Don't live too hard, you can't escape your destiny.

"Don't live too hard, you can't escape your destiny." "–van Wilder

This popular quote, for today's 20-year-old youth, seems to be to let them have no goal of free life, as far as possible, do not accept any guidance. As a workaholic, an entrepreneur, since I graduated from school, this sentence does not resonate with me, not only that, I am even very careful to live every minute, because I know, 20 years old, this is a very unique time of life, is not the other time in the lives of the replacement.

A friend recently recommended me a book, "The Definining decade:why your twenties Matter–and how to" the most of them now. After reading, I've never been more aware of the importance of my 20 years of age, which has changed how I spent the last few years of my life planning for the rest of my 20 years.

In the hands of a clinical psychologist, this book touches on the key points of our lives: work, love, and our bodies. There are a lot of ideas are very valuable, but the most touching me is the following three:

1 Your 20-Year-old has laid the foundation of success for the rest of your career.

No matter how long you're a bartender or waitress, and how long you think about your "entrepreneurial ideas" in your backyard, you're wasting your life and preventing yourself from moving toward a more successful, happier life in the future.

Maybe it's a happy time to be a waiter in Starbucks, but will your income support your future children? More importantly, do you really intend to do this for the next 10 years? If not, does your current job help you get to the threshold of the job you want? If you're not the founder of Facebook, Maybe you should consider a startup to start your career path instead of being a chick that never flies.

People are step by step. From the beginning to do those hard work of low-income, capacity more than more than a job, slowly get more and more opportunities. I have a master's degree and still need time to practice to get into the science and technology front. The internship allowed me to find a full-time job at a start-up company, and the founder of the company introduced me to Hiten Shah, who became my mentor, and now I'm developing product kissmetrics for his company. He is the most successful person I have ever seen running his own business, and he always starts with small things.

Experience: Don't delay your career. The sooner you get into an industry or the role you want, the sooner you can get a satisfying career.

2. According to statistics, women should have babies before they are 35 years old.

According to the authors, women's ability to conceive has started to fall sharply at around age 35. Worse, more than 35 years old, one-fourth of women will miscarry. This is a shocking data, I imagined a very easy to conceive but the final miscarriage of the scene. No one wants such a result.

The idea of setting up a family at the age of 20 is far from me. I put my career before everything else. But I know, I finally want to organize a family. When we know the statistics, we are more aware of what my choices mean and what I am doing now. That explains why so many entrepreneurs start building homes around 30.

Experience: If setting up a family is your goal in life, you will have less time than you think. If you are a man and want to marry a woman of your age, the steps of time are urging you, too.

3 Your brain is ripe and stereotyped at age more than 20.

I have always thought that the human brain has been stereotyped in children, from the age of 10 to thirty or forty, there will not be much change, after 4,040 began to atrophy. But it turns out that the human frontal cortex changes dramatically at age 20 and tends to stabilize at 30. Wikipedia says:

The frontal lobe (frontal lobes) function involves understanding the consequences of the future from the current activity, affecting your choice between good and bad activities, ignoring or suppressing unacceptable social responses, and identifying similarities or differences between events and incidents.

As a person aspiring to start a large company, I realize that it is now necessary to develop a large number of skills to lead such a company, because in a few years it will be difficult or impossible to learn as much as you do now. I've heard a lot of entrepreneurs who don't have the ability (or don't want to) manage the company after a certain size, and now I'm facing a huge challenge to improve myself and develop myself.

Experience: No matter what your life or career goals are, you need to realize that the skills and personality traits that you acquired at age more than 20 will determine the many abilities you'll have for the rest of your life.

There are few books that make me feel like I'm reading this book and doing so much soul-searching. If you are interested in these things, I highly recommend that you take a look.