How to develop interpersonal relationship

On the road to success, connections are more important than knowledge. The highest priority should be developing relationships . "Don't eat alone (implies Eat Alone)" is a book about the 21st century rules of communication. There are a lot of practical tips that you can use to achieve success through relationships.

To retain the essence, here are the 106 tips summarized in the book. Practise these techniques slowly in practice, and let us become masters of Communication in life.

1. Help others succeed

The essence of socializing is to continue to use many forms to help others succeed. Share your knowledge and resources, your time and energy, your friends and relationships, compassion and love, to continue to provide value to others and to improve your value.

2, strive to make their own pay more than the return

Because you will provide value for others, others will contact you. So think more about others than yourself.

3. Do not keep

Don't think that friendship is limited. It's an investment, and it's going to roll over.

4. The key to success is generosity.

Socializing is not about convenience, but generosity.

5, clear your life goals

The intersection of your ability and desire is your inner passion. What's the most exciting thing about you? What do you think of time flies?

6. Know exactly what you want

The more you know what you want, the more you will find a way to achieve it.

7, accustomed to set up their own goals

The easiest way to make a difference is to set goals. Turn your dream into a goal in life and break it down into smaller goals.

8. Set up a plan for developing interpersonal relationship

There is a process to build a network of communication, your plan should include the following three points:

1. Your goal for 3 years, and the progress every 3 months.

2. List the people who can help you achieve each goal.

3. How to contact the persons listed in the 2nd.

Once you set a goal, stick it where you often see it.

9, create your personal "think tank"

Find people who are willing to help you responsibly. They are your "think tank".

10, before you need to build a good interpersonal network

Keep in touch as early as possible before you find yourself using someone else. It is important to treat these people as friends, not as potential customers.

11. Keep in touch with people you know

At first, focus on the people in your current network.

12, Bold

Courage is amazing. In order to develop the same two different people, probably only because the thickness of the skin is different.

13, willing to turn to others

Willing to take advantage of can create opportunities. You should be as willing to help others as you would like to ask others. Remember, be good at the worst intentions of others saying no.

14. Consider the harvest in the face of fear

When you talk to someone you don't know, you will naturally be afraid of the dilemma you can fail. This is a risky thing, there is a gain, and success must take risks. And nothing but mediocrity.

15. Respect Others

Respect each person, regardless of high or low.

16, Transparent

Opening up is a useful and very popular attitude.

17, make Friends

A sociable person is not "building a network", but "making friends". Extensive harvesting is the result of nature, and not carefully designed targets

18. Prepare for work

Who do you want to see? What did he say to you after I saw you? These should not be overlooked.

19. Know who you're dating

How do you have enough knowledge of the people you associate with, you can go into his field, professional dialogue with it. You can easily get compliments. Find a rich and deep common denominator, and you will be able to communicate easily and impress.

20. Understand the interests of others

Dog, you'll soon be a part of their lives.

21, never Eat Alone

It's easy to communicate easily when eating. Eating with others is an effective way to communicate.

22. Manage Your Information

Effective information management is important. If you are organized, focused, and insistent, no one will leave your network.

23. List

Sort out your list by your target categories, such as potential customers, potential employers, and so on. Not only to list the relevant units, but also to list the units with the right to speak.

24, Know your professional field of authority

To achieve your goals, you need to know who is best in your field. List the authority in the current field.

25. List the people you already know

List the people you already know: relatives, college students, past classmates, former teachers, former colleagues ...

26. Flexible Organization Information

You should be flexible in the way you manage your lists. By location, by industry, closeness ...

27, the use of other people's contact list, to supplement their own

The list of others is your resource.

28, the establishment of "people who want to know" list

Your list of categories can include "people who want to know", they are high level people and you want to know them in the future.

29. Contact a complete stranger (Cold call)

When you need to call a stranger, you are a little bit afraid. Just bite the bullet. I just want to be successful. To meet a new person is a challenge and an opportunity.

30, adhere to

If you are in contact with others, there is no answer. You have to keep in touch with them. You have to take the initiative. Even aggressive.

31. Contact someone with indirect connection (Warm call)

Use the following four rules to

1, the expression of reliability: Refer to the relevant person or unit.

2, put forward valuable: what can you do for them?

3, to inform the urgency and convenience: most of the cases, the only purpose of the sudden call is to make an appointment to meet.

4, ready to compromise the solution: the beginning of positioning higher, leaving room for discussion.

32, the doorman as an ally rather than an enemy

The doorman should also be respected. Don't annoy them.

