Why are so many people unhappy with their work?

Many people complained to me about their work, not only readers on the Internet, but also friends around me. They don't understand why I am doing my work. Most of the time I am happy, after work, most of them are puzzled. Sometimes they even read their grievances at the dinner table.

I held my head and listened to them and asked them, "why don't you resign?

They glance at me: Do you think it's so easy to get a job now? I want to have a drink every day.

I asked them: Can't you find a job that is better than this job, and you have no confidence in yourself?

They refuted me: You don't know, this job has four insurances and one gold, how much is the annual year-end bonus, what kind of qualifications does our company have, I have been doing this for a few years. I am reluctant to start over.

I said: let's endure it. Since I think there are merits, don't complain too much.

But they will tell me again like this: But you don't know how wonderful the boss is. Every day in the company, you turn around with your hands like a screw machine, staring at who is not working, the face of Yin water can be screwed out, colleagues are wonderful, the work they have done is arranged for me, my boss is also a wonderful, except to train people have no ability, at first glance, I climbed up my boss's thigh. To tell the truth, I did not do well.

I asked them: Why can he be your boss?

They spread out: I don't know either.

I smiled and gave them food: don't just see the shortcomings of others. Since others can stand in this position, there must be merits.

I am a person who often asks questions in my life. Generally, if someone asks me for advice, I will not give the answer directly. Instead, I will throw an interest without mercy, let him look at his own life and life. Many people, I have seen too many such people. They are very conflicting people, and they both want to have their own. They feel that a job hurts themselves, but they eat like a chicken, just like holding a swimming circle that is too big and small, and they are almost suffering from a job becoming depressed, but I still need to find several reasons to continue to endure and want to swim through this long river.

I don't know what these people think, but their gloomy faces must tell outsiders that they will not be happy tomorrow.

China's label awareness

In the traditional Consciousness of China, finding a job is just like marrying a husband and family. The Chinese are afraid of changes. Although the old saying goes "people are moved and trees are moved to death", they are afraid of frequent job changes due to competition pressure and public opinions, and will be accused of being unresponsible. The Chinese figure is stable, as Hu Shi wrote in "immortality" and believes in "Famous religion". They like to find large companies, top 500 companies, and iron rice bowl. At the age of 20, they began to worry about preparing for the 50-Year-Old age. They were afraid that they would fall into the "drinking northwest wind" and they would always live in the future, who are also worried about the future.

However, they can hardly grasp the current situation and review their internal needs.

I once discussed it with a group of good friends. We all looked to outsiders as a simple and easy-to-use person. I resigned when I resigned, broke up when I broke up, and broke my head when I worked, people who read through the snow can also read through the pitfalls. We all believe in the principles of "Life is short, we must be sexy" and "pay for what we do and what they do. For example, I had a good guy who opened an inn in Lhasa and suddenly went surfing in Hainan with a surfboard. Then I felt I was not addicted and set foot on a motorcycle to feed monkeys in India. Another guy, with a high salary of 0.2 million yuan a year, suddenly resigned and went to the mountain district to teach him. He sent us a picture and wore a tattered army coat, a leather hat, and an ass, the face was covered with high altitude red from the mountains. The potatoes were eaten by a stove, and a group of black-colored rural children were sitting around their knees, smiling with white teeth. We are not very rich, and we often have a rough experience, but if we sum up our own lives, including the years of wage earners, we are still quite happy.

When we chat, we will talk about this. What is the purpose of living, including working? The 38-Year-Old scriptwriter is still like a girl in the middle of the 18th, with a mosigan head and a fashionable ear earring, and a bull riding an electric motor in his body. He said: the person is alive, and the figure shows catharsis. When we were born, we were prepared to suffer all kinds of hardships. We wanted to vent all our impulse in our life, mentally and physically; the sisters who opened the company said to me: people are living, but they are meeting and have various surprises. The host's buddies put the skateboards on the wall, and they have a pipe: I will go up and down and seek for the entrance to the soul's peace.

They asked me, I thought for a moment, and I had a mantra: "If you are happy, haha. If you are unhappy, go to his mother !" I said, just be happy. If you want to do anything, just do it.

There are many people who live in a stable State and do not understand our prodigal lifestyle. In their eyes, they envy our legends, but do not want to take risks. They drew a circle for their surroundings, and they could not see it themselves, but we didn't want to move into a stable State. People who broke their fingers all day long could see the circle around them, use a layer-by-layer label and desire to build a wall.

I often ask people: If you are not happy with someone, if you are not happy with your work, if you are not happy with your family, why don't you leave?

They told me that they are not allowed to leave because they have a sense of responsibility for their family members, fear of losing their jobs, and have a sense of reluctance to pay for their loved ones.

In their eyes, they must be associated with a person, a job, or a family to find a sense of presence. This kind of sense of responsibility, fear, presence, and perseverance is one side of the bricks in the wall, but they moved the bricks themselves, they are the people who have captured them in this dilemma. They don't understand, or they do, but pretend they don't understand. A simple and simple truth is that each of us comes to the world alone, an independent person. We are ourselves first, and the labels of our parents, children, and superiors. If you have never had a hard time in your life, you will not be able to return to the foundary.

Because in the future, they will attach all their hopes to the future. The elders will attach their children and women to their husbands, young people are appended to an iron rice bowl with a year-end bonus, four insurances, and no unemployment. Because the famous and rich ones from the ancient times are good. They would rather drop the needle to the ground, they would be scared by a big company, endure the complicated "no way" and long promotions, and never put in a briefcase in the middle of the night, as I walked down the deserted street, I asked myself: Is it suitable for me to have a stable reputation in the eyes of others.

