How to comfort a confused person

Many people are very confused, do not know what to do, do not know what to pursue, can not find their own value, do not see the meaning of life. If a friend came to you to talk, say that their thief bored, very confused, how can you comfort him?

This kind of thing happens, who will come across. When the sub-answer has not been suspended, there are always people asking me similar questions. And in 1960, there was a similar thing happening.

1960 Moses Grandmother received a letter signed by the spring, the young Japanese wrote in a letter, he was fond of literature since childhood, want to engage in writing. But after graduating from college, under the pressure of life and the expectations of relatives, he found a job in the hospital, but the heart has been not like the job, feel awkward. Seeing the year near Eve, he did not know whether to give up the job of income stability, and to engage in his favorite writing.

What happened to the spring? We'll talk about it later, now, let's look at three ways to comfort a lost person:

• Everybody's like that.
• Pay for the people, things and things that you value
• To find the destiny to do

1. That's what everybody does.

Our parents, relatives, friends, it is so comforting us, "Everybody is like this", "with everyone almost became", "people are how how ... Why are you this ...? "

Are you familiar?

Whose youth is not lost? Who's life is not wandering?

This way:

• Applicable crowd: all
• Effect: 0% to 100%,0% mostly
• Side effects: Being comforted by the crowd or no longer looking for your talk

Many people are afraid of being different, afraid of others as the mainstream culture and other than the value of the alternative, you so comfort him, he is relieved, oh, it is not me alone in the confusion, it is so good ...

2. Pay for the people, things, and things you value

My father said that he was alive in order that we might live better. A lot of people's parents are like this, very good. This is also the meaning of life, as long as you pay for the object does not reject your giving, do not abandon you, you always have a goal can work for it.

So, you can ask your lost little buddy three questions (see the "program Horizon" recommended book, "Hold on at the time"):

• What is the person, thing, object that you cherish most?
• What do you want to do for these people, things, stuff?
• When are you going to start?

Then, tutoring him to make a list, he can walk with it, you can follow the list to pay the effort to keep himself busy. Once the person is busy, there is not so much leisure thinking that the consideration of that, will not be confused.

Originally, the happiest thing in life is to strive for a goal. You pursue a girl, you want to give your girlfriend a warm home, you want to let mom and dad live in a big house, you want to give children a good education environment ... All these are the goals of happiness, and the effort to do so without selfish and complaining.

This way:

• Applicable crowd: all
• Effect: 50% to 100%,50% mostly
• Side effects: Causes crashes when the object is not paid

For the side effects, let's give a simple example.

Some girls after marriage, devote themselves to the husband, abandon all their pursuit, around the husband and family turn, then one day, the husband, and the beautiful female secretary eloped, this woman's world collapsed.

Let me give you an example. Some young parents, also very confused, do not know what to do, the days are too confused to live, two people bored to death, the birth of a child to raise, there is a sustenance, kindergarten, primary school, junior High School, all the way busy, ordinary happiness, and then, the children left their parents, university, no longer rely on them, their lives have lost Without the center of gravity, confused, and then divorced ...

3. Find your Mission

In fact, everyone has their own mission. The so-called mission is what is destined to be done when born.

Everyone has their own most want to do things, everyone has a mission, just as we are in the world, constantly repaired, the mission is buried in a corner of the heart, it is difficult to germinate.

But if you want to do it, and you want to find the thing that you are destined for, you can explore it slowly.

You can tell your friends about the story of Grandma Moses:

Grandma Moses is a household name in the United States 101-year-old grandmother. She spent most of her life on a farm, 76 years old because arthritis had to give up embroidery, began to try painting. 80-year-old in New York to hold a solo exhibition, causing a sensation, swept the United States. At the age of 90, her work began to sell well in the United States and Europe.

"The beginning of life is never Too Late" (written by Moses, my subscription number "program Horizon" recommended) This book has three words before the text begins:

    做你喜欢做的事，    上帝会高兴地帮你打开成功之门，    哪怕你现在已经80岁了。

You can give it to your lost friends. You can also send another more refined, Chinese words: " justified Man Road, Xi die can be ."

