A skillful language can add points to your career

Do you realize that your speech has a practical effect, or do you know whether your speech can be recognized by others? In fact, sometimes speaking well may reduce your troubles. Do you realize that your language helps you at work? (This article is from mentor e Yiyou)

1. Stop saying "but" and start to say "maybe"

I wonder if you have noticed that you often say, "I like this idea, but should we do it in different ways ?"

Once you say the word "but", others will immediately forget the sentence that you like. Because the word "but" makes people think that the previous words are completely meaningless, and the words after "but" are the focus.

However, if you use "maybe", you can also say: "I like this idea. It may be more effective to slightly change the method when you do it ."

2. Stick to facts

I often hear that some people do not base their statements on facts-like "this is what she gave me", "My boss hates me ", or "I know she regrets hiring me ".

I always ask, "Is this a fact? Did she tell you? Or based on what observations let you draw these conclusions ?"

Effective communication is really difficult, but you don't have to talk nonsense without knowing the facts. A good communicator will surely speak in fact.

The fact that you remember any problem may be different from what you think about it. Maybe what you see is only related to your unique style of work, or it's just that your boss was under a lot of pressure at the time and was in a bad mood, just venting to you. No matter what you say, unless you know the facts, you 'd better not wear colored glasses to comment on the truth, instead of focusing on the facts of the problem.

3. Avoid "defending your position"

When people encounter problems during their work, they seldom communicate with each other and defend their positions.

For example, Megan and Jason are colleagues who are discussing a project. Megan said: "This project is a little difficult for our team and we need more help ." Jsson said: "Everyone will spend more time and we will be able to do it ." They have different concerns. Therefore, this is not a meaningful conversation and has not achieved good communication results. Megan was frustrated because Jason didn't hear what she was talking about. Jason believes that Megan is a bad recording, and he has no confidence or confidence in it.

This is not a communication, but a stand defense.

A good communicator will raise a question and try to understand all aspects of the question-rather than repeating his views.

For example, Jason can say, "which part of this project is bothering you ?" Or, "tell me more about what you think is weak ".

Similarly, Megan can say: "It sounds like we have different ideas for this project. I am wondering if everyone can spend more time solving this problem," Or: "Should we carefully evaluate this project and make sure that we spend more time with our existing resources?"

Have you found that, as long as we listen carefully and explore others' opinions, we will not be so frustrated, but will lead you to a higher level?

4. "Silence" Strategy

Many conversations are ineffective because participants are busy thinking about what to say next and ignore listening to what the other party says. How can this problem be solved? It is time to make use of silence.

When you feel that silence is negative or uncomfortable, the listener needs to talk about the content just mentioned and give the speaker time to organize their response ideas to ease this atmosphere.

Therefore, the next time you communicate with others, you must concentrate on listening and make good use of the silence time, during this period, I tried to understand what the other party was talking about and seriously considered how to respond when you spoke about it. Learning to cherish and use silence, rather than fear, is also a better way of communication.

A good communicator may be born, but it also requires the effort of the day after tomorrow. This time they use this communication method, but it will not be necessary next time because your colleagues will notice it. Therefore, you must constantly change at the right time so that you can have more confidence in the next communication and work, so that you can continue to improve at work and take it to the next level! Of course, if you want to understand more about the workplace, let's take a look at the Workplace Strategy course recommended by E Liang Shiyi youyou. It will make you better tomorrow than today!