World Smile Day, don't let smile only stop on the internet

Yesterday is the world Smile Day, this is the only one to celebrate the expression of human behavior of the festival. Many netizens in micro Bo Sun out of their own smile, actress Dan also sent micro Bo call everyone to take the most beautiful sun smile.

However, although everyone in the network smile very bright, but the reality is somewhat "bleak." Yesterday afternoon, the Modern Express reporter in the street randomly "survey" 43 people, when we smiled at them, only 1 people give a response, others, most of them are eyes immediately swim away, or simply stare at the reporter with a puzzled eyes.


Modern Express reporter Wang Fignido


received a smile and smiled.


Unfortunately, only one mother, in the face of the reporter's smile, responded, smiled to the reporter nodded.


The reporter was waiting for a bus at the subway station. The mother held her own one-Year-old baby, the reporter first looked at the baby, smiled at her, a look up, just met the mother's eyes, hurriedly smiled, and the mother is very polite smile return, let a person's mood suddenly enlightened.


the results of this random survey, and Foreign street is a strong contrast. Public Wu Frankly, "to Europe and the United States and other countries on business, in the streets or elevators, strangers smile to greet each other, this is particularly normal and common phenomenon." ”


and some foreigners who study or work in Nanjing, the "Street Smile" is also very touching. "Generally, unless you find yourself being stared at, I nod to someone and say, ' I know you've been staring at me, please don't stare at me '." "The meaning of your smile has changed," Yu Dewei, a 24-year-old American boy, told Modern express reporters in China. The 23-Year-old American Girl thinks, "If there is eye contact, still do not nod a smile, it seems a bit awkward, if immediately divert attention, it appears impolite." "These two young people said that they have developed such a habit, and sometimes nodded a smile, has become a subconscious move."

When
arrived in China, they found that this was not the case. "If you laugh at others, you may think ' what it means '. "Yu Dewei said, especially in the face of beauty, if in the United States, will be very happy to greet the sound of" hi ", but to China will not dare," fear of misunderstanding, even if the smile is not too bright. " "But after a long time, he also realized that the Chinese do not say hello, it seems not indifference," they may just be embarrassed. ”


Xiao Lin, who studied in France, said that in France, when people come and go in and out of the elevator, everyone will be in the elevator for Good morning, goodnight and good-bye, and every person in the elevator will respond immediately. And every time she was carrying her baggage up and down the stairs, she often got enthusiastic people to lend a helping hand. "It's a small thing, but it's really warm, even in a big city like Paris, where strangers can do that," he said. "She smiled," but at home, there is very little such ' preferential ', because people are more alert heart? ”


Reporter Street "send a Smile"

Only 1 of
43 people "Talk"


American boy said that the meaning of their own smile changed after coming to China


Express Experiment


See a smile, eyes immediately "free" out. Reporter statistics, in 43 pedestrians, 39 people are so, the proportion accounted for 90.7%.


in the Xinjiekou subway station as well as a shopping mall, the reporter side often walk, while inadvertently observing the oncoming pedestrians, when the eye contact, they politely nodded and smiled. But most received the "signal" of pedestrians, and did not report a smile, but immediately shifted the line of sight, and some to look down the road, and some out of the phone, and some direct eyes to move away.


closely watched the reporters until they left, such people accounted for 6.9%.


two middle-aged men and an old gentleman, saw the reporter's smile, consciously slowed down the pace. They stared at reporters doubtfully until they parted. "I thought it was what the people knew, so desperately remembering. "The reporter overtook one of them, this year 45-year-old Mr. Xie to tell the reporter embarrassed." In his view, the smile between strangers, it is easy to misunderstand, "a lot of people's first reaction may be that this person is ill." ”


yesterday one day, the Modern Express reporter soldier is divided many road, eagerly looked forward to visited the subway station, the shopping mall, the street, the campus and so on, but the result has let the person some disappointment. First of all, without talking about "response", it is difficult to get the "smile" to be delivered smoothly. Although the final "send out" of more than 40, but in fact, the reporter would like to get eye contact with the object, at least one of the times. Many of these people, walking habitually avoid the eyes, "avoid in case of seeing each other, it is embarrassing." One respondent said.


and successful "received a smile" response of 43 people, roughly can be divided into three kinds.


Expert Comments


Although before the investigation, the reporter can imagine the embarrassment of smiling at a stranger, but still "forced" himself onto the street, hoping to know if anyone would respond to this uncommon stranger's smile. There was no big gap between the results-almost everyone saw it and dodged it. However, surprisingly, the reporter found that, in fact, seemingly silly to send a smile, but brought to their own great pleasure, it seems that they are full of energy "Superman." However, when the only mother, smiled and nodded in response, all the previous loss caused by no response all disappeared, the whole people suddenly enlightened. On the subway and the mother chatting, she smiled and said, in fact, she used to feel very indifferent between people, but since the baby, found that the child has become a window. Whether it is waiting for a bus, a car, people will tease the baby, and she chat, smile, young and old men and women have. So it seems to her that the Chinese are not really indifferent, just "shy". For fear of causing embarrassment, so there is a difficult to break the gap between strangers. ”


yesterday, netizens also had a heated discussion on this issue. Most people say they never try to smile at strangers. "Poor quality", "no manners", many people are very straightforward to say. But it is also pointed out that this may be the Chinese more traditional, not like foreigners so out, so will not easily and others smile chat.


Nanjing, director of the Institute of Psychological Counseling Wang Xuefu said he himself also has experience in foreign life, "this is actually a very obvious difference, the foreigner in the eyes sweep to others, the two sides of the four eyes, will be friendly to each other smile." Wang Xuefu laughs, oneself just go abroad time also not accustomed to, especially the girl smiles to oneself, more will think she is not concerned about me, like me? "Actually it's just their habit, it's a courtesy." Wang Xuefu that the difference between the smile at home and abroad in fact is still cultural differences. "China's culture is very serious and stern, and many foreigners feel that the Chinese face has no expression, can not see is happy or unhappy." ”


Wang Xuefu For example, "the impression of many Chinese children is that the father is dignified, seldom smiles, and the mother always scolds herself." In our culture, the word "joy" has even negative connotations, and parents will tell us that this is not a shrewd expression, like a child. ”


Wang Xuefu said, there are many such words, such as complacent, no longer express the meaning of this, is easy to express feelings is dangerous. In addition, Wang Xuefu thinks, "People are stressed, life is not so simple, they may think, where so many smiling faces, and can not perceive the friendly behind the smiling face, and the kind of feeling that can bring a happy mood." ”


in the final analysis


or cultural differences


Reporter Notes


smiled, and the harvest was full