What is the most taboo between men and women

Wanfang

In the summer of that year, I was waiting for a man in the Guangzhou subway.

I don't know how many times I've been waiting, sometimes I wait for her to appear, it will be a few minutes, sometimes it will be a few 10 minutes, and this time, I waited for half an hour, she still did not appear.

When I was young, I was a man of great character. As a writer, there is no character, also can not eat this bowl of rice.

I even said to my friend: "In the future I want to find a girlfriend, let me wait for more than half an hour, I immediately split-I hate not punctual people, as if other people's time is not the same." ”

As I grew older, my character began to flatten out, and I began to learn to tolerate others ' mistakes and caprice. Besides, I have nothing important to do this afternoon, I will be happy as long as I can see her. So I picked up the phone to start reading, this day, I very clearly remember, I see the "Boiling 15".

Summer in Guangzhou, the subway is unusually humid, people like fish, in my side swim around.

People are in droves, and I, alone, stand in the crowd and look very abrupt.

Subway exit no place to sit, and then I really could not stand, leaning against the railing, stood for half an hour, legs tired, I called to ask her: "You still have when?" ”

"I'm coming, on the way." ”

"If you have a little time to come, I want to find a place to sit, I stand at the G exit waiting for you, standing here very tired." ”

"I'll be right over." ”

The phone is hung up. Until one hours later, she appeared in front of me, this time, I stood in the subway, has been 1.5 hours. The last time I stood so long was when I was in elementary school. When I was fighting and stand, I stood at the end of the classroom, watching the sunset slowly fall.

She saw me, the first one is to apologize: Ah, sorry, too busy. “

I did not accuse too much, just said: "Next time you want to come so late, tell me about it, I also find a seat to sit." ”

"But I don't know how long I can get here," I told you, business is sudden, and I don't know how long it will be. ”

"But you always say ' right away ', you can't be very precise, at least you can estimate, for example, you have about 1 hours to, you tell me, too long I find a place to sit, I stand so long also very tired, you are late I did not blame you." ”

"You know what?" I used to date other people, even if I was a friend, even if I arrived late, people will not blame me. “

"I don't care what your friends do to you, but you're late and 1.5 hours late, right?" “

"Why can anyone understand me?" And you are my boyfriend, not even ordinary friends? ”

Like many times, I swallowed the breath silently, as if nothing had happened.

Because I know that if in this matter, I want to fight, our day will be ruined.

I am in Foshan, she is in Guangzhou. Every time I go to see her, I take a 1.5-hour drive to another city. A little farther away, it takes 2 hours. In such a situation, she is often late. Sometimes because of business, sometimes it's not. I told her many times before, sometimes a few minutes late, sometimes a few 10 minutes, this time, the most serious.

I think, whether talking about love, as a person, an adult, a more or less in this world experience the vicissitudes of life of adults, the most important thing is to recognize:

Don't take it for granted that the other person is good to you.

The world is good for you, except your parents, probably not a third person.

Or I said a little cruel, even if the parents, he raised you, a lot of parents also have to beg, so-called "son", but they do not say just.

In this matter, she took her friend to forgive her for granted, so she stood me waiting for her, also take for granted.

She ignores that a person, even as a boyfriend, is just a normal person. He stood in the subway station waiting for you, dry stand for 1.5 hours, how difficult.

There are a lot of things like that.

For example, I give people red envelopes when the Spring Festival, sometimes in the group, some people did not grab, will be very unhappy.

So I will add them, privately send them red envelopes.

I thought, as a stranger, we have not met, others give you red envelopes, as an adult, will say "thank you."

After all, a red envelope, although not much money, but I will try to guarantee at 1 dollars above, I will not let you feel, I was to pick out a few cents to send you away.

A red envelope, representing a stranger, is a new Year's blessing to another stranger.

Those who don't say "thank you", I will not say.

But partiality obscurity some people, not only do not say "thank you", and later asked me: "How so little?" ”

Still have, took my red envelopes, ran to the group to bask: "million total, how do you give 4.19 so little ah, should give 419 to Ah, the heart is not happy Ah, did not think you so key." ”

Other do not say, this is good, those who give less than this red envelope, all of a sudden I have offended, in fact, I just shake to a number only, you shake to how much how many-you shake to 1 pieces below, I will shake again.

