Do not spoil children

Chinese parents are often excited. With their parents' excessive love, the child lost the ability to take care of himself and survive, and finally lost in all kinds of starting lines of life.

Aries's children are brainless and have an enterprising spirit of discovery, exploration, and development. They are bold and positive, and are a typical beginner. The more you forbid them from doing anything, the more they want to try it. At a young age, there will be a kind of anti-evil mentality. Therefore, in the eyes of adults, they often think that they are difficult to discipline. In fact, they are the most likely to be "cheated", as long as they make proper use of their unyielding psychology, if they do this, they will quickly fall into the trap, and they will not be able to block it.

What is wrong with my daughter? It's all constellation!

What would you do if your child was "too proud" to be pointed out by others? Miss Cheng's mother, Ms. Gu, gave the answer "because the child is Leo "!

Miss Cheng is 27 years old. Her parents have made great efforts to cultivate her singing and dancing. Ms. Gu is always looking forward to becoming a girl. In front of friends and friends, the child is very well maintained and cannot be heard by others. She also explained for Miss Cheng that "Leo's character is like this ". Ms. Gu believes that Leo's children are naturally proud. They like to listen to respectfully, which is a type of soft food rather than hard food. Therefore, even if Miss Cheng is wrong, she cannot criticize them.

Countless "Chinese love"

From time to time, people may find a cool form of love: in the past seven days, the old man chunks to the railway station to give his children steamed buns, their children go to college, and deliver their clothes to their parents to wash them ...... Experts warned that excessive love will lead to the loss of children's ability to take care of themselves and survive. It is not love, but a kind of harm.

Qiu shuzhen drove his daughter

Qiu shuzhen's 14-year-old daughter gave birth to Shen Yue, Shen Ri, and Shen Xing, and then paid attention to the teacher. The three women went to school to take over the delivery, and they were not completely put in the hands of the workers. Shen Yue, a 14-year-old girl, stepped into the rebellious stage, and added her full-blown eyes. She was a pretty girl with white skin. Qiu shuzhen worried her daughter could keep her in love, and began to keep an eye on people. In addition to transferring back to school, you can never leave without a holiday, so that your daughter and her classmates may have the opportunity to learn worse. Qiu shuzhen had to leave his daughter close. Previously, Qiu shuzhen and his daughter swept the goods together, and rarely drove his daughter to the road in Ferrari.

26-year-old married girl asked her mother to wear so

Miss Zhu, 26 years old, got married in August 2013. She insisted on living with her own parents because her parents loved each other. Her husband had to agree. It is reported that although she is an adult, Miss Zhu is very fond of her because she is an old girl from her parents. Therefore, even at the age of 26, she gets up every morning, all of them are provided by her mother to help her wear so. Not only that, after breakfast prepared by her parents, Miss Zhu was still accompanied by her mother and sent her to the station at the door of the house. Her mother watched her daughter go to the bus before turning and leaving.

What do Chinese-style Internet users think

@ Fish floating on barren hills: Many parents treat their children as private property.

@ A netizen: There are two types of love: selfish love and selfless love. When children learn to rely on their parents, their children will never grow up. Although their love is satisfied, they are actually selfish. But if the child learns to rely on himself, he will grow up healthily. Trees can only be trimmed to produce materials. Parents' Education and influence are "reluctantly" pruning.

@ Treasure is hard to find: how to play with your child can not make up for your child's sense of identity among their peers.

@ Liang Xiaoxu Annabelle: parents cannot accompany you to the old age. They will be with your husband in the days to come. You must live together. You cannot always rely on others and be independent.

@ Every day: Nowadays, many parents only pay attention to their children's achievements. They do everything in their lives and love their children without limits. As long as the children concentrate on their studies, they will cultivate college students who cannot even tie their shoelaces.

Experts remind: to make children grow themselves

Excessive interference by parents in children's life is actually depriving them of the opportunity to grow up. Children 3 years old cannot be separated from their parents; otherwise, they are prone to insecurity. After 7 years old, they should let their children make their own decisions and help them establish their own interpersonal relationships; if you are 15 years old, you must give us inspiration and suggestions when necessary. In addition, parents should not pin all their hopes on their children. They do not have to be overly motivated when they contradict themselves reasonably. In the face of criticism from outsiders, they should guide their children to correct their mistakes in a timely manner.

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To cultivate children's self-care ability and independent consciousness, they must be willing to let go. Child-loving parents deprive their children of the opportunity to grow up in a controlled and possessed manner. In fact, the parent must know that the child's dependency comes from the parent's "arrangement" for the child ". From the first aspect of the agency or arrangement, gradually let the children slowly rely on, lack of self-confidence and independence. The growth of each child is due to the influence of parents' education and environment, thus forming different personality qualities and abilities. Children psychology research shows that the initiative of children's psychological activities increases significantly, and they like to try their own experience. Therefore, parents should let their children do what they can.

Do not spoil children