How to get along with mediocre people?

How do you get along with mediocre in an environment where you feel like you're out of place?

Description: Freshman on campus.

After months of being with each other, found that the roommates are basically powerless people. I'm tired of getting along with each other. For example, I read to do a little excerpt, they will say "there is nothing better than doing homework." I often go to the library to check out the books, they think the clock can add credits. When I talk about sex, they feel incredibly sick and think I'm not educated. All the things they do are premised on the utilitarian purpose of seeing benefits. And I am very opposed to utilitarianism.

So how do you get along with such a group of roommates?

Because it is a person who is in the opposite, can not avoid contact. How to get along with them?

Charles Wang

Against the first answer to the current vote, and most of the answers under this question.

I think a good answer is objective, open and impartial, we can stand in their own perspective to express the subjective ideas inside, but should not be in the answer for the main problem to make value judgments.

At present, most of the answers to the central point of view is: I am very good, disdain and you these silly stoop.

I do not advocate this seemingly inspirational, but extremely extreme ideas.

There will inevitably be subjective tendencies and biases in the way everyone thinks and look at the problem, but the issue involves core values and the proliferation of knowledge about extreme elitism, and I think it is necessary for me to stand up and put forward some different ideas as opponents.

What is mediocre?

How to define mediocre?

What qualifications do you have to judge someone else's life to be mediocre?

I always think that people should not do is to label others, everyone is unique, you do not understand the life of others, do not understand the story of others, arbitrarily with your brief impression to the people around the measured, this is not a kind of arrogant prejudice?

I used to think that some smart and complacent, aloof, look down on the people around, think they vulgar, boring, low-level, rough. I often aspire to a more "advanced" more elegant life, as seen on TV as exquisite, elegant, noble ...

The people I regard as vulgar, I even look at them all feel sick.

Until later, when I began to grow up, I realized that the "elegant life" does not exist, and the former advocates of "elitism" in my heart is how narrow, thinking how extreme. This arrogance and prejudice, let me miss a lot.

I think a person, the most important prerequisite is to know how to respect.

Respect yourself and respect others.

Put down your mindset and be patient with the people around you, and you will find that they are not as vulgar as you thought.

Every day stupid is always fail the exam girl, may be in your dysmenorrhea pain to faint, carry you to the infirmary;

That is always a foul-mouthed girl, you may be bullied by the boys when the fierce protection of you, brave scold walk bully you people;

Only like to watch the Korean drama girl, will often pull you shopping, joking to buy clothes, familiar with a variety of brands, enthusiastic to help you choose the right clothes;

That usually only want to marry a good man to be a housewife girl, may often in your time when you need to silently prepare the hot water, so that you never worry about water ...

They may not be as smart as you, not as you have to pursue, but they also have their own joys and sorrows, also have their own small world.

Life, is to eat and drink Lazarus Sleep, whose life, all this. No matter how big the stormy sea, the end will be the dust settles, attributed to insipid.

We are all mortal, ordinary mortals.

The only difference we have is the kind of person we want to be.

But choice, never high or low.

You can feel that you are more pursue, life is more elegant, it doesn't matter. I think it's a good thing to keep a glorious hold on yourself, it will bring people joy, give people motivation, and make efforts to forge ahead.

But this is your own business, not that you read a few books, you can not see the people around, not you study hard, you can feel that other people's lives worthless.

You don't qualify.

You think you're a cool, sorry.

You think others are stupid, sorry, others are not so stupid force.

Our country's education, the attention is the skill training, but lacks the humanities education. That's why so many scores are there. I think these people are even scarier. A man with a high IQ, a high skill but a lack of humanistic care is terrible, our country has developed rapidly over the decades and built a strong country from the ruins.

But we are not happy ourselves.

At school, we all know that poor students do not have human rights.

But history, is by these poor students constantly write and change.

I have always been the nature of the aloof people, inferiority is also full of conceit. When I finally opened my eyes and saw the whole picture of the world, when I saw so many cows that I could not match, I knew what a truly noble soul was.

Understand, tolerate, respect, remain humble and curious, and love others as much as you do.

When you take care of everyone around you and be friendly with them, I believe that when you graduate from college for four years, you will be very, very grateful for the girls who have been with you for four years.

May the Lord have a good college time.

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Read everyone's comments, would have wanted to edit the answer, but later thought, it seems that there is no need.

The world is open and diverse. On the same issue, it is a good thing to have different ideas collide with each person who thinks.

I have had the arrogance of my own time, aware of this arrogant harm, it will blind your eyes, hinder your growth, so you often say to yourself, humility to humility.

Want to be a person who has the pursuit of ideals, do not need to compromise anything around, and do not need other people's recognition, determined to go their own way is good. Many people are not completely understanding about self-discipline. It was as if I had read about the story of Jesus being beaten to the left and the right face.

If someone is holding malicious, is to hurt you, how to do? There are many ways to protect yourself, but I hope we all can choose a relatively mature way.

How to become friends with strangers?

How to live in harmony with others?

How do you deal with people you don't like?

These problems may be our lifelong need to learn, and the relationship with others, but also to a large extent determine whether we are happy.

People are older, tend to become more tolerant than before, a lot of things can not understand slowly understanding, accept things slowly also accepted, character will gradually calm down.

Because through more things, met more people. No longer as young as the impatient, sharp and mean, encounter with their own differences will be rejected and opposed.

Some people say that the answer is too chicken soup, meaningless. But I believe it is meaningful for some people. At least for myself, it means a lot.

In my eyes, to be a better person is to be motivated.

