Why are there so many household rules?

Write down some home regulations in your house.........

Do you think home rules are always reasonable?

□Yes □no

Which rule do you think is the most difficult to comply?........

What are household rules? Home rules are the rules set by your parents, which define how you do at home and how you cannot do it. For example, if you do not finish your homework, who will do housework, and when will you go home, or how to use the phone, computer, TV, etc. Sometimes, parents may limit your activities outside, such as specifying what you want to do at school and who you want to be friends.

Do you think there are too many household rules, so you are not free? Maybe you feel the same as the following young people:

"When the time is up, you have to go home. It's really annoying! It's so annoying that all the children can play very late, but I have to go back so early !" -- Allen

"The most annoying thing is that my mom and dad often check my cell phone to see who I talked to. It's just like treating me as a child !" -- Elizabeth

"I thinkParentsIt seems like they don't let me make any friends in my social life !" -- Nicole

Many young people often do things that their parents are not allowed to do. However, most young people admit that if their parents do not set rules, the family will be in disorder. If family rules are essential, why are some family rules so annoying?

"I am not a three-year-old boy !"

You are angry with some family rules, probably because you think your parents treat you as a child. You really want to yell at them: "I'm not a three-year-old !" Of course, your parents may think that these regulations are important to protect you and equip you with the various responsibilities of adults.

Even so, you may still feel that you have grown up, but the family rules are not adjusted as you were when you were a child. Maybe you think there are too many constraints, just like the young berry, she complained that her parents said, "they forgot everything. What should a child like me do. They do not allow me to give comments, or make decisions by myself. They do not want to treat me as an adult !" She said, "My mom and dad didn't seem to realize that I'm 18 years old, not 10 years old. They should trust me more !"

If your parents are less strict with other children, you may be discouraged and do not want to follow the family rules. Matthew recalled that when he was in his teenage years, his parents treated him differently from his sister and cousin. He said, "even if they are in a serious disaster, they will not be punished !"

Will it be better if there is no family rule?

You may want to get rid of the constraints of your parents. This is understandable. But will it be better if you don't care about you without your parents? You may know some young people of the same age as you. They like to stay out for as long as they want to wear clothes, or they can always go out with friends, go wherever you want. Maybe their parents are too busy to care about what their children are doing. In any case, the Bible says that raising children is not good for children. (Proverbs 29:15) the main reason why some people in the world lack love and selfishness is that they all grow up in a family that lacks control. (The last book is-5)

Therefore, do not envy the young people who do what they love. Remember, if your parents care about you, it means they really love you and care about you. They set reasonable rules to follow the principle of the Lord God. God said to his people, "I want to give you insight into the truth and give you advice ." (Ps:32: 8)

However, sometimes you may feel that your parents are intolerable. How can you get more freedom?

AndParentsGood communication

Whether you want to get more freedom or feel less constrained by family rules, the best way is to communicate well with your parents. Some may say, "IAlreadyI talked to my parents, but it's useless !" Are you the same? Ask yourself, "can I improve my communication ?" It is very important to have a good communication. There are two advantages to doing so: (1) giving your parents a better understanding of you and (2) giving you a better understanding of the reasons why your parents reject you. If you want your parents to treat you as an adult and let you do what adults can do, you should learn to communicate with others like adults. What can you do?

Learn to control emotionsPeople must have self-control in order to communicate well with others. The Bible says, "the ignorance of life is full of anger. Wise people are calm at the end ." (Proverbs 29:11) Therefore, do not complain endlessly, get angry, or get angry like a child. When your parents are not allowed to do something, you may wish to throw your foot, but if you do, your parents will only give you more restrictions, instead of giving you more freedom.

UnderstandParentsPainstaking effortsTeresa was a young Christian who grew up in a single-parent family. She said, "I will ask myself: 'Mom has set these rules. What is the purpose? 'Is to help me become a better person ." (Proverbs, 2) if you understand the painstaking efforts of your parents, you can better communicate with them.

For example, if your parents are not allowed to participate in a social activity, ask them: "If a mature and reliable friend is with me, can I just go?" Parents may not agree with you, but if you understand what they are worried about, it is easier to come up with a method they can accept.

Gradually winParentsTrustSuppose someone borrowed some money from the bank. If he pays back the money on time, the bank will trust him and may be willing to lend him more money in the future. At home, you must obey your parents. If you obey your parents in all things, even in small cases, it means that you are trustworthy. Maybe your parents will trust you more in the future. On the contrary, if you often don't listen to your parents and disappoint them, of course they don't trust you very much or even totally trust you.

When you break the rules

No one is perfect. You may always violate family rules, such as not doing housework well, making a phone call too long, or going home later than the prescribed time. (Psalm 130: 3) Then you have to explain it to your parents! What do you do to make the problem worse?

ConfessDo not make a false statement. It will only undermine your parents' trust in you. Therefore, we need to be frank and even clarify the details. (Proverbs 28: 13) do not make excuses for yourself, or try to alleviate the seriousness of the matter. Always remember, "gentle answers appease your anger ". (Proverbs 15:1)

Sincerely apologizeIt is appropriate that you make your parents worried, disappointed, or troubled. If you do this, your parents may be mitigated. However, your regret should be from the heart.

Discipline acceptance() When your parents want to punish you, your first reaction may be to speak up with your parents and question whether the punishment is appropriate. Especially when the punishment seems unfair, you will be more like this. However, being willing to take responsibility for your own actions is a mature manifestation. What do you do best? It is trying to win your parents' trust in you again.

What do you need to do with the above three points? Write it down .........

Remember, your parents have the responsibility to control your behavior. Therefore, the Bible talks about "Father's commandment" and "Mother's Law ". (Proverbs 6: 20) However, you shouldn't think that your parents are bound to you, and your life will be no pleasure. In fact, the lord promises that, as long as you obey your parents, "you will be blessed "! (Yifushu 6:1-3)