You can also tell your friends about the story of Junichirou, Watanabe Junichirou is the article began to mention the "spring upward", he was inspired by Moses grandmother, finally, became a famous Japanese literary master, his works (such as "Lost Paradise", "Man this Thing", "Love of Exile", etc.) in China also rage.

After saying the foreign, we say a domestic story-"Old Sportsman" Wang Deshun.

Wang Deshun, a 24-year-old drama actress, 44-year-old study English, 49-year-old North drift research pantomime, 50-year-old fitness, 57-year-old to create "live sculpture", 65-year-old learn horseback riding, 70-year-old exercise ABS, 78-year-old motorcycle, 79 years old on the catwalk ...

2015 China International Fashion Week, he was a cannon and red.

Of course, your friends may think that these people are too far away from their own, then we give a game of teenage gorgeous turn of the example (excerpt from the intelligence of the story of GQ, "Late Night surprise youth attack", author Zeng Ming).

In 1998, Li Xiaofeng began to play games, every night waiting for adults to fall asleep, he snuck out all night playing games.

From 1998 to 2005, Li Xiaofeng experienced one failure after another. He was very poor in his family, and was able to eat meat only once in one or two weeks as a child, and he was beaten by his father for the night, and he later went to college, and in order to play the game, he could only eat one piece of water every day, and he almost jumped off the game.

"Sky's talent is bad, but nobody works harder than he does," said the man who was familiar with Li Xiaofeng (his name is sky in the game world). ”

Sky said, "I will practice to pick up the mouse eyes blurred, the brain unconscious, do not know what they are playing-even in this case, I can persist a lot of disk." I will persist until I am completely unconscious, to faint, to practice nothing, or to sleep with my opponents, and even the second-and third-line players are unwilling to play with me again to end the day's training. ”

In 2004, WCG China's loser group finals, Sky against Xiaot (Xiaot had defeated StarCraft tournament first King grrrr--once idol AH). Xiaot became the first victim of Sky flow in a formal match.

Next, Sky Cuikulaxiu 2005 years, 2006 two consecutive WCG World Championship, become a member of the Hall of Fame. In 2007, Wcg,sky defeated grubby three consecutive sessions, and in the semi-finals with 2:0 won the Korean player MOON, despite the accidental loss of the final, missed peat, but he has completed the transcendence of all, and MOON, grubby Become the World's Warcraft project recognized three of the greatest players.

In 2015, Sky (Li Xiaofeng) was 30 years old, retired, and a friend founded Titanium technology, as CEO.

If your friend doesn't like this inspirational story, you can ask him a few questions to trigger his thinking:

• If you can only do one thing in your life, what is it?
• If you can only excel in one Direction, what do you want to be?
• Is there anything, if not done, that will make you feel sorry for your life?
• Is there anything that you do when you are doing something special, and you think of a special sense of accomplishment afterwards?

These questions are enough for him to be quiet for half a day, or half a month, and you can relax. Of course, you can also refer me to the book I recommended in my subscription number "program Horizon"-"A Life in Work (the thing I want to do most in this lifetime)".

All right, the usual, let's make a statement about this way:

• Applicable crowd: 20% people who have not given up their dreams.
• Effect: 80%+
• Side effects: May fail, go badly beaten, and then return to mode 1 or 2

There's always one for you.

Perhaps you want to comfort the person, his confusion is very special, but in any case, three ways, there is always a suitable for him. If you can cross three different ways, you can comfort all your lost friends.

Finally, do not forget to inspire your friends, either way, with ideas and goals, always fall into action. Because, everyone has enough spare time to achieve their own beliefs, but not to try, is never a chance to see the success of the day.

Related reading:

• Life is never too late to start
• Discover your talent.
• It was good to hold back.
• A Life in Work

How to comfort a confused person