The confused girlfriends of the founders

Yang Birch "He always asked me to discuss his company's business with him, I do not understand him to scold me stupid, I learned to put forward their own views he said I was wrong." Wang Qing said she was going crazy: "What does this man really need?"　　"This is the Valentine's month of 2011, and China is going through the broadest technological entrepreneurial tide ever." In Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and even more second-tier cities, young people huddled around restaurants to talk about financing and projects everywhere. Previously, when the successful listing with Youku had set off a new wave of "demonstration effects", a few sentimental stories also entered the public view at the end of last year: Tudou was listed on the eve of "interference"; Guoqing Micro Bo revealed will invite first girlfriend to participate in the listing bell; Liu very touched: if one day Jingdong mall listed,　　He should invite his first girlfriend to celebrate, because "Jing Dong" two words originally from his and her name combined.　　An abstract and fashionable noun "technology entrepreneur" from this three-dimensional, their investment and financing model is the most future of China's entrepreneurship, a group behind them also surfaced, they are the Chinese commercial civilization process of the perceptual witness. But "Men from Mars, women from Venus" don't seem to explain the full extent of the emotional friction of entrepreneurs--psychologists say: entrepreneurship and working are two completely different mental states.　　How will intimacy be tested when conflicts in different worlds are concentrated in a couple or under one roof? Wang Qing, cosmetics salesman, 1985 Stranger, 26 years old this year.　　Unlike an entrepreneur who has achieved a phased success, her boyfriend is the vast majority of Chinese entrepreneurs who are still struggling at the bottom of the pyramid or have not yet been able to invest, and the confusion of Wang Qing has revealed the inner secrets of this particular group of entrepreneurs in the fast-changing China. How big is a possible "morbid" group of speculators?　　At present, the Chinese Mental Health Association and other institutions do not disclose relevant data, however, they show a similar face: In the "Not Madness survival" of the persistent and excessive expansion of the selfish desires, when the two sides of the coin can not be effectively balanced, this selfish desire to consciously or unconsciously invade the relationship between the sexes, wandering in the boundaries of law and reason. At the end of 2010, after McCann won 3 million of the venture capital, Rebecca made a breakup.　　For the man, she had an inexplicable feeling that her experience was beyond explanation and acceptance, and that she did not know whether to condemn, to avoid, or to help the man whom she had loved. A former electronic athlete, McCann, 32, is one of the founding shareholders, a "pimp" role in the technical team and capital--to find a project and then quickly wrap it up. When he was more than 20 years old, he pulled a millions of investment and had a glorious experience, after the collapse of the capital chain.　　Before meeting Rebecca, in addition to working in a foreign-owned gaming company in Shanghai, he bought a game development team and placed them at people's Square. There is a term in the game called "Rush", refers to the rapid victory over each other, which has a certain risk, because push not to pour the other side is basicallyThe other side down, McCann character has its ingredients-the company registered to the seventh month, he has not yet invested, began to use a monthly salary cushion for the start-up team; When the money was tight, he made a decision to buy another technical team in the south, which gave the team a better idea, but also faced the risk of a faster money loss; a few days after McCann's funding was in place,　　On the network appeared the company's former employees exposed its official website has false information. About their fate, Rebecca friend opinions, but there is a basic consensus-not so simple.　　When "workaholic" Rebecca met McCann in the summer of 2009, he felt that the woman who focused on the financial statements was different from other women: "They know nothing about handbags." This is a long-distance love, he is very busy, she is very busy, love has become the important sustenance of her life. But slowly, she felt depressed: they seldom had a lover's whisper, he seemed only interested in his business plan, and his emails were filled with all sorts of questions.　　This way of getting along with her because of work related to Shanghai has not been spared, in addition to frequent discussion of his entrepreneurial, is the alienation of emotion. One night, Rebecca asked about his emotional history, and McCann said he has not had a stable relationship. "Because I always feel I can't get married before I succeed." I also know that I am very selfish with them. I can be tolerant or even tolerant to them, but I am also extremely selfish. "McCann had a lot of women, but it didn't seem to have happened.　　Rebecca, who couldn't stand the snub before he rushed to his buddy, asked him if he was gay.　　He gave Rebecca the money.　　Once, a US hedge fund found McCann, wanted to use hundreds of dollars to get the trade secrets of his foreign game company, McCann was thinking, she said she couldn't do it, and another time, never used a smartphone. After he saw a mobile internet research report, he quickly concocted a business plan, excitedly said "help me change."　　Some say McCann is smart, but Rebecca begins to look at him in a complex way-"morality is a relative concept, only to know the bottom line", Rebecca says, in fact she could not introduce him to her friends because she could not guarantee that he would hurt them. After endless quarrels, it is breaking up. In private, McCann's friends gave her a new definition of the relationship-"It's inevitable, it's just a matter of time, and he has always had a problem with his feelings; "In the past the frequent friction, McCann had left a sentence:" Other women are cheated also doesn't matter, you are the kind of husband who broke the law will be the first to send him to prison!　　But after the breakup, he said, this is one of the most rational and thoughtful women he has ever met. In the United States, if employees change jobs and dedicate a company code to company B, the company B usually "Fire" him on the first day and tells a company about the facts: "You can enable legal proceedings if necessary".　　