Why aren't nerds popular?

The real reason why nerds aren't popular is that they're thinking about something else. They are focused on reading or observing the world, not on dressing up and partying. They are like a glass of water to play football, while playing soccer, while desperately to keep the water spill. Other people are playing football in the mindedly, encounter such opponents, nature can easily beat, and the heart is also strange, how the other party is so incompetent.

Even if the nerd is thinking about becoming as popular as the other kids, it's harder to do. Because the popular children have been thinking about how to be popular, in the heart of the pursuit of this. However, the Bookworm from childhood is how to be more intelligent, the bottom of the heart is also the pursuit of such. This is all influenced by the parents, who are taught to pursue the right answer, while the popular child is taught to be liked.

So far, I've been using "smart students" and "nerds" as synonyms, as if they could be used interchangeably. In fact, this can only be used in such an environment as I have mentioned above. The so-called "nerd", in fact, only refers to the person's social skills is not strong enough. However, you need more "strong" social skills, depending on the circumstances in which you are located. In ordinary American schools, the standard of being a "strongman" is scary (or at least very special), even if you're not very "dumb", compared to being a nerd.

> The trouble is, the number of such people is huge. The popular student's distribution is not pyramid-shaped, but like a inverted pear, the bottom gradually narrowed. The number of the least popular is quite small. (I believe that in the table map we draw, we can call the table D, only the table where I am.) So the people who want to bully nerds are much more than the nerds who have been bullied.

keep your distance from the unwelcome kids and you'll be able to add points to them, so close to them will reduce your score. A woman I know said she had a crush on nerds in high school, but was afraid of being seen talking to nerds because other girls would make fun of her. Unwelcome is an infectious disease, although good children do not bully nerds, but to protect themselves, they will still stay away from the nerd.

> No wonder smart kids tend to be unhappy when they go to high school. They have other interests and no extra energy to make themselves more popular. You get what you have in other places and you lose it in this place. Being unpopular makes nerds a target for school attacks. Surprisingly, this nightmare scenario does not originate from any deliberate malice, but simply because of this particular environment.

For me, the worst day is junior high. The children's inner world has just formed, everything is very harsh, the difference between the smart child and the ordinary child, the human is slowly beginning to reveal. Almost everyone I've talked to agrees that the worst of life is between the ages of 11 and 14.

living in this twisted world is stressful not only for nerds, but for all children. Like any war, the victory side has to pay the price.
adults must inevitably see the children suffering. Why don't they do something about it? Because they think it's puberty. Adults say to themselves that the reason children are unhappy is because they have a new mass of chemicals inside their bodies-Hormones. Hormones are running in the blood, making everything a mess. There is no problem with the whole social system, and it is inevitable that the children will feel bad when they reach this age.

If you think life sucks, it's not because of hormonal imbalance in your body (which your parents believe), or because life sucks (you believe that). That's because you're no longer economically valuable to adults (compared to the previous period in industrial society), so they throw you at school for a few years, and there's no real thing to do at all. Any organization of this type is an awful living environment. You don't have to look for other reasons to explain why teenagers are unhappy.

I have made some harsh comments in this article, but I am optimistic about the future. The problems we find impossible to solve are in fact completely solved. Teenagers are not a scourge, nor are they born unhappy. This should be an encouraging message for teenagers and adults alike.

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Why aren't nerds popular?