You can't be strong because you're too comfortable.

I find that anything that is a bit uncomfortable can be trained, we can turn an uncomfortable thing into a habit, then you can not leave it, feel that this little pain is a bland life of a seasoning. This is not a comfortable thing to do, and good habits are made.

Wen/Wang Dan

A long career, for the enterprise, it needs you to become a professional, but from the perspective of career development, you need to become a versatile, to adapt to social change. Hinder you to become all-rounder bad habits have many, sometimes we like to avoid disadvantages, procrastination is to let oneself set up the goal is difficult to achieve.

from now on, you have to try to find all kinds of circumstances that make you uncomfortable, habits, don't be afraid of pain, accompanied by the emergence of pain, there will be room for growth . The new Year makes you stronger, and Wang Shi tells you five habits that have become stronger.

There are two kinds of people in this world, one is the strong, the other is the weak. The strong to find their own discomfort, the weak to find their own comfort. To become stronger, you must learn the necessary skills of the strong, that is, to make discomfort comfortable.

If you learn this skill, you can handle a lot of things, such as overcoming procrastination, fitness, learning a new language, exploring uncharted territory, and so on. But many people tend to avoid this uncomfortable, after all, no one thing is simple, all need to pay a lot of effort, endure a lot of pain, even to let themselves bruised and wounded.

I've always felt that we should make ourselves comfortable, but then I realized that some discomfort is sometimes not a bad thing. In fact, you can learn to enjoy this kind of discomfort, for example, I do some strength training every day, although this discomfort is not serious to my dislike, but people are such, can escape the difficulties, we always find excuses. I make a plan form that makes it uncomfortable to participate in my life and form a habit. Whenever I finish 15 primers upward, I will write 15 in the upper column of the primer, I will change the paper every month and summarize the situation last month. Inadvertently, a few months time I have done 1000 primers upward.

I find that anything that is a bit uncomfortable can be trained, we can turn an uncomfortable thing into a habit, then you can not leave it, feel that this little pain is a bland life of a seasoning. This is not a comfortable thing to do, and good habits are made.

The specific method is as follows:

Finding a thing you want to do will make you a little uncomfortable, but you'll get a lot of it when you're done. For example, fitness.

You can break this down into 1000 separate events to make sure that each event is within the level of discomfort you can tolerate. You can test your maximum tolerance, then subtract 20%, starting with this value. For example, I want to do 10,000 primers upward, then divide into 1000 parts, that is, 10 at a time.

Start doing it, and don't force yourself to challenge it as a pleasure. As you increase your capacity, you can gradually add weight, for example, after one months, you will be able to do 15, 3 months later, you can do 25. So, 10,000 seems to take 1000 days to complete, in fact, you might have done it in 9 months.

The essence of this method is to break down a great pain into 1000 small discomfort, then incorporate it into everyday life, cultivate it into habits, and turn discomfort into comfort.

We can use the above method to improve our ability, change some bad habits, cultivate some good habits.

1, the habit of procrastination . The main reason why we procrastinate is that we feel uncomfortable with what we have to do. So, our minds produce all sorts of excuses and temptations to make us do things that are easier and more comfortable. When we define one thing as "uncomfortable," we instinctively do not want to do it and try to procrastinate until tomorrow. But if we can break this pain down into 1000 parts and become tolerable, it becomes easier. We can draw up a form called "Overcoming procrastination". Every time there is an idea to procrastinate, do it right away, after completing the task on the form +1, when the completion of 1000 +, the habit of procrastination is eradicated.

2, the habit of fitness . We do not go to the gym because we feel uncomfortable, but if each time consciously let oneself endure some discomfort, will gradually improve their endurance, once we develop a habit, we will rely on this discomfort to their own favorable stimulation, let oneself feel more energetic.

3, the habit of reading . People who don't have a habit of reading think of reading as a very painful thing. If you can create a form, let yourself write +1 on it each time you finish reading a chapter. Gradually develop the habit, change to read a book +1, you will find that one months you can even read 5 books. Then reading will become less painful, and become a commonplace thing. When you can talk to others about your reading and your opinion, it will be a very fulfilling thing.

4. the habit of getting up early . To develop the habit of getting up early is to set up an early goal for yourself first. And it will make you look forward to the morning of the coming day. If you are a foodie, you might as well prepare a hearty breakfast before going to bed, and get up in the morning and make yourself a good breakfast. I set myself up to get up early to play for half an hour (amazing), which is very appealing to me. So, if I want to get up 6:30, then I will set the alarm at 6, and then get up quickly, boot time I will take care of brushing my face, then hot a glass of milk, while playing games, while listening to the English broadcast. In this way, I will not be comfortable to turn into comfort, so that very rare things become easy and highly anticipated.

5, the habit of writing . Read more If you do not write, you can not become their own things. If you can't speak to someone, you can't get corrections and feedback, or know what your point of view is. Writing is a good tool to organize your ideas, to sort out the points of your reading, to think about them, and to summarize them into your own words. In this way, logical ability and thinking ability will gradually strengthen. Of course, writing is a painful thing, you need to organize your thoughts, and organize the language to express them. Also, when you're on the computer, you have to rule out distractions, which is also an exercise for concentration.

Additional Information:

Comfort zone theory is proposed by the American Noel Tichy.

• "Comfort zone", for you is not learning difficult knowledge or accustomed to the business, you can be in a comfortable state of mind.
• The "Learning area", which has a certain challenge for himself, feels uncomfortable, but not too uncomfortable.
• "Panic Zone", beyond the scope of their ability to do too much business or knowledge, psychological feeling will be serious discomfort, may lead to collapse so as to give up learning.

For a person, the ideal state is in the "learning area", learning to have the appropriate challenges, a period of time, the "learning area" will slowly become the "comfort zone", "comfort zone" becomes larger, and a part of the "Panic Zone" will be corresponding to the "learning area."

You can't be strong because you're too comfortable.