A company is like a wife and a company is like a lover.

Unhappy office workers are divided into several types:

One is like a solver. I always stare at my eyes and only see the shortcomings of my company and my boss. I have met some frustrated people. Based on my experience, they may not be reused by the boss for a long time, because in their world view, they will only be picky about others and never understand what is "appreciation ".

One time, a friend told me in despair that he wanted to commit suicide because he was fired by the boss. In the surging traffic, I subconsciously pulled him back. I told him that it would be too cool to find a job if it was not satisfactory, and you were unhappy as I expected ...... He asked me why? I said: because you did not seek a job to be happy, but to make money, your goal was inaccurate. How can you be happy? Besides, I have met your boss. Every day I speak with my face and don't let employees get off work on time without leaving me. Such a company may squeeze the best interests in the short term, but it may damage everyone's confidence.

When we were eating grilled fish, he asked me how to choose my next job. I smiled and took a cup with him: Correct your problem with others first, do not always think that the boss, colleagues, and superiors are inferior to you. If they can start a company, and their superiors can be your superiors, there is a reason for them. You should first learn their advantages and wait until you have the same capabilities as them, which is the time for you to display your talents. When looking for a job, we always need to look at three items: interest, vision, and money. If you want the most, you can use the same item as your first choice for the next job.

I told him in detail that I generally don't want to make a big axe in front of Luban. I don't like good teacher, but I love to be tough. I said: A good company is "people-oriented". A good boss is good at conquering customers and controlling subordinates with his own personality charm. Such a company can develop for a long time. My boss in Beijing is a very attractive boss. I have a meeting to buy ice cream and cola for us. Everyone is walking up and eating snacks to discuss the solution. He once picked up a pot of Broken Flowers in the corridor and came back with a broom to make a bracket for the flowers. We laughed at him. He said, a pot of small flowers is also life! I have been working in this company for more than two years and enjoy it every day. "A good company doesn't need to use a high salary or a good job to retain talent. A loose working atmosphere, a fun career, a boss like a buddy, a good income, can keep a group of people and fight for him. Only when we are happy can we see a hundred times more potential ."

Another unhappy office worker is stable and high-paying.

If there is a particularly cheesy word, it may not be able to make dumplings. Because some jobs seem to have a high salary, many people flood into this industry, but this industry is also highly competitive. Some students are eager to be the host, people who are not familiar with big words, writers who are not good at dealing with people, and who want to make a sales spree ...... I'm not saying they can't do well, but if they say they can't race against normal people, they certainly cannot run normally. God is fair. Every one of us was born with "long and short feet" in some aspects. For example, I could write but I was physically stiff when I danced and play basketball, but I couldn't beat three shots at table tennis. What they should learn most is to find out their own strengths, rather than using their own strengths.

In addition to self-improvement, these people also have a characteristic that they are arrogant. Each of us has its own advantages, but too many people just stare at the shoes. When I was a manager, I asked someone a funny question: What do you think are your advantages? What are the disadvantages? Now, I want you to change your shortcomings into advantages. How do you evaluate yourself? Some of the candidates I interviewed responded quickly and said: Although I am slow in my work, I am working slowly. Although I am not good at talking about customers, I am very good at recording. You can take notes when talking about customers and come back to prepare detailed background information. I told those who interviewed with a pile of sub-certificates: Remember, we don't care who you were in the past, but we care about who you will be in the future.

A good leader also makes good use of the expertise of different people. For example, I am good at thinking about some ideas, but if I want to use a strong aura to hold down the negotiating representatives of some large enterprises, the boss will choose another girl after 90. The girl is very hot, very cool style, talking character, talking about customers, is bigger than who. But sometimes the boss will ask me to ride a horse if I want to play a warm card. I am a friend of mine, tell jokes, and tease me. To select a company, you must not only check whether the positions provided match your interests, but also whether your expertise can be fully utilized. The relationship between colleagues is also very important. I have a lot of good friends in my life who are switching from my old colleagues. A good job should give you a sense of belonging. Every colleague and you are willing to work with them as friends and sisters.

When I went in for three days, I began to talk to my colleagues, eat and sit on a table with no topics to chat with each other. When I had snacks, I could only secretly eat them in the drawer, the Director of old take the authority to press the lower level, the lower level and the boss talk is also tied, cold sweat DC company, will put people out of depression. Such a company is a real leader in capital homes and only knows how to squeeze the labor force of employees. Doing work should be a win-win situation. While you bring something to the company, they can also bring something to you. But in the Work View of such an enterprise, you just take time out of yourself and don't think about your feelings, you are just a pawn.

Judging whether a company is good or bad, looking at the boss's character, second, looking at the company's performance and progress space, third, looking at interpersonal relationships between colleagues, and fourth, looking at what it can bring to you. A good company is good at applying everyone to Zhuge and Liu guanzhang. Here, you will not be able to reap the plan, you can also get to know a group of friends who know Xiaoyi and xiangfudao in Taoyuan ......

There is also an office worker who will always live in the opinion of his/her parents. Their job is to arrange marriage, and they have been put out of impotence and premature ejaculation before they have children. If they can't cut the umbilical cord, they can only be an emperor in their life.

If a company is like a wife or a company like a relationship, we have to face each other for over a dozen hours a day. A good job will make you feel energetic at all times, such as beating chicken blood. After many years, you are still grateful to pat your chest and say: I met so many people and have done so many things. This is really the best thing to remember. If tomorrow is the day when white hair appears, I won't regret it either. This student was so cool ......