, is an outlet, because, it will eventually return to their own here, back to their own interests.
Why we are not happy, is always feel busy with other people's affairs. So, the heart, day by day was dragged down, also dragged down. Moreover, the more unhappy, the more selfish. A selfish person will be narrow, do not want to get less, but also can not come up with more. At this time, easy to live in the self-thought of the world, a lot of things should be done, divided into the part of the not. For example, doing a good job should be a kind of duty, and the so-called happiness, is a surplus on this part. But when it's painful, it's easy to get angry at work and think that everything is superfluous outside of your own business.
The world, a lot of other people's affairs, in fact, their own business. A man who wanders too long in his own affairs will be alienated too much in the affairs of others. The imbalance of the heart begins with the imbalance of the ego and the world around it. The important thing is that the more we think in other people's affairs, the more we will be burdened with. Because, every thought behind, will follow and lose.
Read an article saying that a Kuomintang veteran lived 91 years old. In the decades of ups and downs, he seems to be not particularly happy when the time is not particularly unbearable. In his world, there are not many other people's things, and not much of their own things, to be precise, he has become a human being.
It seems to be the legend of life, too.
There are only two things: your own business, the things of others.