Ten features of an overly emotional mental model-how many features do you have?

1. Think of winning or losing: in this way, people who think about the problem use only black and white colors to divide everything. If something is not perfect, he thinks it is a complete failure.
2. Excessive generalization: At this time, a person will use the words "always" and "never", and regard a separate event as a failure type that will never disappear.
3. Thinking Filtering: specifically picking out a negative detail, then thinking about it and getting stuck. No matter how much praise you get, the only thing that impressed him is a criticism.
4. Ignore the value of positive experiences: at this time, you will leave those positive and positive experiences behind and think they have little value and significance. If something is done well, you will say to yourself that it is entirely out of luck, or that others can do well.
5. rashly draw a conclusion: Make a negative understanding of things without justification. Two typical cases are subjective perception of others' intentions (for example, subjective opinion of someone at a meeting deliberately opposed you) and conduct subjective negative predictions (for example, imagining that you will be doing badly in meeting someone ).
6. Negative amplification: at this time, you will exaggerate your problems or shortcomings.
Or devalue your advantages.
7. Emotional Thinking: at this time, you may assume that your negative emotions are a reflection of the objective situation. For example, in a guilty mood, you may make such a judgment on yourself: "Oh! I must be a scary person ."
8. "should": at this moment, you always think or require things to be as expected or expected.
9. labeling: This is an extreme situation of "winning or losing" thinking. In the face of an unsatisfactory situation, I did not say: "I made a mistake in this case ." Instead, I put a negative label on myself, for example, "I can't do anything ." Once this label is attached, it is difficult to clear it again.
10. excessive self-blame: in some cases, you are not able to control it, but you are solely responsible for yourself and therefore self-blame.
If the consultants often forget to check and reflect on their own ideas, I will ask them to buy some red dot-shaped instant stickers from the stationery store, and let them stick these things that they often use, such as on a laptop, notepad, inside the wallet, or the side of the computer monitor. The purpose is to let these red dots remind them to pay attention to their emotional activities in their daily lives.
If a consultant's inner critics are stubborn and noisy, I suggest her try to tie a rubber belt to her waist. Every time she heard the inner critic start talking, she poll her waist with an rubber belt. This pain reminds her to focus on more positive ideas and images.

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