The ultimate success of a person, to what extent success, is not the most critical, the key is to do the right thing, and the ability to do things well.
Career is like a marathon
Normal people have to work for about 35 years, which is like a marathon, unlike a real marathon, where there are no pros, and everyone has only one chance to play. You know, there are a lot of people do not even adhere to the end, only a few have run over the end, so in the beginning, to rob the leading position is not much significance.
A career is like a sporting event, with a preliminary, a rematch, and a final. The first round when everyone has just entered the society, most of them are the strength of the general people, at this time to work a little more serious soon can make people stand out, so some people more than 20 years old to do the manager, some people later also finally won the first round, more than 30 years old became manager. Then is the semi-finals, can participate in the semi-finals are won the preliminary, everyone has some ability, in the intelligence is not a problem, this time again want to win is not so easy, a little bit hard and serious enough, to have a strong spirit of perseverance, to understand the strength of the team, to understand soothe people, to have long-term vision ...
It's not easy to win a rematch, but it's not that hard. Because the law of the world is to give people a bit of success at the same time let people complacent, just won the first round of people often do not know that they won only the preliminary, they think they have learned all, do not need to work harder to learn.
The final final comes, everyone is a master, this time of winning or losing may only wait for each other to make a mistake. The law of the world still plays a role, the people who win the rematch have not only been complacent, they are often opinionated, listen to others, some people's temper become irritable, the mood becomes impetuous, the body becomes bad, their biggest enemy is themselves. This is the same as the sports game, and finally the game between the Masters, to see who made fewer mistakes who won the final.
Not happy, because you don't know what you want.
Are you happy at work? Do you feel unhappy after working for a while? Have you ever felt like you didn't get the treatment you deserve? Have you ever felt that working like mess every day is a pain? Have you ever felt that the company is not as good as it was originally supposed to be? Do you get what you want from work? Have you ever wondered why you're not happy?
In fact, you are not happy at the root, because you do not know what to do! You don't know what you want, so you don't know what to pursue, you don't know what to pursue, so you don't get anything.
I always feel that the first thing in a career is to focus on yourself, what do you want? Most people probably don't think about it, the only idea is--I want a job, I want a decent paycheck, I know everyone's craving for a paycheck, but do you want to start looking for a job every few years? Do you want to spend every year worrying about your job and your salary? If you don't want to, think hard.
The more anxious, the more you feel the need for a job, the more desperate, the more you want to be unclear, the more likely to fail, your experience is getting worse, the next job people look at your resume will frown. There is a lot of anxiety in living pressure, positive people will get motivation from anxiety, and negative people will be lost in the direction of anxiety. Everyone has to make a choice under pressure, and that's the way you like it or not.
The world has no easy success, success, to pay the price. Please forget all the pressure of survival, think about what you want most in this life? So, the most important thing, first think well what you want.
Two. What is a good job
People are save face, but also like to compare, even in the work also like to compare, whether it is not what they want. People think that foreign companies are very good, but fortunately where? They're in a better office? They travel to a better hotel? Will others envy a job in a foreign company? It's all for others to see, why do you have to live so hard to show others? Looking for a job is to think about what you want, or think about what others want to see?
Most of my college classmates went to the United States, I have a few cousins have gone abroad, their parents alone in the country, no one to take care of, several times people in the home faint no one knows. Is it so good to go abroad? As some people say, "A lot of things are like watching a piece, people feel very happy, do not necessarily." ”
People always want to find the best, but, what is the best? Do you think the best one is because you do know, or because others say he is the best? Even if he is the best for others, it must be the best for you?
It is not so important for yourself to know what you want. Many people are always affected by the opinions of others, the opinions of relatives, the opinions of friends ... The question is, whose life are you going to live on? The life of a person is not a sequel to the life of a parent, nor is it a child's life, nor is it a friend's whole life, only you are responsible for your own life, others can not bear this responsibility. Make your own decisions, at least to the end, you have nothing to regret.
I think, good work, should be suitable for your work, specifically, should be able to bring you the things you want to work. You still have to figure out what you want, and if you don't know what you want, you'll never get a good job, because you'll always see what you can't get, and what you got is what you don't want.