33, never disappear

When setting up a social network, remember: First, never disappear. Disappearing is worse than failure.

34. Strive to remain visible and active

Fill your social, meeting, and event schedules. You have to stay visible and active in your start-up friends and relationships network.

35. Arrange a lot of things together

You have to work hard to connect with others successfully, but that doesn't mean you have to spend a lot of time. You can schedule the same event to save time. Invite all the people you want to meet.

36. Find Fun

Communication is fun, not a waste of time.

37. Share your Passion

Sharing interest is the foundation of any relationship. When you're really interested in something, it's contagious.

38. Emphasize time Quality

Friendship is based on the quality of the time the two sides spend, not on the quantity.

39, follow-up or failure

When you meet someone you want to associate with, let others remember you. Follow up is the key.

40, immediately follow up

You should keep up with them within 12-24 hours after you meet them. E-mail is a quick way.

41. Don't forget to follow up again

After one months, give someone another email. Keep in touch.

42. Take the time to communicate with others at the meeting

The meeting was always misunderstood as a place to find ideas. It's a mistake! The meeting has only one advantage: it provides a place to meet like-minded people.

43, do the meeting organizer

Don't just be a participant; Prepare the information in advance: Who to see, how to see, where to see.

44. Public statements

Speaking is one of the easiest and most effective ways to let others remember you.

45. Follow up as much as possible

Don't keep the whole meeting with your best friend. Follow up with as many people as possible.

46. Keep in touch with the Master of Communication

There are a lot more people than we know. These people are at the heart of every network. If you can make friends with these people. You connect with thousands of people, just through this one person.

47. As many acquaintances as possible

(acquaintance = a person who knows but is not particularly intimate)

Usually the most important people in our network are the acquaintances. Why? Because our closest friends are similar to what we know. So the more people you know, the stronger you become.

48, meet people in all fields

Not only do we know thousands of people, but we also know many people in different fields.

49. Exchange contacts with others

The most effective way to expand your circle of friends is to connect your circle with others.

50. Establish your Organizational Committee

Politicians have "organizational committees": groups of people working in various fields. If you want to reach out to the world in a broader way, find a key person to act as your "organizing committee."

51, improve your "language fluency"

"Language fluency": an ability to communicate confidently with anyone and in any situation. This is a common feature of many successful people. and the ability to get along with people is more important to personal progress than anything else.

52, to be the true self

To be impressive, being different is the key. To make a difference, you need to be who you really are. To be yourself is to be charming. Your uniqueness is your strength.

53. "Submissive"

The power of obedience is neglected by many people. Obedience to others is great when chatting.

54. Say the Truth

When you understand that the best way to break the silence is to speak your mind, it's not that scary to start a conversation.

55. Learn to use nonverbal communication

When someone sees you, it takes only 10 seconds to make a conscious decision about whether or not to like you. Such judgments are based on verbal communication.

56. Materials to be discussed

Be ready to talk about something. Focus on current affairs and develop some hobbies.

57, learn to listen

Understand others before you understand them.

58, must remember other people's name

Nothing sounds more comfortable than your name.

59, sincere

There is no doubt that to be seen by others as a special person, you have to make others feel that he is special in your eyes.

60. Try to find the power of others

When you first communicate with others, you can find motivation. Their motivation is generally based on three kinds: making money, finding love, changing the world.

61. Help others to realize their deep desire

The initiative to help others solve their key problems, can make them very close relationship.

62, let oneself become indispensable people

The importance of being indispensable. To be indispensable, you need to keep your information, social relations and goodwill to the fullest extent possible.

63. Think about how you can make everyone around you succeed

When someone tells you he has a problem, you have to think of a way. Solutions come from your experience, your knowledge, your friends, your helpers.

64, the initiative to provide help

Don't wait for other people to ask for help, be proactive.

65. Dissemination of knowledge

When you're not financially and well-connected, it's also possible to make a social profit. This is to be done through knowledge. It's easy to learn to spread knowledge in your network.

66. Be interested in others ' success

Interested in other people's success, you can be more successful in 2 months. You can also spend 2 years making others interested in your success. Dale)

67, occasionally small contact

80% of relationships are maintained only by small connections. You have to constantly contact, contact, contact ... Never stop. You have to keep the network for your people to feed, to ensure that it will not wither.

68, Repeat, repeat

There is a very critical way to get someone's mind to remember you: repeat.

69, the establishment of scoring system

Setting up a scoring system can make it easier for you to maintain relationships. Like what:

1. "Level 1 ″ at least one months."

