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Face the same person every day, face the same thing every day, still have to deal with the same work every day, do you feel a trace of fatigue and slack in your heart? Plain life is not too much waves, the rest of life is to repeat. Day after day, month after January, year after day, maybe you are bored with life, feel boring to work, we all need some inspiration, from the heart, from the outside, adjust their emotions to better integrate into life and work.

Admin5 Forum November 4 Thursday Edition chat event will ask psychology teacher-ning teacher, teach us how to effectively manage their emotions, face their own inner needs and voices. This article in the collation of some of the key points, welcome to discuss.

Q: I have participated in the work more than a year, when the work of the time to make achievements are very happy, work is more passionate, but the work is more flat, the results of the work is more balanced, with the passage of time, less passion, the power of work is small. The work of the high emotional less and Ning teacher for many years, I would like to ask, how long to maintain a good, positive working state?

A: A person's sense of achievement is more a result of their own evaluation. If we do the work is to better obtain outside recognition, will also get a certain sense of achievement, but will change with the changes in the external standards of Evaluation!

Especially at the beginning of the work, the results are relatively easy to get more outside praise, natural will be more sense of achievement, and to the later stage, the extent of the increase will be smaller, so the chance of getting external identification will be reduced, the sense of achievement will be weakened. Therefore, to learn in their own heart put a steelyard, here have their own direction, their own ideas, their own views of the practice, when they have a firm understanding of their own, it will not be entirely to the outside world to prevail. People say I am good, I am also very happy, others say I am not good, I also do not mind.

There is also a possible reason, perhaps we feel that external concerns are on my score, and I this person is not very good attention, which actually indicates that I am outside the work of another part of the need for attention! So boredom with work is often not really boring to work, It is the emotion that shifts over the neglect of other needs. So you need to ask yourself, what kind of things to do, you can make yourself happy? Who in life do you think ignores yourself? What can I do for this?

When your emotions are relatively large, this is a very good understanding of the internal needs of the time, ask yourself why uncomfortable, this discomfort can do what to ease? And then use the appropriate expression to let the surrounding people understand. Try to do this first, it may be a little difficult at first, after getting started, you will find it clearer to see people and see yourself.

Q: Hello guests, do the website, we always get up early to sleep late, all day have to stare at the site, staring at traffic, users, analysis of the site's prospects, the most important is the direction of the policy, always make people in a very tense working condition, is there any way to alleviate this situation in the work, or what regulation mode?

A: Hello, high-intensity work is very good for training people, however, if excessive strength, it may make people feel too much pressure. Like a rubber band, pulled up to the limit and then relaxed, and then pulled up, the elasticity will increase, but if you do not open up for a long time, and then let go, you may find that its elastic failure.

So your question is very good, that is how to pull up in the process of moderate relaxation. There are some very simple ways but many people will not want to do, because it is too simple, but in fact it is necessary: such as looking out of the window, see the vast sky, feel the connection between themselves and the sky, and slowly imagine themselves into the sky, and the sky, and then back will feel relaxed some; For example, you can revisit the photo with your girlfriend, imagine some good emotional time, many experiments prove that when people's hearts full of love, the state is more relaxed, so, if the middle and girlfriend through a telephone, to some sweet dialogue, is also a tension in the transfer of goods; and some can find two of their favorite songs, If the venue is appropriate, let go of the voice and sing two songs is also very good, can release accumulation squeezed in the body's emotions, and can go out for a lap, or do some simple yoga action, feel the computer outside the air, their own body and so on, are also a kind of relaxation.

These modes are based on different configurations, choosing the right way to fit in the present. Play your creative, as long as life has color, it will be a good way to reduce stress! Come on!

Q: Ning teacher, I just graduated, in the society, in the company can not find their own position, although the bottom, but I am not high, to maintain life is good, but every day is the same work, the company meeting is also the core staff, this time the heart is not the taste, what should I do? started to change jobs frequently, Now the salary is enough basic living expenses, again jump seems impossible. I want to Shenzhen, Beijing development, but can not do, I am now in Wuhan! network situation not good? Thank you, teacher.

A: The question we need to face is, do we turn our talents into real life values? Enterprise is not a comprehensive display of talent stage, it can only let us a certain part of the talent show, some other talent temporarily not to use, we need to help ourselves to find the stage to show it!

From the operating point of view, whether you are a steed, pull out the slip is true! If we have enough faith in our talents, we will find the demand point of the enterprise and then do some beautiful work for their needs, so that they can know themselves. This fast-paced world bole is often very busy, need a lot of steed to recommend, Cheer for you!

At the same time, personally feel you also need to set a goal for yourself, no goals, you may not have a sense of achievement in the work, because always feel like working for others! Ask yourself what kind of person you want to be after ten years. Then do not be too anxious to stage the goal: in order to achieve this goal, five years later, What kind of person do you want to be? What are the conditions for a year for this purpose? What can be done now? Then, start, go, work for your dreams!

Q: Hello Ma! I'm talking about my problem. My present life is comfortable, eat and drink not worry, but because of some reasons, the cause, the love aspect does not have the bigger and better development opportunity, the rational judgment, I This life also has the most food and clothing to be carefree, other aspect will be very bleak.

At present, I am only very mechanical to live every day, with reading novels, watching sports games and other ways to pass the time, and occasionally miss my favorite people. I think it is meaningless to go through this day after day. Although, the idea of not committing suicide, after all, psychological also understand to take good care of parents. But I think I have a very boring, not the fun of living, you can tell me whether there is a mental illness, sub-health is certain. Let's all be laughed at!

