"Chewy" course notes--a new approach to leadership in the new era

Fierce Conversation Chewy

Fierce refers to the fact that we remove the mask and put into conversation to make the dialogue real.

Chewy four goals:

• Questioning the truth,
• Stimulating learning (generating new ideas),
• Deal with challenges,
• Rich relationships

We have to believe in our choices, and we are responsible for what we believe in.

--cardinal Newman

The following conditions belong to chewy:

• Say the truth,
• The conversation points to the core of the problem
• Sincere questioning and listening,
• Send a Passion,
• Improve interpersonal relationships,
• After the conversation is over, you have a change.

Everyone communicats,few connect everybody in the communication, but the connection is seldom generated

--john Maxwell

The key to a successful dialogue

"The dialogue simply can't be done, because everyone speaks too much." ”
--yogi Berra

"Everyone speaks too much" at work most often at meetings, everyone wants to express their opinions, but not to listen to other people's ideas. The conversation at this time is meaningless, because everyone is talking and nobody is listening. So an effective meeting, the moderator is very important, he/she needs to control the atmosphere of the venue, to avoid confusion. As a leader, you need to avoid lengthy, big talk about your skills and experience. Is anyone else listening? Do they understand?
When there is a conflict, the dialogue is often impossible. Two people you speak my words, seemingly in dialogue, but in fact no one to listen to. What is the other person talking about? Is there any reason? Everyone vent their thoughts, grievances, complaints, filled with the other side of the discontent.
For dialogue to be effective and successful, the key is to listen. The first thing a leader has to do is listen. In the face of each other's eyes, sincere listening. Listen to what the other person wants to say, and then make a guide. Plato said, "The wise man speaks because he has something to say, and the fool speaks because he wants to say." A foolish person speaks only because he has the desire to express, what effect, what influence, or meaning it is to say, is not within his consideration.

How am I supposed to
Listen to other people talk?
Let's say that everyone who talks is my master.
is saying to me
The last motto of life.
--the Gift-Sophie Master Hafiz

Leadership model

A new approach to leadership in the new era:

Old leadership Model	New leadership Model
Orders	Ask questions and listen honestly, then guide
No feedback, no development, even if there is a personal growth, it is very limited	A wealth of feedback, opportunities for development, continuous personal growth
Assign tasks, stop asking, and be responsible for others	Empower, Mentor, and empower others to develop a culture of accountability
Re-tasking/light interpersonal relationships and the accompanying culture of obedience	Re-tasking/interpersonal relationships and the attendant passion to invest in culture
Fragmented, on the hill, competing for resources, not good cooperation	Share resources, team work, cross-sectoral collaboration to achieve organizational goals together
A culture of lack of information and the need to obtain information	A culture of openness, transparency and respect
All the usual.	Original thinking, in-depth exploration, risk-taking, innovation
Forcing others to accept your views on the facts/issues	Express your views on the facts/issues

Daily Tips

Self-talk: Get up every day and think of something that makes you happy and keep a positive attitude.

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"Chewy" course notes--a new approach to leadership in the new era