Values, beliefs, attitudes, and mood control

• Original article: http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4c03bacf0100gehk.html
• How to Build superior values

• Roles of Values
  • Value is the belief system in which everyone judges whether it is black or not;
    Value is the standard for people to behave and act;
    Value is the final element of success;
    Conflicts of values are the root cause of all contradictions;
    Values determine the fate of life.
• Values and beliefs
  • Values are part of the belief and the core of the belief;
    Concept = value + belief
• Value formation
  • Values are derived from your beliefs and influenced by the environment;
    Impact of the family;
    Influence of social networks;
    Influence of public figures;
    Impact of working environment;
  • Values change;
    Different people have different values for the same thing.
• Test Values: Ship of love-S, H, and B on the river side; l m on the river side
  • Only S and B have ships. S, B, l, and m are all about H. Finally, H chooses m and wants to cross the river to marry M.
  • H finds B, B's condition is that H wants to marry him, H finds S, s agrees, but wants to spend a good time with him before he gets married. H. No way, so I had to promise.
  • H crossed the river, but M knew about h and S. m was furious and refused to marry H.
  • L accept H and marry her.
  • Now, based on personal subjective likes and dislikes (by feeling), sort these five people from your most sympathy to your most annoying order.
    S-SEX, H-HOME family, B-BUSINESS business, L-LOVE love, M-MORALITY Ethics
• Value System:
  • Value = positive value + negative value;
    Value = tool value + essential value;
    Value = value pursued + value avoided;
    Value level.
• Conflicts of values are the root cause of all contradictions
  • Value conflicts are between people, between people and groups, and between groups and groups.
    Root Cause of Inter-body conflicts;
    Common values are the basis for building consensus and friendship;
  • The solution is:
    -- Respect others' values;
    -- Find out the commonalities in the values of both parties and constantly expand the commonalities.
    While gradually resolving the differences between them;
    -- Think differently and try to help the other Party fulfill their wishes.
  • Conflicts of values are the root cause of personal conflicts;
    Conflict 1: The two conflicting values are arranged too close;
    Conflict 2: Put two opposite values in pursuit of value and avoid
    Values are sorted in the same order;
    Conflict 3: there is a problem with the definition of value;
    Conflict 4: The value conflicts with the purpose and goal of life;
  • Solution to the conflict:
    -- Clarify your current value system;
    -- Determine your goals and goals in your life;
    -- Adjust your value system based on your goals and goals;
    -- Living in accordance with your value system wholeheartedly.
• Clarify your current value system
  • Lists the value levels you pursue;
    List the value levels of the value you have avoided;
    What are the definitions of the above values?
    What are tool values and what are essential values?
    Determine which values are positive and negative?
    Use the above value system to analyze your past life events.
    The above value system has created you today!
• Adjust your value system
  • Clarify your goals and systems of life;
    "What values do I have to possess to achieve my goals and goals "?
    "In addition to the current value system, what other values should I possess ?"
    "What values must be removed from my value list to achieve the purpose and purpose of life ?"
    "What are the benefits of this value arrangement in this position ?"
    "What do I do if the value is arranged in this position ?"
    "What are my values in order to achieve my goals and goals ?"
    There will always be various tests in your life to test your persistence in your own values.
  • You must work hard to study your existing value system and establish a new value system;
    For this reason, you may spend a long time and a lot of energy, but it is very worthwhile;
    Always remember: value is the final deciding factor of success.

• How to establish a strong belief in success

• Belief is the guiding force of people's actions
  -- "Is it happy or painful for me ?"
  -- "What actions do I have to take at the moment to avoid suffering and happiness?
  The strength of a person with faith outshines those who are only interested
• Belief is a feeling of confidence in something;
  Belief is formed by a thought or idea that is gradually strengthened;
  Belief right and wrong are not important. What matters is whether it can help you succeed;
  Belief can be creativity or destructive. The key is to know from which angle you use.
• Source of belief
  • Environment;
    High-intensity incidents;
    Knowledge;
    Past experience;
    Experience created ".
• Establish a belief in success
  • Determine the belief you want to establish;
    Constantly seek evidence to strengthen this belief (install and strengthen the table legs );
    Find or create a high-intensity case so that you can understand the worst outcome of not building this belief;
    Strengthen this belief in action.
• 7 winners
  • The occurrence of each task has its own cause and result, which is beneficial to me;
    No failure, only result; past does not represent the future;
    Everyone has unlimited potential;
    I am a 100% responsible person;
    I love my work;
    Grasp the key and take immediate action;
    Go all out and stick to the end.
  • The four characteristics of the winners are: love money, love work, love to do good deeds, normal heart-lu Youji, Chairman of Shenzhen mantanghong Home Decoration Engineering Co., Ltd.
• CanI is needed in life! (Constant and Never Ending Improvement !)