Probably, the best, already at your side, just, you have not learned to cherish. People are always staring at things they can't get, ignoring what they've got.
Three. Job-hopping and accumulation
I am not opposed to job-hopping, but job-hopping is not a solution to the problem, and the result of frequent job-hopping is that people feel no loyalty, and can not work at ease.
To job-hopping is definitely a problem, in general, the problem occurred, hiding is not open, many people job-hopping because of this or that is not happy, if this is not happy, in the current company can not solve, then in the next company most also can not be solved. You have to believe that 90% of the cases, your company is not so bad, you think good company is not so good. Every company has a problem with each company, and the company that does not have a problem does not exist. You don't know what's going to happen in a different environment, so it's better to solve the problem in the present. A lot of problems when you really want to solve, it may not be so difficult. Sometimes you think problems can't be solved, in fact, it's just "you think."
Generally speaking, when working to 2-3 years, many people feel that the work is not smooth, as if to a bottleneck, depressed mood, want to resign, and even for an industry, feel so that all the troubles can be put aside, will be much better. In fact, this is just to let you start from the beginning, the time will still be the same as the original industry difficulties, boil over the past a big step forward, to know that everyone will experience this process, each person's career will encounter a few bottlenecks, you boil over and others have not survived you are ahead of the.
A job to two or three years, most people will become mature hands, this time tends to fall into constant repetition, some people will feel that they have understood everything, so lazy to seek progress, feel that they have finished the game. To be sure, it must not be, this time, or to take out the first two years of energy, steady, accumulation has just begun, the game has just begun.
Do you know enough about your customers? Do you know what his biggest trouble is? Do you know enough about your boss? Do you know what his biggest trouble is? Do you know enough about your men? Do you know what his biggest trouble is? If you don't know, what makes you think you've accumulated enough? If you don't understand, how can you ask them to help you do what you want them to do? If they don't do what you want them to do, how can you succeed?
Four. Wait
Not every time you wear a red light will be hit by a car, not every criminal will be caught, not every mistake will be punished, not every corrupt officials will be shot, not your every effort will be rewarded, not every time you insist will be someone to see, not every point you pay can get just return, Not every kindness you have can be understood ... This is the way it is. There are times when people need a bit of patience and a bit of confidence. Everyone has a number of unfair things to do, and usually, the best way to wait is to be safe.
There are many times when we need to endure loneliness, waiting for the moment that belongs to you. Chow Yun-Fat waits, Andy Lau waits, Stephen Chow Chi waits ... Have you ever seen their waiting and patience when they see the people who are now successful? Have you ever seen the Golden Horse Award winner on the street? Have you ever seen German Cloud society a group of people in the theater to talk to an audience? Have you ever seen Stephen Chow's character even without a single line? Every successful person has a low and depressed day. In the most splendid days of their lives, they yearn for success, but they are empty-handed, just as you are now. No one can guarantee that they will succeed in the future, and their choice is to endure loneliness.
People will always encounter setbacks, people will always have a low tide, people will always have not been understood when, people always have to be humble when, these are precisely the time of life is the most critical, because everyone will encounter setbacks, and most people can not live this threshold, you will be successful. At such times, we need to wait patiently, confidently to wait, believe that life will not give up on you, the opportunity will always come. At least, you are young, you are not in prison, there is no cure disease, there is no debt owed. More than your unfortunate people far more than you lucky people, what are you afraid of? The road to step by step, although the step to reach the end is very exciting, but most of the footsteps are ordinary or even dull, but no such footsteps, or can not withstand these mundane dull, you will eventually be unable to usher in the final of those exciting.
Adversity is the place where God helps you to eliminate your competitors. You know, you are not good, others are not good, you insist on not go on, others also, do not tell others you can't hold on, that can only let others get hold of confidence, let competitors look at your smiling face, lose confidence, quit the game. Victory belongs to those who have patience.
Five. Into the right line, with the person
Two things in the first job are particularly important, the first one is the entry, the second thing is with people. The first job on people's biggest impact is the entry, the modern division of labor is very thin, we can basically only in one industry to become experts. In fact, no industry is particularly good, and no industry is particularly poor. The seemingly beautiful industry once entered to find that many places are not so perfect, but outsiders can't see.
