I will pay for my career (3) on the tip of my tongue!

A key question for everyone who is determined to make a meal is who will pay for it?

"I will pay for it !" Sun's answer is clear.

"What's wrong with paying for your own full meals ?" Some friends disagree with this remark.

To answer this question, we need to talk about the principle of reciprocity. According to the reports of sociology, all human society advocates courtesy and exchange. For example, if you have sent a text message to a friend after the Chinese New Year, You have to reply to it even if you didn't intend to send a text message to him. Simply put, the principle of reciprocity is that you give me a favor, and I cannot accept it in vain. It must be expressed. Otherwise, you will be in debt. You know, the debt will be paid back sooner or later. If you owe a meal to others, you will be in debt. This is a personal debt and must be paid back. So, how much is it? Why? These are all big issues related to life and fate!

How much is a meal worth? There is a very famous Chinese idiom: one meal is worth a thousand RMB. According to historical records, Han Xin lost his father and left a poor family. In order to maintain his livelihood, Han Xin often goes fishing by the river alone. If he can't catch the fish, he will suffer from hunger. Later, an old mother-in-law who washed clothes pity him and gave his lunch to Han Xin. This is the case for dozens of days in a row. Later, Han was banned from Chu Wang and remembered his favor. Then he sent someone to invite her mother-in-law to thank her and reward her with a thousand yuan. According to the current calculation of 300 yuan per gram of gold, the value of 300 yuan is about 100*1000*30 million, and the value is as high as Yuan. Imagine a few people eat together. If someone tells you to pay for the meal, the reward is 30 million. If you don't pay for the meal, you can eat it for nothing. How do you choose?

Do you want to pay off your personal debt? In fact, a person in the workplace can have a firm and correct "pay-as-you-go" view, which is definitely the most cost-effective financial behavior, only by setting up the concept of "paying for money.

Many people laughed: "isn't it a meal? Don't you just have a try ?" This is taken for granted. Let's not talk about whether there are no idle people or whether they want to pay off their debts for dinner, nor whether such courtesy or exchange is successful by the previous money-payer (he successfully reminds you of him from time to time, at least remember the meal, haha) The most important thing is that if this person is generous, generous, and eager to pay for the bill, you will owe another favor. I remember when I first came out to work, a friend who had been working for two years always treated me as a younger brother. Although I felt awkward, I didn't have much resistance. Later, I thought about why you thought you could be my boss. Later, I found that I had to owe him a few meals without knowing it. After a few meals, he became a creditor and I lost my confidence. He became the boss and I became a younger brother. It was really easy.

"It is necessary to treat the guests, but we also need to consider the economic basis. What if the other party doesn't deserve it ?" Some people don't worry about being unable to afford it, but worry about the failure of light input. Old sun thinks that the treat is classified into different levels, so you don't have to be swollen and fat. But be sure to believe that the reward will be rewarded, and it is a value-for-money return. If you are not confident, Sun suggests reading "Feng Xiaoke Meng qijun".

Qi Ren has Feng Yi, poor people cannot store themselves, so that people belong to Meng qijun, is willing to send food under the door. Meng qijun said: "How are customers ?" Said: "No good customer ." Said: "How can customers ?" Said: "customers are incompetent ." Meng Xiaojun smiled and said: "promise ." Take the left and right as the king, and eat the grass. The secret of life, the sword of the pillar, the Song said: "Long returns! No fish ." Left and right. Meng qijun said: "food is better than the guests below the door ." There is a ghost, play its ghost again, Song said: "Long time returns! No car left ." It's just a joke. Meng qijun said: "For driving, better than the passengers under the door ." So he took his car, revealed his sword, and said to his friends, "Meng qijun, I am ." After the crash, I re-played his sword and said, "long time returns! ." Both sides are evil, think greedy and not satisfied. Meng qijun asked: "Is Feng public ?" For example, "you have an old mother ." Meng qijun gave it food, without any problems. Yu is Feng Yu no longer singing.

Meng qijun continues to improve Feng's treatment, presumably people will laugh. However, Meng qijun's confidence has an invaluable return. This also confirms that Chinese people have a strong reaction to personal debt, especially meal-related debt. It has never changed since ancient times. Jing's experience also confirmed this point. However, after eating Taizi Yan's white rice for two years, he had to "Wind, Xiao, Yi, water, cold, and no more ". From Han Xin's meal to Jing's return, there is no way to prove the truth: the person who invites others to eat white meals is the person who understands heroes. Even if they are not heroes, they will be forced to become heroes.

At the same time, I would like to remind everyone that the dignity of people is reflected in the payment. If you choose to eat only white rice, you will lose equality and respect. The other party will be stupid and understand that this person can drive it. At this time, you will no longer be a partner or a partner, and your position is even inferior to that of an employee. Remember: Not everyone buys orders at the dinner table. For example, vase. The "Vase" statement is certainly not a stranger to everyone. Some actresses, when asked what roles they play in a movie, admit: I am a vase. It means that I am not the main character of the film, nor a star of friendship. It is just an embellishment and pure embellishment of the film. There is also a vase like this on the dinner table. In the Hong Kong and Taiwan entertainment circles, there is a ranking of accompanying wines, that is, the rich people pay for large and small stars to serve as guests at the dinner table, to help the guests, but also to add topics. This kind of banquet position seems like you are willing to make money quickly and easily. However, vase members do not deserve to pay because they lose equal dignity. Here, let's hear the story of Faye Wong's ex-husband, dou Wei. After Dou Wei and Faye Wong divorced, the daughter was raised by Faye Wong. Although Dou Wei had been so popular, he was so busy that he could not afford to buy a decent gift for his daughter's birthday, my daughter's eyesight is also raised), forced to go to the dinner Board as a vase, although after the dinner, dou Wei took eight thousand vase fee, can go home to shame on the road to suicide, almost mental disorder. This tells us that in the workplace, when you still purchase a ticket, you must make a shot at the time. Because the dignity behind this is priceless.

A real person in the workplace will definitely not make it easy for others to pay the bills. On the contrary, he will do everything possible to pay the bills himself. Old sun once saw such a person. This tall man is Song Qiang, who wrote "China can say no. I have no idea about his book, but I am very impressed with him. I remember the first time I met this person in the dinner. I remember that song Qiang had been busy for nearly three hours. As soon as he arrived, he apologized for coming late and fined three drinks. Then he said that he had eaten. Then he shouted: Waiter, pay the bill! Others naturally disagree, and the dispute arises over the order he bought. Not the organizer, not the guest, but even the meal was not eaten. The money was paid to the bill, which was awesome.

Paying for a bill requires the spirit of "being honest. Mencius said: Although tens of millions of people, I will go! We should think like this: even if tens of millions of people participate in this meal, even tens of millions of people are scrambling to pay the bill, the final payment should be me. This is "let alone "!

"Hi, Sun. "Some friends asked," What should I do on the wine table? "Somehow, I think of Zhang Fei, Zhang yide. A real career warrior, like Zhang Fei, dares to face a gloomy life, take a gun immediately, make an independent bridgehead, and scream-"I'll pay for it! I will pay for it! I will pay for it! "

"I will pay for it !", If these ordinary words are full of sincerity and determination, the enemy will be able to break down, and the enemy will be able to take the lead, and millions of troops will be able to escape!