• How can we be in a good mental state?

• Mentality is related to your success or failure
  • Mentality is the reaction to something related to yourself. It is sometimes enterprising, sometimes paralyzed, and most people are in an intuitive state.
    There is a lack of Yin Qing garden in the month, and people have emotional levels. The key is that they cannot be in a low state for too long.
  • -- Confidence, dare to love, strong, happy, and excited when you are in an enterprising status can bring your power to the source;
    -- When you are paralyzed, you may be confused, frustrated, afraid, anxious, sad, or frustrated;
  • Behavior is a reflection of mentality;
    All things pursued by life are related to mentality;
    What determines your value is your attitude rather than talent;
    The key to success lies in how to guide and master your own mentality.
• Two main factors affecting mentality changes
  • Inner memory;
    Physiological status and activity.
• Traditional treatment theory and emotion Adjustment
  • Traditional treatment theories hold that bad emotions are our enemies. If we want to treat them, we can only go back to the past to find out the cause of bad mood.
    His psychological analysis is to mine the "deep-buried and hidden secrets" in the past ";
    Facts tell us that your subconscious will help you find what you really want.
• NLP theory and emotion Adjustment
  • NLP theory holds that all emotions are important and valuable to us;
    NLP theory holds that you are the creator of all situations. You can choose what you want at any time to experience your desired emotions;
    Example 1: Robin changes students' adverse reactions to noise when the train passes.
• Six steps to control emotions
  • Confirm your true feelings;
    Affirm the role of emotion and recognize the help it can give you;
    Pay attention to the emotional messages;
    I believe that I can control my emotions at any time;
    Take actions in an exciting mood;
    Summarize past and present experiences to lay a good foundation for the future.
• Energetic health rules
  • Take three deep breaths and perform aerobic exercises each day;
    Eat more water-rich food;
    Foods that are not suitable for common meals should not be eaten at the same meal;
    Eat less and live longer;
    When you want to eat fruit in an empty stomach;
    We advocate vegetarianism.
• Negative Emotions-how to form: lack of goals; fear of failure; fear of rejection; blame and blame; negative reality; give up halfway; be pessimistic about the future; dream and fantasy; Be ambitious
• Negative Emotions-root cause: destructive criticism;-being irrelevant to people; increasing inner feelings; conditional love. Unwilling/afraid to take responsibility; negative judgment, criticism of others, self-verification;
• Anxiety and Elimination:
  • We need to realize that the vast majority of worries are what we think.
    -- 40% never happened; 30% is worried about what happened;
    12% worry about others' ideas; 10% are irrelevant;
    8% is worth considering, but half of it is impossible for you
    Control, so 96% of things do not have to worry about.
  • Clearly write your worries;
    Find out the truth, and worry disappears naturally;
    Get to know the worst of things and try to change immediately;
    It is necessary to clearly understand the time and process required for success;
    Focus on the methods and programs you want to solve the problem;
    Do what you fear;
    You need to realize that everything will pass
• Understanding of psychological pressure
  • Comfort Zone-your external uterus-self-concept and world concept
    When you want to step out of the comfort zone, there will be pressure. When an external force breaks into your comfort zone, you will also feel pressure.
    "We will always be under pressure ." -- The famous stress expert Han Sai iboshi.
• Three causes of psychological stress
  • Inner guilt/guilt
    Loss/fear of loss/fear of not getting much attention
    Hate your work, life, and Environment
• Eliminate Psychological Stress
  • Taking vitamins: stress quickly consumes the body's V-B
    Sports: Walking/swimming/cycling/walking
    Relax: Watching the SEA/watching the stars/listening to light music/daydream/mind
    Family and friends: Positive/daguan/caring/sincere/warm/understanding