When Weibo meets Mom and dad

For their relatives in micro-blog attention to their own opinions, so the 20 students have been adjusted, survey shows: 13 students think that defending their privacy, resolutely do not give. 5 students said they would give, but should be open to another trumpet. 2 people think Weibo can communicate well with their parents. It is obvious that want to let parents know their own things are very few. Here's a real case.

　　Yang is 13 years old this year. Early this month, hobby brush Weibo Yang found himself often published a microblog, recently, Yang routinely issued the day's first micro-blog:"Today's sky as always haze, my mood also with the low to the extreme." The

Soon, a few comments immediately under his web page, "You have to study hard, the weather haze will pass sooner or later." "Don't you want a math test next week?" Looking at these didactic comments, Yang not hesitate to pull them into the blacklist. As long as a micro-blog, will receive several fixed micro-blog users of the comments, at least 10 per article.

At first, Yang thought it was his own unique microblogging content that triggered the interest of netizens, and whenever someone commented, he was excited to communicate his feelings. Lately, however, Yang has become increasingly aware of the clues.

Yang's father is on business all the year round, Mother Yu is a full-time mother, and her daily "priority" is to take care of his son's study and life. But since Yang to junior high school, Ms. Yu found that her son's achievements began to decline, the character is increasingly withdrawn.

"Before school, he likes to pester me to talk about school and teachers and students between the matter, now, ask what is not scoop." "Anxiety, by a friend to remind, Ms. Yu enrolled in the current young people keen microblogging, and the first time to search out the son's account."

A look to wake up, Ms. Yu found that the son this time in communication with the computer, at least 4 daily update of micro-blog, one of which actually wrote, "You can't say a few words, every time go home nagging, collapse." ”

Last weekend, relatives and elders a group of people to Yang home. Chatting, aunt casually, "your microblog content how can not be clearer" questioning, make Yang angry. In his many "questions", Yang's mother, aunt and aunt admitted to his attention quietly.

At the end of the family reunion, Yang a few "suspicious objects" on the microblog to the blacklist. Do not know, found not to see the son Weibo, Ms. Yu again to peer identity application for an account, however, the paper can not wrap fire, this practice was cautious yang see through.

Until yesterday, Yang was still sensitive to Weibo fans and unfamiliar responses.

Yesterday, Chongqing Morning News reporter to Bashu Middle School, Chongqing One, Nankai Middle School, 18 middle, Pine Bridge Middle School 20 junior Middle School student, on "whether is willing to give the microblog account to the parents" topic launches the investigation.

City Concord psychological consultant firm Deputy director, parent-Child and EQ education experts Huanhua that the long-term lack of parental love to the child lacks the strength, the heart is not strong enough, as well as in the replacement of the detail, the mother of the high expectations of children is caused Yang relationship with the main cause of the rift.

Huanhua suggests that it is advisable to browse children's tweets to learn about their children's psychological dynamics when there is a barrier between parents and children, but it is best not to comment, especially to avoid didactic comments. "I do not agree with the Yang mother to communicate with him on the internet as a child's peer, and once the child discovers it, it will create a crisis of trust in parents," he said. ”

"Adolescent children pay more attention to people and human respect. Huanhua also said that when parents found that children have problems, avoid, "you'd better ... You should ... "The sentence pattern and the child dialogue, may wish to convert to," you see this is not better. and accompanied by a pat on the shoulder or back of the action. (at the request of the parties, the text Yang as a pseudonym)

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Coincidentally, recently, a senior student Wei also found his mother through her cousin's microblog attention. When she learned that "intelligence", the first time is to delete the previous part of the microblog. "I speak on the Internet is more direct, certainly can not let my mother know, or she will not give me read the Magic spell!" Since then, Wei never dared to publish their own feelings, mostly forwarding.

For parents to add their own micro-blog, the Junior Yun is quite frankly, she said to her parents: "Nothing, add on Bai." "Unexpectedly, after Yun to teach the classmate experience, agree Galviebo is only a self-preservation, and can appease the parents of the tactic," before they add me, I have to reapply for a small.

Wang Tao's idea in Chongqing is rather positive. Wang Tao's parents in the media industry, three people in the last year to pay attention to each other. Wang Tao remembers, an English examination mistake, because dares not communicate with the parents, on the micro-blog writes down the mistake reason and the experience, unexpectedly, the parents instead in the micro-blog comfort oneself.

Not long ago, Nanjing a father-daughter micro-blog dialogue exploded in the network. Girl "@ still Ulva White coffee" on the micro-blog listing their own holiday: "8 days long vacation, Dad tube Strict, do not let run, but the hermit has its own coup!" number 30th Curtilage home, 1th go out to sing K, with family people say is to friends home to play! 2nd to go out to rinse hot pot, said to go out charging charges! Number 3rd went shopping, said to the business hall to pay a net fee, Number 4th ... "

Don't want to, "@ Mountain old Lee" quickly reply: "Be honest at home stay!! Eat hot pot, shopping must be followed by your mother. "Girl Mouth A horizontal:" You who ah? "Li xx. "@ Mountain old Lee" introduced. The little girl looked, panic, hurriedly admit: "Dad!" I'm sorry, I didn't know it was you. How do you play Weibo too? Sweat。 ”

30,701 Times in the network of Crazy forwarding, October 7, "@ Still Ulva White coffee" Update micro-blog, "Thank you for your attention, Dad has promised not to play Weibo, we have scattered it." ”

Son high third grade Zhou is also a micro-bo control, but he paid attention to all the colleagues and friends around, is not concerned about their son. "Children a little secret how normal Ah, who has not experienced puberty." "He believes that parents peek at the child Weibo has formed a relationship between the cat and the mouse, you want to go deeper, the more children want to avoid, so will only cause the deterioration of parent-child relationship."