On the ground a dime not pick up, online a dime why Rob?

In a lecture, a friend asked: "On a regular basis to those who never contacted the phone, and have no words to talk, how to do?" "The audience thought it was funny: no topic, why do you want to contact?" Think carefully, and feel very reasonable. Apart from the people, a long time did not contact to forget. But there is no condition to take care of carefully, had to focus on a regular task. Even if there is nothing to talk about, but also reluctant to continue. This is a bit absurd: relationships are inherently a demand, but now it is a perfunctory task. I'm afraid it's not a relationship with the internet age. Because the exchange of information is too fast, the cost of human communication is almost zero, the Earth has become a village, and our social interaction is beyond the circle of daily life.

Turn over your mobile phone address book, micro-mail, mailbox, MO, count how many contacts do you have now? Anthropologist Dunbar, who had calculated the upper limit of human social ability based on the ape's intelligence, could maintain a stable relationship of not more than 150 people, the famous "Dunn number". But today, more than that number.

Not because we have a larger brain capacity, but because there is a simpler technology, it is the point Zane mass. It doesn't take time for the fingers to move, and hundreds of people can get a reminder that you haven't forgotten him. In my opinion, the "point of praise" is a milestone node in the process of the network relation to the reality erosion. The reality of interpersonal relationships beyond the human brain can handle the limits, have to rely on network means to maintain. There is no doubt that it will eventually become as buoyant as all virtual relationships, without quality. It's like someone lost their wallet, missed the train, sobbed in a circle of friends, and some people desperately praised it.

The connection between people is thus diluted by the network. You mass, I point praise, although not necessarily acquaintance, but each other does not have to waste life, but also can harvest the illusion of interpersonal connection. Two-phase convenience, but also two phases of emptiness. In this era, the list on our address book is getting longer and shorter, and the chances of each other's love are getting smaller. Online in full swing "Rob red Envelopes" activities, is in such a background, suddenly hot up.

I think that red envelopes are never an economic behavior, but social behavior. So this article is mainly aimed at micro-letters and other social tools such as the mind of the robbery, do not discuss Alipay and Weibo. The former is a financial tool, the latter is the media, do not know why they want to wade into this muddy water. -Of course, there's a red envelope and I'm going to rob it.
Red envelopes are because of the fast Spring Festival. In fact, not only the new year, weddings, will use red envelopes (funeral called Shanyi, but with the essence of the red envelope is the same), the common characteristics of these situations are: people converge together.

People are gregarious creatures, this is the characteristics of the evolution of thousands of years, never change. When I was a child, my family lived in a cottage. A blackout, our first reaction is to open the door to go out. Neighbors also appeared and confirmed to each other: "Another blackout?" "Trouble!" "Although I am young and in a crowd, I feel a sense of peace of mind." Think about it, if one day the neighbors are all not at home, a person is not, what kind of panic? Nature is so natural: big things, emotions, together always have a better feeling. In ancient times it was singing and dancing around the campfire, and now it's a dozens of table at the hotel. The form is changing, the essence will not change.

Note that in these rituals where people come together, there is a link between sending and receiving red envelopes.

This link is very serious, said it is the finishing touch is not too.

Why serious? Because red envelopes are money. It certainly has a lot more to pay than a verbal sweet talk. As a very formal, "weighty" social behavior, it gives a serious certification of the quality of interpersonal connections: Look! This is real gold and silver! Even if we don't have a close relationship, I take you seriously! This solemn degree is second only to oath. The person who collect the red envelopes is happy, needless to say, the person who sends red envelopes actually also very happy. This behavior allows both sides to confirm: "We are connected, I am not alone."

But now, the micro-letter and Mo to move this behavior online, what does this mean?

This shows that people in the online relationship, also need a bit of real gold and silver certification. There are groups on the web, which is a unique form of assembly. But it is not the same as the reality of the rally, the lack of that breath to smell, can make people feel "peace of mind" entity feeling. As I said before, the network relationship is buoyant and has no quality to speak of. Lively is lively, but it is difficult to have a human: hundreds of of people, at any time people are talking, sometimes I have to block the beep tone. I can see that my heart cannot be pinned here. Often also typing, but not because there are hundreds of people do not know where, may receive (also may be blocked off) My message, there is peace of mind "in the crowd" of the steadfast. But once you get to the offline party, you'll feel warm. Online lively, sometimes really superficial layer of skin, lively finished nothing. The emptiness or emptiness. It's better to be multi-pronged. Otherwise, New Year's Eve everyone in the group Lele is good, how many people have to go to Waitan to join in the fun.

