Miscellaneous about interpersonal relationships

When you step into the bookstore, a large number of books related to interpersonal relationships and contacts will pop into your eyes.

Books on theme topics such as "playing is a kind of mind", "being a person must have a mind", and "workplace thick and black learning" have always been selling well. If you stop to read a few books at will, it is not difficult to find that the contents of these books are similar.

When we were young, most of us were educated by our parents, guided by our teachers, and influenced by the social environment. We gradually "Understood" that people should be good at what they said and "come to things ". Those who are honest and honest, and those who are immersed in learning, are often considered as "nerds". In the eyes of others, they will be nothing more than work in the future. So, the clever tongue like a spring, see the wind and the rudder around all the times.

Those who have these two skills are continuing to "carry forward", and those who have not yet learned these skills are racking their brains. Nowadays, the comments such as "honesty" and "scoring points" have long been derogatory terms, and the sub-lines are equivalent to "useless ".

Some young people are overly concerned with interpersonal relationships due to incorrect ideas from different sources. They put aside the fields that should be carefully studied, and focused on the so-called interpersonal skills, communication skills, professional career skills, and the "upper level" skills on different occasions. In their minds, the person who is the only officer is a dumb. They will cleverly climb the privilege and sharpen their heads into the so-called "upper class society". This is the skill, in the future, it will be possible. It is true that in this society, some people have used some so-called "skills" to successfully "escalate. The "success" of these people will inevitably make some people suffer. They are more confident in their hearts: they can, and I can, they must look for opportunities, or even do nothing.

We do not mean that interpersonal relationships are not important, or that skills in communicating with people are not important, but these "skills" are too pale for more important things. As ke Wei, author of the "Seven Habits", said, "character is a powerful tool for communication ". If you have learned so many skills, what will happen to you? After a long time, what kind of person are you? Everyone knows what you are, and they are at a loss even if they work hard to study those clever tricks, it is better to calm down and cultivate your own character and be a trustworthy person.

Some people like to travel around large and small meals and want to meet different friends. They are proud to be able to join the so-called high-performance party. They are not easy to find opportunities. They are even busy distributing business cards, small vendors on the street. They thought, this is a good opportunity to get to know high-end contacts. They must change their business cards. But they didn't think about it any more. What if they changed their business cards? Can the owners of these graphic and generic business cards help you succeed as you wish? Why does he want to help you?

It is becoming increasingly important for people to have a long and pleasant relationship. The "door-to-door" I am talking about here is not to say that the two sides have considerable economic and financial resources. More importantly, it refers to the convergence of values between the two sides. The depth of thinking between the two sides must be on a horizontal line and mutual benefit must be achieved between the two sides. This relationship can be pleasant, easy, and lasting only when it is built on a rational basis.

High-quality interpersonal relationship interactions must satisfy the interests of both parties, rather than being "paid" and attached to one another.

You get to know each other because they have a high social position and are useful to you. No matter how you hide it, he will not understand your intention.

The more people with higher weights, the more chance they will get to be charming and pleasing, the more sensitive and cautious they will be.

With such a strong purpose, you can easily be held by others and step into the trap. I'm afraid that if you steal a chicken, you will eventually break down the rice;

Again, if the difference between your strength and the other party is too large, the cost of maintaining the relationship will be quite high, and you cannot have in-depth and equal interaction and communication with each other.

In this case, the friendship that is very important to you will not be able to withstand the accumulation of years in most cases.

It is also reasonable to say that "small success depends on yourself and big success depends on others.

In this society, many important opportunities indeed need to be fulfilled by others, and they need to be carried by others. This is no error, but if you don't have the intention to plug in and let it go, isn't it? It's a win-win situation!

In fact, we don't have to worry about the whole day to figure out who is the "VIP" in our lives, how to seize every "opportunity", and how to please "Key Figures ". If you do yourself well and your strength is strong enough, you will naturally generate the magnetic force that attracts others to pay attention to you and willingly support you, the "success" you want is also a matter of course and reasonable. Because you are irreplaceable!

From another perspective, do you have to be "successful? What is "success?

Is it necessary to "succeed" at all costs? Do you have to keep an eye on every opportunity? Can you say that, be able to take the lead, be proficient in learning, and be willing to work with your mind? Is it really popular? Isn't it good to focus and quietly do what you love? Make the best of your favorite work every day, ten years of hard work. As for the results, you don't have to be too hard-pressed.

You have worked hard, and you have no regrets!

You and I are ordinary people. I am afraid we are the right person to do things!

Things will always return to his essence. What drives the progress of the world will always be real things. The exterior wall decoration will always be decoration. Without reinforced concrete, the building will never be covered, i'm afraid you do not dare.