2. "Level 2 ″ call or send an email at least quarterly."

3. "Level 3 ″ should be contacted at least once a year."

70, put the small link into your schedule

You need to incorporate small links into one of your work areas.

71. In the name of the individual

If possible try to make all the information in your personal name.

72. Don't forget Birthdays

Birthdays should be your best chance to contact.

73, and the "main force" to eat together

We have established relationships with older, wiser and more experienced people. These people are the "main force". Eat with them and recharge your battery.

74. Be an interesting person

In fact, everyone you see will ask yourself something like this: "Do I have to spend 1 hours with this guy for lunch?"

75. Be a person with content

Content is the professionalism of knowledge. Is the place where you are different. Let you have a unique brand of place. So have your own unique insights.

76, keep learning and share your content without reservation

To be different from others, you need to learn, share, and sell your content relentlessly.

77, get the content of others

Sometimes you can easily turn other people's ideas into their content. Then lead the sharing and application of these ideas.

78. Provide your own content

At other times, you have to spend your time providing content. You need to know all kinds of information and then string them up differently.

79. Attract Attention

A sympathetic chord will attract attention. What you have to offer is simple: a lively story.

80. Become an expert

The most common way to be a person who creates content is to be an expert. Do what experts do: teach your expertise to others, write to others, and say to others.

81. Teach you what you want to learn

Teaching others is the best way to learn and understand.

82, use the story to express your content

Powerful content is expressed in the form of a story, which helps to accomplish the goal. When you tell a story, use your feelings to convince those skeptics

83, the establishment of personal brand

A strong brand is very competitive, but it is always based on the value of the product rather than the way it is described. A good personal brand can do 3 things: Make others feel authentic, different, and trustworthy.

84. Make yourself Unique

Your brand expresses what you can offer, and expresses why you are special and tells others why they keep in touch with you.

85. Continuously add value

In becoming a brand, you need to focus on what you do and add value. This means you need to keep going beyond.

86, the establishment of personal brand logo

What do you want people to think of when they hear your name? Your brand logo should include all the words that are used when someone mentions you.

87, Packaging your Brand

To look valuable, you need to look bright and professional. So why not build a personal website?

88, promote your Brand

If you don't promote yourself, no one else will. Your success depends on how others recognize your work, and it depends on the quality of your work.

89. Keep in touch with the media

You need to keep in touch with the media from now on, rather than waiting for you to tell them when you really want them.

90, vigorously promote the content of information, not the author

What you promote to people should be your sense of purpose, not your pride.

91. Writing together

If you have poor writing skills, you can write with others. By writing together like this, you don't have much contact with people that can increase your interpersonal network exponentially.

92, write the article

Writing articles can greatly promote your career. Let you become a person's attention in a short time.

93, stick to writing to become a good writer

To be a good writer: "Write and write." When you've finished, keep writing.

94. Contact with Celebrities

You just keep in touch with the unknown? You need to focus on some important people, which can make a big difference to your life and your friends ' lives.

95. Build Trust

Trust is the key to proximity to these authorities. There is no ulterior motive in trusting you to contact them. Let people trust you and treat them like people, not stars.

96. Join the Association

There are various associations now. If you want to face the people who are influential, you have to be a participant first.

97. Set up your own club

Sometimes you have to take part in some valuable clubs that you can't attend for a variety of reasons. Why not have a club of your own? Develop your own promotional plan and create a new organization. Invite people you want to meet to join your organization.

98. Modesty

Arrogance is a disease, it will make you forget the real friends, forget the importance of friends. Remain humble as you progress. Help others to progress with you, even more than you.

99. Review your Past

Always review your past and keep in touch with people who are important to you from an early age

100. Find some Mentors

Find a mentor who has the material, experience, and willingness to devote time to helping you improve. Instead of deciding their career direction only on the basis of salary and prestige.

101, take the home of the long

Three-person line will have my division, you have a lot of people around to learn.

102. Establish Good mentoring relationship

Successful mentoring requires results and enthusiasm. The effect means you can let the teacher see the impact he has on you. Passion means that your mentor will invest in your progress.

103. Find some Disciples

When you are constantly striving upwards, be sure to go back and help others. You will learn a lot from your students.

104, adhere to the principle

Communication should be a move forward, not a backward compromise. You must not violate your own values by associating with people.

105. Don't try to balance your career with your private life

You should offer the same value to people of different customs. Instead of dividing life into two parts of working life.

106, to create a close friendship

How many people can walk into your home and open the fridge to find something to eat? Having close friends will make you happy.