Answer: Dear Friends:

Your question will not be laughed at all, because many people will ask this question and congratulate you in a certain time, because you have to "upgrade" on the way of life!

As a child, we learn a lot of things in order to show their own, get other people's recognition and praise; At a certain time, if we just want to, to identify and love, we will always have hunger in the heart, this time, that we are not hungry, but too full, need to transform, learn to get things, into the support of others, the power to love others, so that the law of conservation of energy, there is harvest, there is a pay for the life is complete!

Think about how you can make people happy around you! Be able to take care of yourself, that you are a person with sufficient ability, I wish you the ability to make more people around, but also can bring you a greater sense of value!

Q: Teacher, I now work every day, work, almost no other things, I am also a network worker. I also want to develop an interest, and then study hard, so that life is more colorful. However, every time I want to do something, do not insist, lazy, perseverance is on the one hand, I also feel that they do not have the potential, the ability of their own self-confidence, every time halfway, the negation of their ability is also a large one, will feel that their efforts have no results, so give up.

In life and work contacts, in some respects, I also do not self-confidence, such as with colleagues, I am not good at communication that, I also hope that with colleagues good, but the heart always told me, I am not good at communication, colleagues also slowly alienated. Want to ask teacher, how should I develop self-confidence?

A: To develop self-confidence, it is important not to label yourself, saying "I am not good". When you have this hint in your heart, how much effort is useless, because you will take the initiative to learn from the information to prove your point of view.

But the good news is that you've found this negative, hypnotic word, and now maybe you can try to say to her when you see the sad, frustrated ego:

"I accept what you are now!" I know you've been trying so hard, no matter what the results are, you have made the best choice on the basis of the past; now you are no longer alone, no matter whether others understand you, no matter whether others can really see your merits, I understand you, support you, and always with you. I will accompany you to explore better ways. ”

This word to continue to say, and then help themselves to sum up experience, and then a little improvement! People are not born to be perfect, the most valuable thing is to see their own shortcomings there is a willing to learn the heart! The most important thing in life is that you accept yourself, love yourself, no matter who gave up you, they can never give up, insist believe! A bit of progress!

Q: Teacher, self-confidence and inferiority, saying is a thing of the two sides, self-confidence is too much inferiority is it? I feel that I am a little inferior, for example, I am too fat, I do not want to play with a very thin friend, because taboo oneself fat. I also know that this is not good, but subconsciously, still will exclude that part of the friend, which has a negative impact on my work and life.

I want to ask the teacher, what can I do to overcome such inferiority? The book says overcoming inferiority is to face the problem, but even if I face the reality, I still taboo this question. What should I do? Ask the teacher for guidance.

A: Truly confident person, you and he will feel his strength, but will not feel oppressed! True self-confidence, is to believe that they are good, but also trust others good!

So the best way to do it is to go out and show the best part when you get to your stage, and to be on stage with all the support and applause! Anyone's different, is not used to say who good who bad, no absolute good, no absolute bad, used in the right place, are good! Because of you. , will have "we", different people can have a team and family, will have a dynamic world.

A: "When you get to your stage, you go all out to show the best part of it, and when you get to the stage with all the support and applause," Thank you, teacher, because I didn't recognize the stage of myself and others, I always confused my position. Later, in their own stage, I fully deduce their own wonderful, on other people's stage, I try to be a warm applause of the audience.

Q: All said that their "website" is their "girlfriend" like, I encountered in most webmaster forum such a problem: most of the webmaster, can be said to be most, due to their own body reasons, is "webmaster" this occupation, long-term contact with the computer, a little "home". are grassroots webmaster, are more than 20-year-old people, no girlfriend, or for this "webmaster" and girlfriend relations and so on, how do we deal with such a problem?

A: Good question, but everyone's situation is different, if you think you do not need a girlfriend is also very good, then do not need to deliberately do what ah! If you think you need a girlfriend, ask yourself what you can do with your girlfriend. What do girlfriends need? Look at the exact contradictions in the middle. Then specific questions can be specifically said Ah!

In fact, I want to all the webmaster men say a word, there is love relationship, someone's life is a good way to reduce stress, spend some time on the girlfriend, will let you back to the cause when there are more power and passion Ah!

Q: Teacher Ma, what do you think happiness is? 100 spectators, 100 Hamlet, 100 persons, there are 100 definitions of happiness. Teacher Ma, what is the happiness in your eyes?

A: People in the world, no matter what they need, money, love, health, or other, the final layer of need only two: be identified, be concerned. So happiness is two things: the greatest value to achieve the meaningful things you want to do, and the people in love together!

Ning told us about self-confidence, about passion, about happiness, about the many aspects of our own needs, we often feel depressed, depressed, unsatisfied, perhaps because the need for attention is not enough. We should face up to our inner needs, listen to our voices and be a person of spiritual pleasure. If you have other wants to communicate with MA teacher, can go to her blog blog.sina.com.cn/maningxinling interaction, can also in MA Teacher's new book "Quit Love Hurt", "establish rules in love" to find answers to questions. Hope that the above version of the issue of the collation can be a revelation to you, please continue to pay attention to the A5 forum every Thursday afternoon to organize the edition chat activities. (Wen/Meng Jiang finishing)

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