I see people like this all the time, and you should never do that. For example, "Two people go out, men should pay", "women do not do housework to her", "Valentine's Day is not all should send flowers for chocolate" ...

In the relationship between men and women, nothing should not be, a lot of should, are "you think should" or "others like this, so you after the comparison, you think he should also", but once placed in a separate behavior of individuals to see, nothing should not be.

In my primary school, Valentine's Day has not been the business rendered so strong, so, in Valentine's Day not to send gifts very ordinary, I did not see any love, because Valentine's Day do not give gifts and complain.

Until later, Valentine's Day by the merchant speculation into a trend, a lot of people began as a comparison: you see, a certain she has received a gift, I did not, I am better than her? I am very chilling.

Yes, most of the time, is vanity, greed, jealousy in the mischief, you take this factor alone, do not compare with anyone: Valentine's Day should be a gift?

No, you know, as long as the love of the people, every day, Valentine's Day.

He gave you a gift on Valentine's Day, it is worth happy, he did not send, nor too disappointed, as an adult, do not casually say to the world disappointment. He didn't give you a present, and you didn't lose anything.

I have seen a couple, husband is often scolded by his wife as a dog, even in public, subordinates are in, also no face. Husband every attitude is very good, always smile, coax her: Don't be angry don't angry. The old wife for decades, every Valentine's Day to buy flowers, Christmas dinner, not to mention the birthday.

All the money is also put in the wife, for money, apply to the wife, every time to report, how much money spent, where to use.

It seems that the man is very lost, I carefully observed, in fact, it is not so.

Inside and outside the home, the wife is very good, not only the company, or the home, all from the wife to worry about. Big to the company, small to what to eat tonight, husband only with good work, work, drag the ground, laundry on the line.

In terms of money, the husband does not have to worry, all by the wife.

In my opinion, these two people have too many places that should not be, but partiality obscurity, two people are getting along with each other--men and women, more in the need for tolerance and understanding, rather than "should".

A person comes into the society, it will be different from what you see in school.

In society, one is one, pull. You drink saliva, 2 dollars, you have to go to the toilet, please buy paper towels, 1 dollars a pack. You lost your purse, bowed down in the street stoop to the passers-by to beg for a piece of money to ride home, others squint look over: liar. Your boss, who has been working for more than 10 years, suddenly quit your job one day because you are old and can't do it.

Everything is clear, there is not too many sensibilities to speak.

In such a cruel social environment, people tend to become greedy, selfish, vain, to get what they call "security." The more greedy, the more selfish, the more vain, the easier it is to disappoint the world. The more disappointed, the more the need for security, then the appetite becomes bigger, so cycle, finally falling into a hopeless abyss.

In fact, you think, when we were young, were very happy, because very contented. I remember when I was a little, one night, my brother from a plastic jar, took out 17 big White Rabbit candy to me, before leaving the charge: save some food, only so much.

Then I counted the toffee, and watched the new white Snake legend, and ate on one side, so, had a pleasant evening.

When I grew up, I never had any fun with a few candies.

I have read a story before: a every time the eggs are sent to B to eat. Start B Thank you, and get used to it over time. Get used to it and take it for granted. So, until one day, a will give the eggs to the c,b will not be upset. She forgot that the egg was a, and a wanted to give it to anyone.

Life is like this, often a problem around, forget the problem of the place to start.

A person, an adult, an adult who has experienced the vicissitudes of life, at the very least, should know a little: in such a cruel society, if not for the purpose, others to you every time good, is hard-won.

Someone gives you a seat, be sure to say thank you. Others give you red envelopes, be sure to say good wishes. You should pay tribute to others for giving you gifts, even if you do not like them.

I hope your every word of thanks, every feedback, is from the heart. Rather than as a child, the parents on the side of your shoulder, urging you to say "quick thank Uncle Ah", then you reluctantly, finally blurted out a "Thank you uncle."

To oneself, is a kind of accomplishment.

For others, it is a comfort.

Others to you, do not say you must have something in return, you must at least let others feel that his pay is worthwhile, meaningful, if every good deed can receive positive feedback, then the world will have more people willing to pay, know how to pay.

Finally, repeat: do not take it for granted, especially in this stark reality society.

That's it.

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What is the most taboo between men and women