In this case, the micro-letter proud of the "acquaintance social" is a setback. The stranger is from zero relationship into the network relationship, micro-letter is the "real relationship" into the network relationship, although convenient, not necessarily a good thing. There's a couple sleeping in a bed, still in the micro-group. You talk to me in a word. This reminds me of the time when I was addicted to BBS in college, and our mouth grew on the keyboard. A post on the version: Cold, go to close another reply: Shut yourself! ...... We call this "irrigation," and close the door can be several screens of water.

I don't think these products are unaware of this and they are certainly considering further breakthroughs. Otherwise, just like the BBS of the year, from the lively pole slowly lost popularity. The micro-letter is fine, after all, there is a real connection after the ebb tide. Like the group, usually because of interest or geographical location together, especially the need to have a sense of reality of the media to confirm their relationship. According to my experience, this kind of relationship develops to a certain stage, the user typing is tired, will begin to have a reflection: "Play until now also very boring ..." unless a few offline parties, otherwise, only on the network of information exchange, like drinking seawater thirst. No matter how much to share, how much praise, and how many people in the group gag, the heart will still be missing a piece. This piece, is a human.

It's time for people to end their year's work and start to gather together. This time, especially highlights the network interpersonal nothingness. In the early years of the tradition, can only be mass text messages, or in the group copy paste send blessings. Year Eve, Brush screen (that night mobile phone can only mute); First, brush screen, 15, brush screen ... But who really took it seriously? In the days, is not the reality of the walk of relatives and friends is serious?

The convenience of the network is also the limit of the network. It's too easy to be taken seriously. Two years ago there is a popular phrase: "Mass message I do not return." You are not more serious anyway, why should I be sincere to treat?

So at this point, humans--perhaps first product managers--thought of red envelopes!

Red envelopes, Red envelopes is a kind of expression of sincerity Ah! In the online relationship, we can't pass the temperature, the eyes, the care (not the verbal), we can pass only cold data. All right, let's try to get the data a little warm. In the end, we really have a temperature with the data, is money.

Because is the real money, I send out the blessing will not appear weak feeble;

Because it is the real money, diving users are blown out;

Because it is the real money, I finally found the reason for bubbling;

Because is the real money, does not have the words also does not have to worry about being kicked out by the group;

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In the final analysis, the red envelopes on the Internet are different from the red envelopes in reality, but they have interlinked elements. In reality, the red envelope is a formal interpersonal contract, and the online red envelope is a continuation of the network irrigation. But this irrigation, how much is a little realistic. It's a favor from the Internet. Why do not pick up a dime on the ground, a dime on the internet to rob? What we grab is not just that dime, but some kind of confirmation after the connection.

We are connected in a spell, connected in Solitaire, connected in a hands, connected in a guessing number ...

What about a dime or a dollar? The important thing is that it is true that my interaction with others is true! This reminds me of the Spring Festival Garden when I was a child, the prize is worthless, but I always get more happiness than money. It should be a good thing for the new Age people to come up with this way of connecting. The internet is getting better. Strangers, through the network to meet, intersect, and even in the distant mountains of the situation, through a little money exchange, feel the goodwill of each other. But I still have a bit of concern about this kind of network: Will it become more and more powerful and one day people will forget the importance of face-to-face? The new year when each of them immersed in the mobile phone, can immerse in the online friendship, and ignore the reality of each other partition? Perhaps the most ideal state, is to be able to walk relatives and friends, send and receive the reality of the red envelopes, and occasionally a net, and the group to play a game of red envelopes.

If you are in the group to open a red envelope, suddenly feel the long absence of festive feeling, this is not because of your greed (total only how much money?) But it is because it arouses the longing for the connection that lurks in our hearts. We have succeeded in finding a way to add a bit of reality to the network relationship. In any case, this is much more sincere than the Zane mass. --Write the full text, especially feel, if the praise into a red envelope that much better.