a long time not to read, may be reading a good book is not much, is the market pit Father pit Niang garbage fast food nausea afraid. This year the intention to promote some interpersonal, mainly is the emotional control of the conversation. The key dialogue is very useful to me. often because of people around some words of anger, even temporarily unable to control the conflict conflicts. I was aware that the link between the two was because of the extremes of my mind, because some negative thoughts interpreted the behavior of others as malicious attacks on me. Constantly convinced themselves to change the idea, but how to modify, not in-depth, reluctantly said some of their own ideas are not right, but crunch still can't control himself, more is afterwards remorse, improve the effect is not obvious. This situation is specifically mentioned in the key dialogue. On the other person's words lead to the process of human emotions, the book mentioned in the model is not surprisingly, most people should think, hear other people's Speech = = "own conjecture inference =" feel hurt, anger = = "Response." But we may not carefully analyze the solution. When you really put this model out, you'll think of it in "your own assumptions." Other people's words to accept, our first reaction is habitually in accordance with some of their own value concept of processing and quickly get the corresponding emotional experience, but pause here, others can have a variety of understanding, another angle to understand whether it is also possible, do a variety of understanding, in the process of thinking, the mood will naturally with the stability of some. Although it may be possible to realize later, but the early dissected to strengthen the practice of verification is also good.
The most fundamental point thrown in the key dialogue is that all healthy and effective dialogues are based on a sense of security. According to this argument to recall the conflict in life, it seems very reasonable, how many times everyone or silence or fierce dancing red-hot to argue loudly, but this way to speak the least worthy of people to believe. If the other person feels insecure enough to think that you are offended by his criticism, he is less willing to be honest with you, and silence and violence are the most common forms of confrontation. Therefore, please respect others, do not pre-judge, more to tell the truth, to your speculation, careful to say, multi-party verification. How to respect? Look for similarities, everyone's difference is not so big, think you are similar is easy to accept.
"Key Dialogue"
