The principles of praise in the office.

In the cold winter, we really look forward to the arrival of spring! In the days of heavy snow, spring green is so desirable. The busy office is filled with people, and everyone is greeting each other to congratulate the joy of the holiday. Of course, there is no lack of praise. This warm praise is like a green grass, which gives the Office a feeling of spring. My colleagues found that everyone's mood has been getting better over the past few days. They felt relaxed and happy! Is this mutual praise so attractive? The dull office is full of documents and complicated official services. One day, we found that jobs that we love and are interested in have become less enthusiastic, when we are facing increasing pressure on work, our mood will become anxious and depressed, and we will become irritable and often think about unpleasant things, the simple work that can be done will also feel complicated and difficult! At this time, we will feel a kind of enthusiasm in our hearts, eager to care for and praise! Praise refers to the process of appreciating others from the bottom of the human heart and then giving back to the other party. Praise is a kind of expression of caring for others and a good interaction process in interpersonal relationships, it is the embodiment of mutual love between people. When the heart is full of love for others, praise will come to life. Many articles have mentioned praise, but they are all technical operations. Although they are simple and convenient to use, after a long period of time, they will produce a feeling of using tools, anything that is not from the heart, if it is just habitual use, will eventually make your own heart affected. Of course, if you start to use it habitually, gradually tasting the connotation and taste of praise in this process will also be a good life experience. When we are able to experience the sincere love from the bottom of our hearts for others, our praise for others will seem appropriate and natural. Praise can make us feel calm and caring. Let's look at the following small office scenarios. Xiao Li cut a new hairstyle, and she cut her long shawl hair that had been preserved for a few years into a Short Ear. Her colleagues praised her short hair for its refreshing and conciseness. Xiao Li encouraged her, all my anger at the hairdresser went away. "At that time, I cut my hair and thought it was not like my ideal appearance. I was so angry that I wanted to have a quarrel with him. I asked him to explain how he made me such a hair style? This unpleasant mood brought me to work today, and even a customer came to me. At that time, I was still a bit angry and very polite to the customer, today, I don't know why that customer is not pleasing to the eye! I almost got angry with him. After listening to these nice words today, I lost my breath without knowing it. I felt smooth in my mind, and the customer also felt pleasing to the eye, I hope you will make me happy every day!" Liu, a salesman, went out to run the customer. The customer either refused or gave him a cold face and turned his enthusiasm into a cold sweat. Then he looked frustrated when he returned to the office, when I saw my colleague talking, I was not so angry. My female colleague Ying greeted him and greeted him about his current situation. He also liked to ignore it. "Hey, what's wrong with this? What's wrong with me?" "One side, ignore me !" "What makes our handsome guy so uncomfortable ?" "What's the purpose of handsome guy? It's still not rejected !" "Handsome brother, you can rest assured that I will never reject you !" "It's really useful to hear this from you !" A simple compliment resolves Liu's one-day fatigue and failure. Qingqing runs a company on its own, receives customers every day, and manages tax and property. Looking in the mirror, a few important customers haven't done it yet. Her life is so busy that she has no time to take care of herself, and her eyes and actions have quietly reached her mind. The peak of her partner has seen her eyes and actions, from this, I read her sentiment and walked up and handed her a cup of fragrant coffee. "after a rest, you will always be the most beautiful and competent!" Qingqing drank the coffee and tasted the care of her colleagues. A simple word of praise dispelled the shadows of qingqing! From the perspective of social psychology, praise is also an effective communication technique, which can effectively shorten the interpersonal psychological distance between people. American psychologist William? James pointed out: "the desire to be appreciated is the most basic human nature ." Recalling our own growth experiences, who do not eagerly desire the praise of others? Since the desire for praise is a kind of human nature, we should learn and master the wisdom of life in our life. In real life, many people are not used to praising others. Because they are not good at praising others or cannot get the praise of others, our life lacks many beautiful and pleasant emotional experiences. Principles of praise: 1. Have a real emotional experience. This kind of emotional experience includes the emotional feelings of the other party and the actual emotional experience of the other party. It is necessary to have a true feeling from the heart, so that such praise will not give people a false and far-fetched feeling. The praise with an emotional experience not only reflects the interaction in interpersonal communication, but also express your own good feelings. The other party can also feel your sincere care for him! 2. Meet the current scenario. For example, the above praise for qingqing only requires one sentence. When it comes to this situation, it will work with the other party's ideas. 3. Use appropriate words. It is very important to observe the status of the other party. If the other party is in a very low mood or has other unpleasant things, excessive praise will often make the other Party feel unreal, therefore, pay attention to the feelings of the other party. 4. "By your own feelings" is a good way for everyone to feel each other's feelings at the same time. Believe in your own feelings and use it properly in praise. If we understand our own inner world and often praise others, we believe that our interpersonal relationships will become better and better.