Founder's lost Girlfriends: The biggest bottleneck is CEO time

Years later, when I put pen to mind, I realized that I had a private chat with Zhu, one of the most famous Chinese in Silicon Valley by selling 3.2 billion dollars to Cisco, which I founded, and had already laid the groundwork for the stories I had described in the years that followed. That day, I casually asked Zhu a question, you usually like to read what books? As a result, his words punctured the vanity of my profession. You, the so-called successful people you interviewed every day are actually the top of the Chinese pyramid, "he said," If you really want to know what books I usually love to read, my answer is the "novel monthly". What does it all say? A bunch of poor people think about how to sell pirated discs every day, how to make money. Good, why? Because this is the life of most people, this is the real China. "To be honest, the answer is quite different from what I asked most entrepreneurs. This, of course, is related to the legendary experience of Zhu: 10 Peasant life in the field of rice planting feces; After a few years to enter Zhejiang Agricultural University, the 30-Year-old began to learn English; at the age of 36, the gate of the first University of Business administration in the United States, the first contact with computers, 52-Year-old Internet news was acquired by Cisco acquisition of wealth. Without an early experience, Zhu might not be thinking about it from this perspective. Again, the stories I'm interviewing may not be familiar to most of the high-end readers of silicon, but they are real and even represent a group of people. He always asked me to discuss his company's business with him, I do not understand him to scold me stupid, I learned to put forward their own views he said I was wrong. "Wang Qing said she was going crazy: what does this man really need?" This is the Valentine's month of 2011, China is experiencing the most extensive technological entrepreneurial tide ever. In Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and even more second-tier cities, young people huddled around restaurants to talk about financing and projects everywhere. Previously, when the successful listing with Youku had set off a new wave of demonstration effects ", a few sentimental stories also entered the public view at the end of 2010: Tudou was caught on the eve of the founder's ex-wife interference"; Dangdang Guoqing Micro Bo revealed will invite first girlfriend to participate in the listing bell; Liu very touched: if one day Jingdong mall listed, He should invite his first girlfriend to celebrate, because Jingdong "two words originally from his and her name combined." An abstract and fashionable noun technology entrepreneur "from this to three-dimensional, their investment and financing model is the most future of China's entrepreneurship, a group behind them also surfaced, they are the Chinese business civilization process of the perceptual witness." But men from Mars and women from Venus "don't seem to fully explain all the emotional friction of entrepreneurs." Psychologists say: Entrepreneurship and working are two completely different mental states. How will intimacy be tested when conflicts in different worlds are concentrated in a couple or under one roof? Wang Qing, cosmetic salesman, 1985 stranger, distinguished from the successful founder, her boyfriend is the majority of Chinese entrepreneurs-they are still in goldThe bottom of the tower struggles or has not yet melted into investment. and Wang Qing of the confusion, how much revealed in the high-speed transformation of China, the entrepreneur this special group of a certain kind of people's inner heart secret. How big is this potentially morbid group of speculators? At present, the Chinese Mental Health Association and other institutions do not disclose the relevant data, but they show a similar face: In the madness of the persistent and excessive expansion of the selfish desires, when the two sides of the coin can not be effectively balanced, this selfish desire to consciously or unconsciously invade the relationship between the sexes, Walk in the boundaries of law and reason. At the end of 2010, after McCann won 3 million of the venture capital, Rebecca made a breakup. For the man, she had an inexplicable feeling: those experiences were unexplained and accepted by her experience, and she did not know whether to condemn, evade or help the man whom she had loved. A former electronic athlete, McCann, 32, is one of the founding shareholders, a role in the technical and capital-like pimps: Find a project and quickly package it. At the age of more than 20, McCann pulled a millions of investment and had a glorious experience after a broken capital chain. Before meeting Rebecca, McCann bought a game development team, in addition to working for a gaming company. There's a term in the game called Rush, which means to beat each other quickly, this has a certain risk, because pushed not to fall the other side basically was the other side down, McCann character has its ingredients-the company registered to the seventh month, he has not drawn to the investment, began to use monthly salary cushion for entrepreneurial team expenses; When the money was tight, he made a decision, The acquisition of another technical team in the South gives the team a better idea, but also faces the risk of losing money faster. In the days after the McCain financing, the network appeared before the company employees exposed its official website has false information. About the fate of McCann and Rebecca, the friends of Rebecca's opinions, but there is a little bit of the same--not so simple. When the big four accounting firms met McCann in the summer of 2009, he felt that the study-focused woman was different from other women: they knew nothing about the bag. But slowly, Rebecca felt repressed: they seldom had a whisper between lovers, he seemed only interested in his business plan, and his emails were filled with all sorts of questions. Apart from the frequent discussion of his entrepreneurship, it is emotional alienation. One day, Rebecca asked about his emotional history, and McCann said he hasn't had a stable relationship since I always felt I couldn't get married until I was successful. "Once, a hedge fund found McCann, want to use hundreds of dollars to get his game company's trade secrets, McCann is considering, Rebecca said not to do; another time, never used a smartphone when he saw a mobile internet research report, he quickly concocted a business plan, excitedly said quickly help me change. Some say McCann is smart, but Rebecca begins to look at him in a complex way: morality is a relative concept and only knows his bottom line when he goes through it, and Rebecca says she can't actually introduce him to any of her friends because she can't guarantee that he will hurt them. After endless quarrels,Up。 