Let's take a look at this article-a teacher from Tsinghua University in Taiwan

Many of you should still remember the anxiety on the eve of the Joint Entrance Exam: the gap may lead to several volunteers, and even the fate of your life has changed! In my senior year, this kind of anxiety may be more intense and complex: Should I take the lead in employment, or should I take the exam first?

I often encounter anxious questions from students. However, these anxiety is really beyond our reach! Life is a long-term and continuous accumulation process. It never destroys a person's life because of a single event, nor saves a person's life because of a single event. What we deserve will come sooner or later. What we don't deserve will not last long even if we're lucky. If we see this fact clearly, many so-called "major choices in life" can be taken lightly without anxiety. The so-called "Dilemma of Life" often becomes irrelevant at the moment.

I am a living example myself. As soon as I entered the university, I decided not to study any more. Therefore, I spent most of my four-year college time on humanities. After graduation, I worked for several years and decided to go to the Institute. After my master's degree, I made up my mind that I will not study for my diploma any more. Who knows, the world is unpredictable. After five years as a lecturer, I was forced to become a doctor abroad.

When I went abroad, a college student smiled at me: the whole class was about to go back to the country most recently. Do you want to go out now? Two years later, when I came back from Cambridge, I felt that my life was impermanence. I was one of those who decided not to earn a degree from my freshman year. I even got both Dr. Shi and Dr. Shi! Which of the following did we deserve? How much should we know in our life? From then on, I have to be more indifferent to what happened. During the course of being a lecturer, some students with more extreme attitudes showed their disdain in person; when they came back from Cambridge, they were taken into consideration by students. On the surface, such ups and downs are actually good rumors, and there is no view of the truth.

On the surface, it seems amazing to have obtained Dr Cambridge in two years. However, before this "two years", I spent a whole year reading all the papers related to the research topics and finding out the research direction; in the past, it took three years to study control and published papers in internationally renowned academic journals. From my master's degree to my PhD, I never stopped my research or self-repair for seven years. Therefore, this doctor has actually accumulated seven years of achievement, or, even if I have spent at least five years controlling my study, I am not surprised at all.

Ordinary people do not look at the fruits of their savings from the long-term and continuous accumulation process. Old love is exaggerated in the case of disconnections and isolation on the surface. Therefore, every time we look at ordinary events, we are excited.However, for me, being despised by students while I was a lecturer, and being exaggerated by students when I first came back from Cambridge. The fact is: I only care about the accumulation of 24 hours a day. A master's or doctor's degree is only an external demonstration of the accumulation of these results at a specific time. The accumulation of true life hits never ends or adds to these events.

Students often worried about me and asked me, "Teacher, I really want to work as a soldier and study for another year or two. Is that good? "

It's good, so you have the opportunity to prove your academic theories first with practice. When you study the subject, you will know what you want better than others. "

"However, I am afraid that I will lose my fighting spirit after I finish my work, so I will not be admitted to the Institute. "" Then you should take the exam first. "

"However, if I go to the Institute first, I am afraid that I will be as confused as I go to college, so I am unwilling to read it. "

"You should go to work first! "

"....... I can fully understand their anxiety, but I cannot suppress their feelings for such words. In fact, all he needs is two years of research and two years of work, so that he can deepen his knowledge and gain practical experience. Work first or go to school first. On the surface, the difference in the bones can be ignored. In the idiom "four in the morning and four in the evening", the owner originally fed the monkey's oak "four in the morning and three in the afternoon ", the monkey was unhappy and insisted on returning to "Four twilight ". In fact, the first job or first school, the difference between the period is like "Three twilight four" and "four twilight three", it is not worth considering. However, we often do not see the long-term and continuous accumulation of this kind of life process. Old love will exaggerate the small difference in time to the point where life and death are at stake.