I think the choice of what industry does not have much to do with, see the problem can not just look at the front. Sometimes feel that their industry is not, the problem is, no longer the industry, do less people also become a good industry, when everyone feels bad, often is the best time.
Gome Suning is actually a trade-oriented enterprise, can also be listed, selling tea a tea, selling clothes Hailan home can be listed ... Actually choose what industry really does not matter, the key is how to do. Things are done by people, the key is people.
One thing that needs to be remembered is that in this world, until we can foresee the future, successful people are always few, and most people are general, ordinary and less successful. Therefore, most people's practices and perceptions are often not the closest way to success. So most people say that something is not good, and most people don't see it as bad. Some things are lost at other times, even if they are lucky.
With the person is said, after the entry to a good leadership good teacher, just into the society of people do things often do not have experience, need someone to teach. The so-called "good" standard, not that he let you work less to take more money, but the following three:
First, a good leader must have a broad heart. A leader who loses his temper when he can lose his temper is mostly a very powerful leader. Chinese when the biggest problem of leadership is to tolerate the ability than their own strong people, so often can see a phenomenon is that the leadership is very capable, a group of mediocre or a group of idler men. If you see such an environment, still do not go to the good.
Second, leaders should be willing to think from the perspective of subordinates. From the point of view of subordinates do not mean to agree with subordinates, but he must understand the position of subordinates, subordinates why think so, then he can persuade you, only care about how you think of the leadership often difficult to obtain the subordinate's convincing.
Thirdly, the leader dares to take responsibility. Choose a leader who will be able to take the lead at a critical moment and be able to pay for the mistakes of his subordinates, as this is his responsibility as a leader.
More know some people, and more than their strong people to deal with, the same can find good teachers, not with a group of equally depressed people to sue the community, sue the boss, this can not help you, will only make you more negative. Deal with people who are better than you, see what they think, how they do it, learn from them, and deal with stronger people.
Six. Select
I always think that, in a very large scope, we will become a kind of people, the decision on our own, every day, every moment we are making such a decision, we can be careless, also can spend more thoughts, thousands of small choices accumulate, decided the end we are what kind of person.
In a sense, our future is not given by others, it is our own choice. Every day you can choose whether to serve the customer more thoughtful, whether to be more patient with colleagues, whether to do a more detailed work, whether to clarify the problem is not clear some ...
Life every day to give you the opportunity to choose, every day to give you the opportunity to change your life, you can choose to rely on the ground sapo roll, you can also choose to stand up teeth. You always have a choice. Some of the choices are not stand-up, need to accumulate, such as farmers can choose their own often to the land, you can choose to let God go to the ground, it is true that you today watering down seedlings may not immediately grow out today, but often watered, most seedlings will eventually grow out, if you do not water, the harvest must be very bad. You will eventually become what kind of person, decided in your every small choice between.
What do you choose to believe? Who do you choose to make friends with? What do you choose to do? What do you choose to do? ...... We are faced with too many choices, such as choosing what to do is not so important, and choosing how to do it is important. It is not important to choose what person to use, but to choose how to bring these talents is important. Most of the time it doesn't matter to choose objective conditions, most of the choices about objective conditions are not right and wrong, the important thing is to choose what to do.
I dare not say that all things you have a choice, but most of the things you have a choice, but often you do not regard this as a choice. Treat every choice seriously, will have a better future.
A bit of sentiment:
Vanke Wang's experience in Mt. Everest gave me a lot of inspiration, although in the departure to carry a lot of material, but the process of the Summit, must constantly reduce the load, eventually only an oxygen cylinder and he boarded the peak. Mountaineering So, a long life is not.
The most need of life is not planning, but at the right time to seize the opportunity to take action.
I believe most people have their own ideals of life, but I also believe that a lot of people in the end just think of these ideals as a fantasy, and then constantly looking for themselves can not achieve the excuses.
My philosophy is: the perfect performance from the full preparation, the courage to change themselves, adapt to the changing environment, opportunities will continue to emerge, happy and meaningful life comes from the realization of their own hearts of desire, rather than external applause.
I concluded that there are three stages of life, one stage is to find a job for the reality, a stage is for the reality, but can choose a job that you are willing to put in, a stage is to do something for the ideal. Finish
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