Use clever tricks to transform a man

Preface

Huazi is a close friend of mine. She and her husband have been married for more than ten years and have always been loving harmony. I have seen her husband. She is elegant and has excellent manners. She is a boss in a company. During our party, he was always smiling, cheerful, easygoing, and never saw him get angry.

 

I boast of my fortune and find such a competent and grumpy man. Hua Zi said, "Where do you think he has always been so good? ."

 

In my opinion, it is difficult for a man to develop his or her studies. Marriage can only adapt to each other, and he must not expect the other party to change. Hua Zi's words made me shine, And I quickly asked her teacher Gao Zhao.

 

As soon as I asked her, she was like a bamboo with beans. She agreed to sort out her tricks and post them on her blog.

 

The following is the self-report of huazi:

 

"My father is a farmer, a typical kind of ambition. He is not familiar with anything and has a high self-esteem. Unfortunately, he stays in the countryside all his life and works hard, neither making money nor making an official fortune.

Perhaps it is not because of his ambition. His father established his absolute authority by various means of violence at home and demanded that the weak mother and our siblings obey him unconditionally. His mother's food was not as good as his taste. He could open his desk and scream. Our test scores did not meet the standards set by him, and he would order us to kneel down without mercy, shoes his face with a stick. When he gets drunk, he gives us crazy drinks with no scrubs. His father's violent rule may satisfy his self-esteem as a man, but his temper makes the whole family feel defeated. In this family environment, I have also developed an inferiority, timeness, and loneliness.

 

When I graduated from college and chose my boyfriend, I took my temper as an important criterion. In love, my boyfriend cares for me and cares for me. I don't hesitate to marry him.

After entering the marriage, his real side was revealed, and I found out that he was also an acute child. He also liked to blow his beard and lose his temper when he encountered bad things outside and at home. If I feel comfortable, it is easy for me to become his "anger". I don't want my mother's tragedy to be repeated on me. So, shortly after his wedding, he was still infatuated with me. When he was so keen, I tried to help him get rid of his bad habits.

1. Take a needle in advance

 

You know, I teach Chinese in middle school, and I am also a class teacher. As a teacher, I know that only by "being rational and emotional" Can I "Guide" the truth.

One day, I first tried to prepare for him, so he was so gentle and considerate that I gave him a dizzy look, and then took the opportunity to show him a miserable family history. When talking about sadness, I couldn't help talking with tears. I said angrily, "I really hate dead men ."

 

He paused and asked, "What is the meaning ?"

I waited for him and said, "What I said is that I am mediocre outside, not ambitious. In order to balance my mind, I am at home, take the wife and children as their own men. You must know that a successful career man is gentle and peaceful at home, because his talent is fully played out, and his authority is also recognized by people, therefore, he does not need to seek the high feeling at home."

Then, I pretended to be weak and helpless, and asked him with pity: "Aren't you that kind of person? I have done my best, but I don't want to suffer any more ." He put me in his arms and vowed: "What can I do? I promise not to touch your finger in the future ."

I pressed my heart's ecstasy and gave him a high hat: "How can I marry you? A high-quality man like you must be on the outside, right ?"

 

He nodded angrily. I took the opportunity to sign a verbal agreement with him to discuss things well and do not permit the family rules of "being arrogant.

2. fight up

 

His family rules are settled, and his self-consciousness is the only reason why he can abide by them. After all, he is a bloody man. In addition, when his career was just getting started, he was so busy with all kinds of transactions and social activities that he was upset and worried about when he was out there, when I get home, I am easy to treat myself as a venting object.

On one occasion, he ran business outside. I had four classes in the morning and had a meeting in the afternoon. He was exhausted and called to say that he would go home for dinner at night.

I think he has been exhausted over the past few days. Today, I should make a good performance and try to be a good wife. I am in a hurry to go home. I am so tired that I can leave my house spotless, cook the food according to the recipe and make him happy.