The most ironic thing is that when we are faced with two possible solutions and are anxious about what to choose, it usually means the two solutions may be as good or bad as they are, in fact, the only difference is the order. Moreover, the more anxious we are, the smaller the difference, the less anxious we are. However, when there are obvious differences between good and bad, we can easily know what to do. However, we often do not see the long-term future. We are short-sighted and stare at the gains and losses of the two cases in the short term: if we want to select case A, we will not be able to bear the benefits of case B; if we want to select case B, I cannot bear the benefits of the case. If you have seen it far enough, what is the relationship between what you do first? What's so amazing even when I spend another year preparing for the Institute after I finish my work? Of course, some people will still worry: "Will it be difficult for me to go to research after I finish my work? "

I can only answer this question: "A person cannot take an exam. There are only two possibilities: either he is not smart enough or he is indeed smart enough. If you are not smart enough to take the test, there is no complaint. If you are smart enough, you can only say that your determination is not strong enough. If your determination is not strong enough, It means there are other possibilities in your life. The importance is not lower than the master's degree, and you are reluctant to leave him alone. In this case, you do not have to feel sorry if you cannot take the exam. Isn't it? "

Why are there so many ways to live? My best friend in high school has a hard time: I took two senior high school exams, two senior high school students, two university students, and even two locomotive driver licenses. After graduation, he told himself: I have no contacts or education, and I can only rely on double sincerity and hard work. Now, he owns a company with an annual income of tens of millions.

It is common for a person to go smoothly in the course of his or her career. A talented person will not lose his talent because he is rejected by a famous school, but will find another place suitable for his performance. In turn, a person is too smooth in the process of going to school, and it is inevitable that he will not be able to start a business, but he can only get a salary. Who can be fully aware of the blessings?

What do we like? What worries do you have? The gains and losses of life are sometimes hard to tell, but sometimes it's easy: We get the fruits accumulated on weekdays, and we never try to accumulate them! So what is important is not to compare with others, but to do what you want. Don't donate, the last thing you get will not be less than you do, or you will not get more than you do.

It seems that the year before, I met a high school student on the way to the art center. He is an associate professor in the Electrical Engineering Department of Nanda University and is hired by Tsinghua motor for a short-term course. He has worked very hard since he was in high school. After taking the first volunteer to take the stage, he won the book and paper Prize for four years. I believe that his professional research has also achieved remarkable success. Recall that when we were in high school, the two of us had their quiz scores separated from the first and second place in the school year. However, I never gave up my favorite literature, music, calligraphy, art, and philosophy from my freshman year, but he never got distracted. Therefore, the academic gap between the two people will only get farther and farther away. On the other hand, I have been satisfied in the field of humanities over the past decade or so, and I am afraid it is far from what he can understand. My wife asked me if I was willing to focus on a field of research, would it at least catch up with this student's achievements? I don't think so,Two people with different personalities are destined to go two different ways. We are doomed not to get what we shouldn't. Simply compare them with two people and only see what they get, but not what they lose. What is the significance of this??

When Tsinghua TV visited me: "How do you face your troubles in your life, teacher? "I was there on the spot, so I couldn't even figure out when I had a hard time in my life! Later, I thought about it and found that I was not in a dilemma, but was considered a "Dilemma" by ordinary people. I was in a temporary situation and never cared about it. At the time of service, the eldest son was born but could not find a job. I have been anxious, but I feel that I will have a job sooner or later, and I don't have to worry too much about my salary. During my master's period, my family relied on my wife's salary to save money, which was not difficult for me. First, I had a full spiritual experience, and secondly, I knew it all to give myself the opportunity to transfer to teaching (do what I want to do ). I went abroad at the age of thirty-one, but my classmates were about to go back to teach. I was very nervous (I don't know how strict Cambridge was), but I was never discouraged. Because, I know that I have been working very hard and have very satisfied experiences and achievements, but others can't see it. I have never had a hard time, because I never care about external gains and losses, nor arbitrarily compare with others, but only care about the accumulation of my own reality.

I have never had any difficulties, because I did understand:Life is a long-term and continuous process of accumulation. It will never go through the ups and downs of a single event. At the same time, I also believe that sooner or later we will get what we deserve. If we don't, we won't be able to add more points.If you can hold the same belief, then you will have a broad and long-term life, and there will be no "dilemmas" or great anxiety. .