What else should we teach the kids?

Preface: (This is not a chicken soup article, may also choke people, so like to drink chicken soup to seek positive energy can be a detour, save you my two obstacles, mutual look unhappy. This is not a parenting sutra, may also have some anti-tradition, so the child-rearing people also please take a detour, save you my two harm, mutual look unhappy. )

decade, Bainianshuren. What else should we teach our children besides the traditional knowledge and virtue education?

In my opinion, we should also tell our children to learn to understand life. Parents are responsible for providing and educating their children, but they should let them understand and understand the world and the times we live in. Of course, this is not to preach you to teach your child to be a little nosy when you are young, nor to preach that you should tell your child that he cannot run without money. These words should be learned and understood in society, not mainly from the mouths of parents. It is reasonable to say that the children learn how to be a good person in their parents and how not to be a bad person in the society.

But as parents, the life of the clutch, emotions, poor wealth, affection and love to explain to children to listen to, let them understand that there are many helpless, many limitations, many involuntarily-for example, why I can not like XXX parents let you live in a big house to buy toys to eat a large dinner to travel abroad For example, why I can not like the parents of XXX to accompany you up and down to learn to do homework, but to play in different places, such as why I want to filial piety your grandparents Grandma and grandpa, such as why we can not according to your meaning to buy you that toy that set of clothes that a few dishes.

Poor and poor reason, rich truth, only to let the child fully understand life, can from the source to solve the child's exclusive little Emperor consciousness, can really sensible. Whether the child is sensible and the family is not necessarily good or bad, poor home out subsemigroups more. The work should not be done by the school or the teacher, but by ourselves. However, some parents forget to do, some parents do not want to do. They always give their children a world that resembles fairy tales, and in turn headaches children who are spoiled.

In my opinion, we should also tell our children to learn to forgive and understand. This is not a black-and-white world, many things difficult to use right and wrong, good or bad to distinguish and define. Telling children to learn to be tolerant and understanding helps them to understand life better and to avoid unnecessary problems. Don't make a fuss about telling children to see transvestite, sloppy tramps, homosexuals, dress up for someone else, physically defective people, trash bins and begging people.

Of course, this first requires that parents do not. I have seen too many parents for fear that their children will miss these "strange Phenomena" to guide their children to see or not to say that the children do not know where to laugh at the point of their own must loudly repeated explanation. In the children do not know how to ridicule and imitate those people, some parents not only do not stop, but feel that their children learn very much like, after the fun to let children over and over the performance of their own and relatives and friends to see. This indulgence and encouragement will only make the child think that this behavior is correct (at least) later will continue to even more, laugh at classmates, neighbors, passers-by. Do you know how much this behavior should be?

Very impolite, low quality or second, how to ensure that the object of ridicule by the child is not because of excessive attention or deliberate imitation, demonize and angry, and then make some drastic action? Are you sure you can follow the kids? Even if you can, can you guarantee that all situations can be controlled? Look at the Ma event and know how important understanding and respect is for interpersonal and personal security. However, some parents forget to do, some parents do not want to do.

In my opinion, we should also tell our children how to deal with the sudden loss of parents. The ability to protect oneself is not born, but needs to be nurtured and strengthened. After the child has certain cognitive ability, must develop his localization ability, no matter where to play, first through the nearby landmarks, the geographical sign and so on to really own position, for instance I in the Park East Gate, I in the square Central fountain, I in the Zoo Tiger Garden and so on.

Second, he should be trained to remember his parents ' name and his family's community and building number.

Third, to train him in the contingency after the accident, such as lost parents should stay in situ or look for uniformed personnel and have a fixed place of work to help (usually go out to play should exercise this point, pointed out that security, traffic police, conductor, newspaper kiosk (kiosk), etc. can be used as an island after the lost, Wait and ask for help (Request a broadcast, etc.).

Four, you have to tell the child, after discovering the child with lost after your usual practice, such as will go back to the original road, will ask for help from the site management, never ask a stranger to help bring the child back. This allows children to deal with a psychological expectations, not panic, for exceptional situations will have a certain alert heart.

Five, introduce the regular contact of reliable people to the children know, such as colleagues, friends, classmates. The purpose of this is to ask them to take care of the children at a time of need. At the same time tell the child, no one else is not authorized by parents, can not easily believe.