It was hard to wait for him to come back, but he could not think of him with a dead face on the floor. First, he accused me of making the floor too wet, complained that the food I made was hard to swallow, and ruined his appetite.

As soon as you look at the situation, you will know that you are angry outside. Let's look for a vent in my place. The problem is that I didn't recruit you, why. Even if I have worked hard for a day, I shouldn't have done it!

I was so angry with him that I grabbed my handbag and rushed out of the house. I took a bus straight to my home 100 kilometers away. I want to fight for work, not marriage, and not live with such an unreasonable guy. He soon caught up with my house, saying that he had not finished his business today and had a fierce conflict with the other party. He asked me, "I neither touched you nor scolded you, but I am in bad mood. If I say either of you, you will be faster than the rabbit. Do you have such a wife?"

 

I retorted: "It's your business that you didn't talk about, and I didn't provoke you again. Why did you say something to me. If you trust me, you will directly tell me that the business has crashed and your mood is not good. I will try to make you happy. If you think you are a big man and can handle your troubles, simply stick to it and don't let me know. Are you fair to me not to tell me the truth, but to blame me and treat me as a venting bucket ?" He was speechless by me.

I took the opportunity to make an appointment with him. If I had troubles outside and wanted to share it with me, I would just tell him. If you don't want to, you have to be calm and calm. Although he agrees with my point of view, after all, this nature is hard to move, and sometimes there will be unreasonable behavior. At this time, I either have a tit for tat, or face your face to ignore him, or go back to your home for refuge. In short, we will never give in and will never encourage him to do bad deeds. After several battles, he finally learned to control his temper and communicate with me at home in a drizzle.

3. In the same way, you can also

 

Because of my strong resistance, He converges his bad temper behavior, but it is inevitable that he will complain that I am not gentle, so he will not dare to send fire. How can I let him know the lethality of his temper and understand my grievance? It seems that there is only one way to do it.

One morning, I had four classes, and his company had nothing to do. You can go home early. According to the Household rules, cook the meal. Before going to class, I said with a sweet and sour voice: "husband, your sweet and sour pork ribs are better than the restaurant. You can cook this dish for me today. Also, after four class sessions, you are very thirsty. Don't forget to buy a watermelon and put it in the refrigerator. After class, I will buy beer to repay you ."

 

With my understanding of him, he will surely be happy to meet my requirements. After class, I intentionally didn't buy beer and put my face tight and burst into the house.

He told me to wash my hands and eat, and I ignored it, lying in bed, staring at the ceiling in a daze. He cautiously asked: "What happened ?"

 

I gave him a glance and didn't say anything. He pulled me to the restaurant and pointed to watermelon, pork ribs and vegetables for me to see. I said angrily: "How to buy a melon? Don't buy it if you don't buy it. There is also this spare ribs, which makes people have no appetite when I look at the color. Do you mean not want me to eat it or what ?"

 

He was so angry with me that he shouted at me: "What is the wrong medicine? Let's talk about anything, so we can't worry about it. If you do that, I will drop the bowl. I can't help it ......"

 

I sneered in my heart and deliberately said, "I have had a fight with students in class today, so I am bored. Who else can I find without looking? You will not be patient with me. Yes, I am not gentle. You are more emotional than me, and you can even say anything ."

 

He said, "If you are upset, let's say, why are you angry? I have been busy for a morning, and I hope you will come back. As a result, you will give me such a bid. Do you say, can you feel comfortable in my heart ?"

I smiled and said, "What I want is your uncomfortable feeling. You can't afford anything that a big man can't afford. Why can I afford it gently ." At this moment, he suddenly realized.

Since then, we have understood each other and treated each other with sincerity. Our sweet little home has become a safe harbor for us to get rid of our troubles ."

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The story of Hua Zi makes me suddenly enlightened.

It turns out that couples also need to be smart. If the method is appropriate, it can change some bad habits of the other party. I hope that the female will learn from them and cultivate more gentle and elegant men for the society.

 

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