If you are in the United States, a company's code is dedicated to B Company, the first day of B Company will fire "he, and the relevant facts tell a company: If necessary, you can enable legal procedures." But in China, the contract spirit of one of the required business civilizations is not yet firm. At the same time, unlike the United States, the lack of complete and thorough due diligence by individuals or institutions before investing is also a breeding ground for McCann, they present the first category of pathological features: "Business and Intimacy", which are not important to them, but seem to be of great importance; Paranoid, he wants to be ' successful '! Bao son called, there are some of her feelings are very small benefits he will not let go, at the same time he is not sure whether it is a good opportunity will start to waver, disloyal. Boa thinks this man is delusional: really, it's a disease, not a joke. Unlike McCann, who is fond of capital politics, Barrow is a technical person to write game code, but the common point is that there are only two words in the brain, if it is four words, it is a night of wealth. Before he met Bao son, he had just been in love with four years girlfriend split leg. This is a lack of life, fighting can be one months do not wash the head does not bathe, Bao son use such words to describe him: a flick of the head, white snow floating down. For four years, the girlfriend took on all his life, but she often felt that he was not in the world, and Barrow was grumpy and always inexplicably angry. When he left a local company in Shanghai in October 2008 to enter a start-up company in the form of a technical shares, the salary was higher than when he was working. Rich ", desperate she did not say a word with Barrow's friend married. According to Baidu Encyclopedia definition, paranoia "refers to the existence of one or more non-grotesque delusions, without any other psychiatric symptoms, the patient's paranoid content in addition to the impact of personal factors, but also by social and cultural influence." Paranoia "for entrepreneurs may not be bad, may even be a positive word, there has been the realization of the phased success of the entrepreneur told me, entrepreneurship more than five years, his wife's favorite joke is xxx, you can temporarily return to any room?!" When he said this, the 35-Year-old had just finished a joke: The green sweater was in the wrong place, sitting in the office meeting. But Barrow embodies the second kind of pathological features: they lack the patience and awareness to communicate with their partners, and they need the absolute cooperation of their girlfriends ' mental and emotional. They also can't control themselves, and their mentality fluctuates with the surrounding situation. Insecurity, it is not from whether he has other women, but I have no idea what he will become the next day. "said the treasure son. Apart from getting up late to work in a PR company, Bao ER takes care of Barrow every day. Usually, he will work overtime to two o'clock in the morning more, when home will be a daze she accompany him to talk about the company. When she said she could not understand, Barrow lost his temper, and slowly she read the advice that he would enjoy, but no matter what she said, he denied it. One day the treasure son broke out: I am also very busy at work, do not come to talk to me about your work. "NoFor once she confessed: I am with you, whether you have money or not. However, Barrow did not seem to care, and began to complain that she could not give him spiritual support. That time I very inferiority, feel oneself how to do is not right. But what bothers the most is that the man always seems to be in bad shape. Barrow's low Ebb peaked in April 2009. When Barrow followed brother A to the start-up in 2008, the latter promised to give him a big dividend as long as the game was developed. But one day, he accidentally heard a June private talk: No matter from the strength or original intention, a June do not intend to make the game out. A-June role is a bit like McCann, the main manager of the server and client two parts of the team's title is CTO, but do not understand the technology is responsible for change. Barrow is the client boss, he always thought the game can be done. Now, a night of wealth "dream shattered. At this point, the company's No. 6000002-phase venture capital is in place, but this is the operating costs, he did not get anything. He wanted to go and reluctant, when there is a new venture company, he and treasure son began to discuss marriage, and back home. But when he returned to Shanghai, his mood was broken again: the company failed to set up because of the lack of funds. One day the treasure son is sick, lying in bed want to drink water, she asked him to help pour a cup, he played the game did not utter, three hours later up poured a cup of water. Boa said, can you pass it for me? He said it was too hot. Do you think the water is hot or not? She rushed down from the bed and grabbed the cup, and the water was cold, and she spilled water all over him and out the door. He quickly packed his bags and went back to his old home. In the middle, she flew past three times, but was never able to make a decision to go to that job. This is the most painful part of her love experience: After breaking up, she almost lay for a year. The biggest bottleneck of every startup is the CEO's time, and while these emotional friction cases are not the same, there is a common denominator: they are busy, easily angry and self-centered. I really hope you can resign to help me. In my case now, there is a particular lack of a helper I can fully trust. "January 2011 Night, Hangzhou, the women's website entrepreneur Fan S a dialogue with his girlfriend Lane, who works for the internet company. She turned him down, and she loved her work. This is the first year of Fan S entrepreneurship, and especially the kind of friction that belongs to the entrepreneur's feelings is slowly beginning to sprout in their relationship. When you start a business, communicating with your partner can be very important, but if we don't have a three-year relationship and have enough knowledge of each other's personalities and ways of speaking, maybe I can't understand her thoughts and feelings very well. "For the girlfriend's final decision, Fan S, although disappointed, but also agreed, as the hope of her resignation, he admitted that sometimes he will not be able to ignore or forget the woman in the Society of self-awareness, and beyond the ability of their girlfriends in her network of resources eyeing." They thanked the fatalistic grace. In Shanghai Jing ' An, a coffee bar, foreign entrepreneur Peter and I expressed his opinion: I think China is a very strange people. "In the description of Pete, this strange expressionChinese people always seem to think that their life picture should be two pictures, either a straight line, or a completely rising growth line, it is more difficult to face and accept the ups and downs of life. This also manifests in the entrepreneurial mentality, affects their jagged mood. Peter also thinks the Chinese have a complex emotional relationship. This is two different business environment and culture collision, but led a series of problems: In this free age, can love can not love, but if love, how should love? And if poverty is the root of all evils, is wealth the only value of life while entrepreneurship is creating value from poverty?