Six, teach children simple temptation. For a stranger who claims to be a parent or friend (relative), teach a child to test with words, such as "Dad said your rabbit is good, can I play?" "(In fact, Dad never said that) or" my mother had an operation, I want to go to the hospital to see "(in fact, mother is not sick at all), the general malicious people to get the trust of the children will probably climb the pole, the seriousness of the description of their own rabbits (or other pets) or surgery can not visit and so on.

Children will be more vigilant if they realize that they are not right. However, some parents forget to do, some parents do not want to do. In my opinion, we should also tell our children to stay away from those who are eccentric and abnormal, and not to talk to strangers casually. Many parents think that children's cheerful personality is a good thing, always put the ability to talk to outsiders as a measure of the development of children's personality indicators. In fact, this is wrong, especially before the child is three years old-15 years old without a complete independent discernment. A lot of trafficking, kidnapping children from the first and the child set near start, slowly know home address, home phone, family members and other information, to each other posing as an acquaintance to take advantage of the machine. In addition, always let the child to talk to strangers will let the child form the habit of picking up casual people, this is a small part of society to retaliate against social groups to take advantage of the machine, out of thin air to provoke trouble for themselves.

I have seen the talkative child actively chatting with the mentally ill, and have seen the children playing with the homeless after school. It's not that these people are dangerous, but as long as these people are dangerous, it's hard for them to retreat. Most of the time, we should tell children to meet the alternative, abnormal behavior of people should be at a distance, far away from, see a stranger accosted, only need out of polite nod a smile, met constantly afoul and close to the people, only smile do not speak then an excuse to walk away is the best way.

The person who likes to drink chicken soup always thinks this kind of idea is too dark very disagree, yes, I believe this society good person is many, but undeniable bad person still exists, and a more noticeable fact is, the society's bad and mental patients are more and more. As long as you meet--even if the odds are low--it can cause a lot of trouble for the kids. Why risk it? However, some parents forget to do, some parents do not want to do.

In my opinion, we should also tell our children to be a law-abiding person and to lead by example. I have seen many children with parents and the elderly unscrupulous red light, go to the roadway, turn railings, public places, the subway (fare), the Library (bookstore) Tore books, etc., I have seen a lot of thieves at the time of the crime also take the child to cover even and children to work together, Wild flowers and wild berries from children in green spaces or other people's homes also encourage children to be able to do so. I've also seen parents take their children in line and scramble for some unimportant giveaway. Some parents, perhaps unconscious, may be the heart of the real idea, for children to rob (destroy) Other children's toys, bullying other children complacent, think it is capable. Ask, children grew up in such an environment, how not to subconsciously think these are very normal and even very fulfilling? And expect him to be a good boy out there? How can I expect him to be out of the money and do not think that out of the house do not pick up a loss? See how many traffic accidents and personal accidents happen each year, how many young people fight and take drugs every year to see how many criminal teenagers are from irrelevant to take the white without taking the start to take it. Don't say they are not sensible, because we have not taught them how to be a good baby. Perhaps we can not do not to good small but not for, but not to evil small but it is necessary to do. However, some parents forget to do, some parents do not want to do.

In my opinion, we should also tell our children how to deal with and deal with special accidents, such as being kidnapped/abducted/lost/trapped by accidents. No one wants this to happen to them, but no one knows which day it really falls on his head. The escape from the flood fire and the common sense of self-help must be taught; The temporary cooperation with robbers/traffickers to avoid personal injury skills are also necessary (pretending to be scared silly also do, pretending to be afraid to cooperate with the line, in short, do not forcibly resist or behave too smart);

The trick to try to escape/help/Leave clues is also to be taught; These skills are best spent in a lifetime, but must be remembered for a lifetime. The Monkey King so big skill, the observation world tone still had to give him three lives to help the hair, not to mention our own child? These things in the usual time to see the news by the way, can be said to be a lift. However, some parents forget to do, some parents do not want to do.

The last thing to say is that, in fact, compared to get ahead, Jackie Chan into the Phoenix, most parents are more expect children to grow up safely, happy to old. Peace and happiness, seemingly fate of Providence, in fact, can not be separated from the education and training of the small family. Rather than expect the child to be able to ooze without staining, or Ponte Marto not to help straight more reliable.