You can become stronger, more attractive, more energetic.

The most important thing is ...

You and the people around you will be happier.

Finally, I would like to ask:

The world is full of malice, bad people, ugliness, darkness, they will hinder you, taunt you, hurt you.

Are you in this environment, and will you try to stick to your own pursuit? Once hindered, will be defeated and can not stand up again?

Or do you not work so hard, then have the pursuit ... Objective factors are just excuses you use to escape your weak and powerless?

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@ The beginning of the sword: clear-cut disagree, because there is no operability.

Secretary：

I thought about it, but then I thought there was no solution. If the discussion of operability, the more specific, quantifiable, detailed method, the more operable. I do not know the subject, I do not know her specific circumstances, and even do not know whether she described in the question is consistent with the actual situation.

So, how do I propose operable suggestions?

This problem is not like a math problem, or a technical issue, unlike binary only 0 and 1, variables too much, fuzzy place too much.

I don't quite understand why the people I know now are holding a narrow mentality to look at different answers, with their own mind, praise, not with their own mind, opposed to, encounter different answers, the first thought is not to stand in different ways to look at the problem, but to find ways to seek loopholes, in order to oppose.

People come to this site, not just want to see the larger world, to become a better self? Just looking at other people's answers, and expressing approval and disapproval, means that you are thinking too?

Look at these comments, what are you talking about? How many are expressing their emotions and how much is being discussed rationally.

If someone in the comments asked: I respect my roommate, but they really often repel me, bullying me ... Then listed a number of specific cases, to find solutions, I think I and other friends, will be happy to give specific operational advice.

The purpose of coming to this site is not to agree or disagree.

And when faced with an answer to a question, never expect it to solve your problems once and for all.

You all want to pursue quick-fix drugs, and I can responsibly say no.

If you're just waiting for someone to feed your food to your mouth, you've seen more answers than you know.

In this question, I carefully read every comment, agree with, oppose. What are their reasons? What do they mean by the omission? What is the logic that they support or oppose? and whether the logic I have described in my answer is rigorous?

Many many deficiencies, although not 1:30 will be able to improve, but still have a lot of harvest.

I think I answered this question and learned a lot.

So, what about you?

Pujiang

This year I am a senior, I freshman that will live next door to the same as you now think of classmates.

Four years, he was far away from his so-called eager, mixed eat dead roommates, every day to go to the library to read and learn. I would like to say that the main point is that the dormitory 5 people do not have a reason for him, is this okay? Yes, you are, you are very good, you get scholarships, you graduate to find a good job, you mix well, you have a room with a car.

But, how about that? In the future, the dormitory will not call you a few parties! What's your mood?

I would like to say

Your roommate is playing lol every day, before you go out to study, take a look at his record, curious to ask what the hero called, he will be happy to tell you, even if you are the same as I think Annie magnified the bear is a wild monster .... And then when you go out, he's going to charge you to chill out and put on a little more, and then he'll beat his lol you go to your library.

Your roommate is willing to watch the yellow film in the bedroom, you do not look, you come back from the library when they discuss the full swing, you can also lewd smile, said you these perverts, and then everyone haha a laugh, each other, and then each busy their own.

Your roommate is good at flattery and utilitarian. And you indifferent to fame and wealth, disdain this. He worked hard to get to the president of the student Union, could you please invite him to dinner and celebrate him, even if you don't like it, but he is your roommate.

Your roommate says you're wrong, that's no use. Would you please tell him to laugh at his big neck and say your uncle? Then you guys are playing with each other. Do you have to contend with him? Who's right and who's wrong? Maybe you say, Oh! I don't want to talk to that guy, but I want to say, is that really good?

Your roommate is willing to play mahjong in the bedroom, you sneer at this, suspicion they noisy, suspicion they smoke? Do you want to tell them that the dormitory is the place of study, not the place where you play mahjong? I tell you, if you say so, you will have no friends. People will think you are a sentimental force. And your sentimental will spread to other people's ears. You don't like to hang out in other bedrooms. What, you want to sleep? You said to a man on the Mahjong table, "Brother D" I'll go to your bed and lie down. He promised to say go, lie down. If you're close enough, you can even go straight. (because he knows how to disturb others in your bedroom) do you think that's good? Or do you want them to play somewhere else? Upstairs is also very good, if 23 lights, the library can be opened to 22 points, you want to learn, learn more for a while back ah, can delay you to less time?

There are many more examples ...

You think about it, in the morning you go out to study, you are behind those who play lol see yellow film playing Mahjong brothers say I go ah, you play. They all looked up and said, "Go, bye." Is that good? Or do you have a bad look on your shoulder and don't say anything about it? You may still insist that the low-level people do not need to indulge. But you know, four years in college, you might be the only roommates.

Four years will soon pass, who and who have not stumbled. You must have intolerant heart, seriously you lose. This answer is my intention to write, I hope to help! Some people do not look as radical as you are, but 30 years east of the 30-year Hexi! They are not motivated, temporarily can not explain what! Maybe he took you as the most iron brother!

I don't really understand.

Then I read the answer three times carefully. I probably understand. I can only say that your focus is wrong, I describe a picture. I am not hypocritical to please who! Just because I remember playing with people, my roommate was the first to rush up, I remember I have no money, they all invite me to eat, there are many examples ... Even if they are not motivated, I will never frown, because we are brothers. As for the hypocrisy of what you say. I'm really curious what's the name of the hero in that game? He's a chairman, and I'm happy for him!

Thank you very much for your approval, and for your friends who have questioned.

Do your own thing, no one to stop you;

No one despises you at all.