But in China, the contract spirit of one of the required business civilizations is not yet firm. At the same time different from the United States, the lack of complete and thorough due diligence by individuals or institutions before investing is also a breeding ground for McCann, they present the first kind of pathological features--"operating" business and intimacy with speculative thinking; feelings are not important to them, but they seem to be important; they have many women, but they never seem to have them. Delusional patient "He's too trying to ' succeed '! "Bao son called, there are some of her feelings are very small benefits he will not let go, and he is not sure whether it is a good opportunity will start to waver, disloyal." Boa thinks the man is delusional: "Really, it's a disease, not a joke." Unlike McCann, who is fond of capital politics, Barrow is a technical person to write game code, but the common point is that there are only two words in the brain, if it is four words, that is "overnight wealth."　　Before he met Bao son, he had just been in love with four years girlfriend split leg. This is a lack of life, fighting can be one months do not wash the head does not bathe, Bao son with such words described him "a shake head, white snow floating down." For four years, the girlfriend took on all his life, but she often felt that he was not in the world, and Barrow was grumpy and always inexplicably angry. When he left a local company in Shanghai in October 2008 to enter a start-up company in the form of a technical shares, the salary was higher than when he was working.　　"Rich", desperate she did not say a word and his friend married.　　According to Baidu Encyclopedia definition, "paranoia" refers to the existence of one or more non-grotesque delusions, without any other psychiatric symptoms, the patient's paranoid content in addition to the impact of personal factors, but also by social and cultural influence. "Paranoia" for entrepreneurs may not be bad, or even a positive word, there has been a phased success of the entrepreneur told reporters, entrepreneurship more than five years, his wife's favorite joke is "XXX, you can temporarily return to any room?"　　When he said that, the 35-Year-old had just finished a joke: he was wearing a green sweater and was not aware of it, sitting in an office meeting. But the Barrow embodies the second type of pathological features-their lack of patience and awareness of communication with their partners, the need for their girlfriends to be mentally and emotionally matched, their inability to control themselves, and their state of mind, "insecure, not from whether he has other women, I had no idea what he was going to be like the next day.　　"said the treasure son. Apart from getting up late to work in a PR company, Bao ER takes care of Barrow every day. Usually, he will work overtime to two o'clock in the morning more, when home will be a daze she accompany him to talk about the company.　　When she said she could not understand, Barrow lost his temper, and slowly she read the advice that he would enjoy, but no matter what she said, he denied it. One day the treasure son broke out: "I am very busy at work, do not come to talk to me about your work." More than once she confessed: whether you have money or not, I am with you.　　However, Barrow did not seem to care, began to complain that she could not give spiritual support. "That time I very inferiority, feel oneself how to do is not right." "But the most annoying to the treasureThe heart is that this man always seems to be in bad shape.　　Barrow's low Ebb peaked in April 2009. When Barrow followed brother A to the start-up in 2008, the latter promised to give him a big dividend if the game came out.　　But one day, he accidentally heard a June private conversation-whether from the strength or the original intention, a June do not intend to make the game out. A-June role is a bit like McCann, the main manager of the server and client two parts of the team's title is CTO, but do not understand the technology is responsible for change. Barrow is the client boss, he always thought the game can be done. Now, the dream of "one night to be rich" is shattered.　　At this point, the company's No. 6000002-phase venture capital is in place, but this is the operating costs, he did not get anything. He wanted to go and reluctant, when there is a new venture company, he and treasure son began to discuss marriage, and back home.　　But when he returned to Shanghai, his mood was broken again-the company failed to set up because of the lack of funds. One day the treasure son is sick, lying in bed want to drink water, she asked him to help pour a cup, he played the game did not utter, three hours later up poured a cup of water. Boa said, can you pass it for me? He said it was too hot. "Do you think the water is hot or not?"　　She rushed down from the bed and grabbed the cup, and the water was cold, and she splashed the water all over him and out the door. He quickly packed his bags and went back to his old home. In the middle, she flew past three times, but was never able to make a decision to go to that job.　　It was the most painful part of her love experience--after the breakup, Rebecca Lay for one months and the treasure lay for a year.　　The biggest bottleneck of every startup is the CEO's time, and while these emotional friction cases are not the same, there is a common denominator-they are busy, prone to getting angry and self-centered. "I really hope you can resign to help me." Now, in my case, there is a special ' helper ' that I can fully trust.　　"January 2011 Night, Hangzhou, the women's website entrepreneur Fan S a dialogue with his girlfriend Lane, who works for the internet company. She turned him down, and she loved her work.　　This is the first year of Fan S entrepreneurship, and especially the kind of friction that belongs to the entrepreneur's feelings is slowly beginning to sprout in their relationship. "When you start a business, communication with your partner can be very important, and if it's not that we've had three years of love and have enough knowledge of each other's personalities and ways of speaking, I may not be able to understand her thoughts and feelings very well," she said.　　"For the girlfriend's final decision, Fan S, although disappointed, but also agreed, as the hope of her resignation, he admitted that sometimes he will not be able to ignore or forget the woman in the Society of self-awareness, beyond the ability of his girlfriend in her network of resources" eyeing. They thanked the fate of the grace, and in Shanghai Jing ' An coffee bar, foreign entrepreneur Stace to reporters expressed his views-"I think China is a very strange people." "In the description of Stace, this strange expression in the Chinese people always seem to think that their life picture should beTwo pictures, either a straight line, or a fully rising growth line, it is difficult to face and accept the ups and downs of life, "This is also reflected in entrepreneurial mentality, affecting their jagged mood."　　He also thinks the Chinese have a complex emotional relationship. This is a collision of two different business environments and cultures, but leads to a series of problems--in this free age, can love can not love, but if love should be how to love?　　If "Poverty is the root of all evils", is wealth the only value of life while entrepreneurship is creating value from poverty? (all the characters interviewed are aliases)