Three things to realize on the eve of a divorce

Wen/iron Eye (Jane book author)
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Two days ago, in a meal, feel the mouth of strange, with toothpicks a pick, a wisdom tooth crisp, fall off. At that time very frightened, own only 30多 points, the tooth is broken, then only regrets the idea, if goes back to two years time, I must earnestly diligently brush teeth, the maintenance good tooth. The teeth are so strong that the foul day of the remaining mouth is soaked in lunar eclipse, which can make it fall apart. Not to mention the emotions between people and people. It is necessary to clear the stains on the soul, if not, only with the time like teeth crisp off. As people say, life is full of contradictions. We are puzzled, or have no solution to the problem of life, only because we are not intelligent, read too few books, the ability to use knowledge is low. My wife and I were supposed to be a good life, business to the point of the situation, because we like children as ignorant and willful. will be separated, or some sentiment. 01 Family is a place of affection, not a place of reason. My wife and I have a daughter, at the beginning of the parents, facing the sudden raising of children trivial, always seem to rush. Wash diapers, powder, no day no night, no enough sleep, these can endure. Wife can't bear is, mother-in-law because not accustomed to city life and our husband and wife two friction dispute, leave all this regardless, go back to the countryside. Let Ben not get along with the-law relationship, which makes us uncompromising, arguing theory, fighting, arguing, I tried to persuade her to understand the old man, she was determined to let me with the old man decorum, I strongly realized that men and women's thinking is really diametrically opposed. Until the child nine months old, this quarrel did not ease, the children climb in bed, we sit on the edge of the theory, noisy agitatedly, there is a moment, the child trembling from the bed, with a small hand to block mother mouth, the other hands to me, hook my neck, mouth babbling, it seems that let us not noisy. At that time, we were silent, the eye was moist. Children who are still dissatisfied with the old age, all know that parents love and harmony. We adults in the concept of their own rules and not to let the death of the fight ruthless. Home is not the place where we argue, not right and wrong on the battlefield, because there is a feeling, thicker than water. 02 The family is a place to speak of tolerance, not a place to verify defects. Wife in my eyes do not have a lot of shortcomings, the only thing is a quick temper, dry. For that, I always wanted to make her aware of that. On one occasion, I took a long-distance bus ride with her to visit my daughter. The road is far away, in the middle of several cities. Bus in order to make money, every city, to the next high-speed pull a few scattered guests, very delayed time. I know my wife is so eager to see the car under the high speed are very unhappy. At first I complained to my driver that I was silent. Then another high-speed, she can not bear, up with the driver noisy. The driver explained that the car on the pull a few people, run a trip is not cost-effective, down will not delay much time. She raised her voice more clearly and told the driver to complain. Angered the driver, the driver pointed to the car complaints on the phone, said he would like to complain about your complaint, do not want to take off. ThingsAlmost impossible. At that moment, I still did not speak. In the heart of constant confirmation, see, this is her bad temper, a high degree of people in public shouting, her shortcomings in the compartment exposed. Family, we often know each other's shortcomings more than the advantages, since well-known, we are not to verify the other side of the error, but to accommodate each other, as the other side of the character of the short board, avoid the defects caused by the contradictions and mistakes, to prevent outsiders to see jokes. After all, no one is perfect, everyone has the limitation of character. In the event that I first comforted her or found the driver to figure out the unspoken rules of the passenger that allowed such a high-speed pull-off, things would not be that way. But we often in the family life, to each other's shortcomings do not accept, exclusion, and even constantly to test the wrong, can only let the shortcomings more and more magnified, resulting in more and more bad relations. 03 The family is a place of growth, not a place of arbitrary. People live, there are three things to do, is to live, work, and learn. And these three things have a logical and progressive relationship. First from birth, we must constantly learn new skills, the purpose of learning is to better work, and work for a better life. Life is the ultimate goal, but also the most complex and difficult to engage. And most people will neglect the proportion of the three, messing up the order. This is also my biggest failure. My wife and I formed a family, every day I tidy up to go to work, in the unit and colleagues rapport, leadership in front of positive performance, work encountered problems, brain solution, have heavy dirty, never tuirang, diligent very. Self-feeling coping with freedom, never nianqingpachong. But from the unit back home, the typical field of laziness. The work clothes take off, feel free to lose. Sofa on a lie, play mobile phone, watch TV, home all do not ask, Quibble said home should be a place to relax. For life outside of the work is really very little thinking and planning, we two people did not communicate the leisure time should develop what hobbies, no planning for the future goals of the family, did not discuss the education of children, but also did not learn to live well. Just happy to go out to play together, unhappy with the quarrel to solve the problem, all let the temperament. For me, it's all about putting the cart before the horse. Is the escape of life and waste of life. Work allows us to progress and grow, and family, life is not it? Home is not our wanton vent, wayward place. It is more complex and more important than work. Here, we need to learn to care, understand the family, have to bear, understand tolerance, after all, need to operate, can not arbitrary. Life is a book, we all need to learn to grow! In a failed marriage, there is always a time to fall apart, only to leave the tears of regret. Wife, I wish you happiness in the future!

Three things to realize on the eve of a divorce