Beginner's course-chat with girls, how to create topics

What's the secret to talking to women? Why do some men always talk to women, talking and talking, and some people can not arouse the interest of each other, even do not know what to say? Yes, many men are "saying" this part really needs to be strengthened ...

According to observation, some people are not the optimal conditions, but through superb verbal skills, they are more able to capture the hearts of women. I'm sure you've seen something like this happen.

French philosopher Voltaire said: "Give me 10 minutes, I just rely on this mouth can convince any woman." "Of course, we can't determine how much of this is boasting, but we can speculate that men's mouths seem to have a lot of potential," he said.

The question is, what are the qualities of a talking man? Is it to know the astronomy, the geography? is sweet talk, abduction coaxing? Is it crazy to go the funny route? Or simply be a "most loyal listener" and give comfort and encouragement anytime, anywhere?

First, you must learn the ability to "listen". Women hate the men who talk, inflate, interrupt, and talk about themselves from beginning to end. Because in the eyes of women, this is a feeling of insecurity at most, or else is thinking: "What do you want to prove?" ”

Women in the new age are smart. They watch too much and listen too much, what you say, where to discount, and what kind of person you are. After all, many women have developed their own set of rules to assess the authenticity of men.

Successful communication is two-way. Especially when a woman is willing to speak, you'd better listen carefully. A woman's willingness to speak to you does not necessarily mean she likes you, but at least you have made her a preliminary "trust." This relationship is stable when the attraction between men and women is based on a platform of trust.

Of course, one of the main purposes of listening is: collecting information. You can tell directly from a woman: what she desires, what she hates, what she cares about, and her attitudes and values about things. How do you do that? The key is to use open questions to guide women to speak.

For example, sometimes it suddenly gets serious: "What do you think is the biggest challenge for you?" "or" What do you think is the most important thing about a relationship? "or" I want to know what you think of life. What do you think people should pursue in their life? ”

This is the so-called "questioning" ability. You see, a successful host is a master of questions. I know that these problems at first glance are very serious, but if you can cut into the appropriate atmosphere, there will be unexpected effects.

In addition to collecting information, asking questions is also a key skill in creating topics and continuing topics. Many men are worried about no topic to talk about, the solution is to cooperate with keen observation, using the "Problem" way to guide the direction of conversation.

For example, to see a girl carrying a cute bag, you can naturally point to it: "Where to buy?" "When she replied that it was a trophy on a web auction, you could cut into the" web "theme, from auction fun to online romances and endless stories.

In other words, I think the topic of conversation is second, the real key is "atmosphere." Most of the time, I will not deliberately limit the topic, because I hope to create an atmosphere is very simple, that is to let girls feel chatting with me very comfortable, very not oppressive feeling.

But women want more than just the atmosphere, they want to meet the man who can inspire their thoughts. In other words, if you can publish your original insights in a timely manner, or point out the subtleties that have not been noticed, and describe the story in a similar way, you will give her an unprecedented throbbing.

1. What kind of work are you engaged in? (Why do you like this job?) What are the biggest challenges? What's the biggest setback? What's your vision for work and the future? ）
2. So far, what has been the success of the forest in life? (Is there any major setback?) ）
3. What do you love most? (Why are you interested)
4. What impresses you most recently? (or misfortune?) ）
5. What do you do with your work?
6. How do you like your holiday?
7. Want to be famous? Why）
8, if you have 1 million, how to use?
9, the family, you from small to large growth process, the situation?
10, the growth process, you have what personality advantages? (Are there any disadvantages of fear?) ）
11. What kind of relationship do you want to develop?
12. Are you romantic? (How romantic?) ）
13. What do you think is the difference between male and female?
14. What makes you happy?
15. What makes you sad?
16. What do you want to be when you grow up?
17. How do you think other people are different?
18. Do you believe in God? (What do you think of the gods?) ）
19. In what range do you think your personal behavior has an impact on changing society?
20. What do you think is the important event in our society? (What would you do if possible?) ）

Some of the above topics seem to be overly personal, especially for the first date, but remember, few people don't care about themselves, as long as they are not the same as the investigation account, who are happy to discuss their own problems.

And there are three topics that can be used on any occasion: food, family, and philosophy.

Probably Chinese custom, the protagonist of the first date should be the man, the woman is more reserved. The man should ask some questions to cause Shunxing. Both sides should avoid prolonged silence. The topic of the date, the best is to make the atmosphere can be happy topic, the content of the conversation requirements popular, ask short, to make the other party willing to answer, also can answer. Can talk about work and learning, hobbies, life trivia, do not make the other person at a loss and feel embarrassed, not to ask some make the other difficult to say the question. If there is no response to the other person's silence, you should change the topic quickly.

Both sexes can consciously make some self-introduction, including their own family members and personal hobbies, expertise, etc., but do not boast. Don't let it spoil the first date. Bad language can not be said, otherwise, will be seen as a disrespect to each other, uncivilized, impolite.

Date must be happy, happy mood and state of mind, because dating is not a class, no need to preach not to have a personality appeal, so the topic must be relaxed.

If she likes to make big talk, don't interrupt her remarks. Just be a loyal listener. At the same time, don't talk about academic topics yourself.

When it comes to dating, the best thing to do is to take the village around, for example, television programs, newspapers and other aspects of the social version of the topic, or related to music, the use of their lovely pets around like cats, dogs, tropical fish, pigeons, birds, such as to talk about easy and interesting topics, but also to narrow your strange distance.

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