It practitioners, do you think your life is a job?

I would like to ask you how much time each day is working? Are there any other activities outside of your work? In response to these two questions, among the various types of people we surveyed, we found that the higher the middle class, the more often the answer to the second question was vague and less operational. In this category of people, the IT practitioner's answer is the most worrying, their daily working hours often more than 12 hours, and outside the work, their activities are still hi~ O (*￣▽￣*) ブ to the computer unexpectedly occupies more than 75%. I would like to occupation of life, has been real happening.

Occupation invades the life, is becoming our life the war. This is the social transformation of the collective symptoms, no gender, no class, work first, life second, as the workplace unspoken rules are stipulated. Almost every one of us is going through this.

In a small survey of visitors, we were surprised to find that the higher the middle income class, the higher the rate of occupation encroachment, and in this group, it practitioners are the most serious. has been working for more than 7 years, senior programmer Hanqing, once in a consultation, clearly said, he had just entered the time, day working hours, once reached 20 hours.

"It was young and enthusiastic and responsible for the work, and it really took 20 hours to get to work, otherwise there was no way to go further and soon be replaced by better employees." ”

However, after such a long working hours, why do we allow our careers to encroach on our lives?

Lin, who works in sales at a well-known software company, said one day, Zhang Wen with his office suddenly said to him, "I don't think I have a life." Lin recalled that day, and felt himself frightened out of a cold sweat. He did not think, strong, unyielding, always motivated Zhang Wen will say this sentence. And this feeling is so much the same as yourself.

This is the same as the lunch that is never fixed at noon every day, the plan that does not finish at night, and the rhythm of "flying" on the same day between all parts of the country. This is also determined by their role, they are the backbone of the company's business. No one knows why, every day, there are countless things to do.

"You look at the 4 floor office girl, every day have time to dress up beautifully, after work is not to go there to play is to eat here." What's left of my life? Party, push it off. Films, books, put on hold. Annual leave, void. And in every 24 hours, to lose enough sleep, to reduce the number of children and families to do less than the obligation, the rest of the time is only work. This almost boundless responsibility and pay, eventually accumulated into a mood: not happy!

Are all robot-like it people

Hanqing jokingly called themselves such software programmers as "class robots". "Only when I am a machine can I stick to it, in fact, I do not know how I stuck to the present." ”

Similarly, in the mouth of the same work is interpreted as: "We this kind of person, also inferior to the robot, the robot does not eat, does not sleep, can at least not feel tired and tired, but we are has the feeling flesh and blood person, therefore we will be tired, but did not shout stops the right. Now, the result is that I do not know what is tired, do not know how to stop, more do not know what to do after the stop. ”

And Lin said: "I doubt my life." This is boring, boring, no temperature of life. Is this really the life itself? But why do I look at people in other industries who are alive? Where did they get their time from? Lin even believes that the money that is earned is meaningless in a state where no one shares happiness or pain.

Psychology that the deepest, most important emotional appeal is intimate relationship, without it, work to achieve high achievements, can not let their real steadfast, stable. Unfortunately, "I want to establish intimate relationships, but it's too much trouble." "It's even harder than overcoming a technical dilemma." And a long time no communication career, but also bring it practitioners increasingly troubled interpersonal relationships. In order to escape this inability to face loneliness, for the satisfaction of self-worth, like addiction, more and more focus on work.

And in the rapid development of the modern society, everyone agrees with one thing: not desperately, is abandoned. In the rapid development of information technology in IT industry, even if you do not have to work hard, the daily working time is not determined by their own, as the market is a certain screw, to keep spinning to make "value" to maximize the "realization." But it is so, occupation not only violates our life, but also violates our life. This is not alarmist talk.

In the article "IT" Citizens "health dilemma" in the paper, once clearly provided such data: There are data shows that the public security, IT, culture and performing arts and other occupations have become "overwork death" of the incidence, "dead" when the average age of 44 years, which the IT class is the lowest age, just 37.9 years old.

The body has had to stop, do not cooperate with the way to warn us, why we still think, "free" and "empty" state, is so unacceptable, no sense of value? Who put such ideas above life?

Slowly agree, gradually tired

Osho said that the most perfect existence of life is to be ourselves. Unfortunately, because of the high degree of recognition of the social values represented by the profession, we do not even know what we are doing today, and how much we have in our own nature.

In the position of Vice President of the company sat for 3 years, Lu Anyu more and more think of their own university. He used to be so free, love to play, love to joke, dare to speak out, hate the casual. And after graduation, he from the most basic programmer to now become the company's vice-president, all the way tired of the crawling over, let him increasingly converge on the real himself, even from the dress, can be seen, casual, stylized dress almost no longer wear, all by exclusively dark gray, ink-blue stereotypes makeup-and this was his most hated. His college-age girlfriend had left him since he had worked 2 years, and since then he had never had a decent partner to call his girlfriend. From the initial hatred of irresponsible relations to the present one-night situation has become his normal life, Lu Anyu gradually doubt, this is the former self? Once upon a time, the man on the campus, and the days when the friends were called, suddenly became the one who is now in addition to the company.

Looking for a counselor to help Lu Anyu at least to recognize their own situation and problems, more people? In their position, when the professional role as required, we must learn to accept as soon as possible. But if you are not alert to acceptance, and do not draw a line, these requirements will invade our hearts. In the IT industry environment can be used in bad word to describe the present, the bottom line of the grasp and understanding is more important. When we are overly agreeable to professional requirements, we will bring our professional values into ourselves, thus affecting our daily relationships. The damage to the relationship can be irreversible-and each of us, in fact, needs to get support and energy from these relationships that are vital to us.

When we learn this, we will know how the more and more deep feelings of oppression and the inability to resolve loneliness come from, and it is like a snowball, and the greater the feeling of exhaustion and powerlessness. The more we identify with our professional values, the more we feel powerless and weary. More and more pressure is carried on, more and more difficulties are being stretched ... The last crush, must be ourselves.

In the current industry environment is not perfect more unhealthy IT industry, each practitioner should be deeply aware of the value of this industry, and constantly reflect on its aggressiveness, and constantly strengthen their own bottom line. Every person's life is not equal to work.

Each person's growth first shapes our self-awareness. And then, and the omnipresent social requirements of the community, will be in our body that free "child I" tightly. That nature to relax, naughty, like happy "Child Me", living in a strong "society I" judge, demand, control, no pleasure space in the inner world.

When we are in the IT industry and use this industry as a pretext for our deep work and avoidance of relationships, we are forgetting our original self. and a person separated from the inner self, destined to be more and more tired, doomed is not happy.

It practitioners, do you still want your own life = Work?