How to make your life will be better

One of my motto is, "Change your mind, your life will be changed." I absolutely believe that thoughts and emotions make up our experience. Most people do not even understand their negative thoughts when it comes to problems. These ideas have almost become a habit, so they seem very normal. In order to make your life better, get rid of the following 12 kinds of perennial wrong ideas.

1. Victim attitude

Actually, you are not a victim. Therefore, there are problems do not complain about others, do not complain about the environment. Just because you do not like the present situation does not mean you are not responsible for the situation right now. Abandon the kind of victim mentality, that kind of attitude and no benefit at all. In fact, this mentality is an obstacle to success. We must know that you, only you, are responsible for your own destiny.

2. Think you can change others

You can not change it. I paid a big price to understand this. For some time in life, I think I can "inspire" and "inspire" others to be the best. After a long time, I realized that it was only myself who could change them. If they do not want to change, or do not know how to change, all you have to do is work together. So, do not worry about other people. If you do not like them "like this," you can choose not to get along with them, but you have no power to change them.

3. Keep up with "unchangeable facts"

There are some things you can change. However, a large number of things you can not change. You can lose weight, find a better job, back to school, continue to work after marriage, and so on. But some things you can not change. These things are "a fait accompli."

Your boss is a bastard, but you can not change it. You can change jobs, but you can not change your boss. You can not change the fact that you have to pay taxes and you have to pay a mortgage loan. However, you can stop confrontation. It will only bring more torture to you when you deal with immutable things, making you more painful. So change what you can change and accept what you can not change.

4. "This mountain looks at that high mountain"

"I would feel happy if it was as beautiful as this girl." Or "I would be happy if it was as rich as this one." None of these ideas was correct. Just because you think you are better than yourself does not mean that they are really better than you.

Perhaps this pretty girl was born in a violent home and could not live a normal life. Perhaps the rich man is at work most of the time, not even having time to visit his family. The mountain is not over there must be high. Therefore, cherish their own situation, it is your own, we must treasure.

5. Count on others

Expect what can be called a happy enemy, even if you think your expectations are reasonable, for example, letting the same roommate or your spouse do their homework at home. Just because you expect it does not mean that they will do it.

Realize that your expectations are based on your own experiences and prejudices, but not necessarily what other people want to do first. You may not like people expecting you to do something that you do not want to do, so do not impose your own expectations on others. If you do not like their behavior, either accept it or do it yourself.

Find a spouse can be complete.

If you are not a complete person, having a romantic partner will not make you complete. Also, doing so will put a lot of pressure on those who "make you happy." There is no one, you have to feel happy. Having a spouse does not make you happier. Only you can make you happy.

Always need to prove yourself right

I do not understand why people are desperate to prove themselves "correct." What does it mean? I think the reason is that they do not want to be weak, vulnerable or stupid. However, I think admitting mistakes is a more noble and mature approach. In addition, everyone has their own different opinions. Why do not you have your own and let others have their opinions?

Worry about what others think

Why care about such things? Do you think they judge you? I want to tell you a little secret. In fact, no one like you at that moment in judging yourself. Like you, others are busy judging themselves, they do not think of you at all. So do things that make you happy. It is not your problem if others comment on you. Anyway, ignore them, be happy with yourself.

Only one is correct, one is wrong

In the world we live in, we all like to think that objective reality exists. However, in the end what is the objective reality? Objective reality is only an illusion, does not exist. There is only a variety of subjective realities. One person thinks the right thing but the other person does not think it is correct.

For example, Democrats and Republicans, who is right? Hey, it depends on what kind of people you ask, right? Some people think that everything is correct, it is because it is suitable for everyone's life and everyone The way the world looks. That's it. Draw a full stop.

10. Fear not ready for the future

I like the phrase: "Worrying is like praying for something you do not need." If you believe in the power of prayer, you know that putting your thoughts and feelings into the universe / God (no matter what your belief system is) Part time is useful. So come now. Everything you have is now. Now, do not worry about the future because you can only control the future to a certain degree.

11. Money is tantamount to happiness

We live in a capitalist culture that speaks of money. We think people who are rich are better than those who do not. But this idea is absolutely wrong. I believe there are many happy monks in the world who may not have one dollar in their name.

People who work in McDonald's shops feel real happiness, but billionaires do not feel it. Therefore, do not fall into the trap of having to get rich for happiness. This is not correct. The money is good, but it will not make you feel happy. Only you can make you happy.

The future is decided by the past

Just because you are poor or have made mistakes in the past does not mean you can not create a better future. If you label yourself as "failed" because of the past, you will only enter the future in a "failure" attitude. If you have heard of self-fulfilling prophecies, then you will know what the heart thinks and what it will be like. As I said in the opening paragraph, "Change your thinking and change your life."

I hope this essay will allow you to ponder over the wrong ideas that may have traversed your heart every day. I guess you did not understand this past. So start paying attention to your thoughts right now. If you catch your negative thoughts, be sure to press "Cancel", "Delete" button, faster!

Translator: ringohan

Source: lifehack.org