How to be a good employee?

July 4, 2014, I left Baidu.

This is the first time that I am not leaving because of a boss falling out;

This is the first time that I quit with the joy of promotion;

This is the first time I leave with a full harvest.

I used to think that I would never be a good employee because I was too single, too fastidious, I did not like obedient good kids, and I hated everyone who wanted to change me. But over the past three years, I have changed quite a lot. I must admit that the so-called "progressive" process is a process of accreditation and "domestication."

The so-called "domestication" is to understand the rules, abide by the rules, the process of using rules. I am not "domesticated" by some people, but are domesticated by the laws of society and the workplace. I once despised this process, but today, as a mediocre person, "being domesticated" is inevitable if you want to make something in this society.

I have also self-proclaimed "outstanding", but also by the old Luo "sturdy life do not need to explain," "bewitching." But in reality, this path may not work. You have to explain to many people and explain them in a way that they (rather than yourself) like, because you can not continue working until you have their endorsement and support. If you are a mediocre person, you have to do so. In the American drama Criminal Psychology, there is a saying: "Anyone who pursues his idealism in his own way will find himself in the right place."

More enemies, you're dead.

Now, I can not say I am a "good employee", I just think I am a better employee than I was. When leaving, I intend to summarize my career experience in recent years, be regarded as a gift to myself.

I am a mediocre person, the following experience applies only to dull and mediocre me, not for talented talented people.

First, do you have "empathy"?

What is "empathy"?

To put it in a complicated way, empathy is a communication and exchange method that stands in the perspectives and positions of the parties and objectively comprehends the inner feelings of the parties and communicates the understanding to the parties concerned.

To put it simply, empathy is "Do not do to others, do not impose on others." The heart of the heart, that is, to feel at home, to understand others.

To put it plainly, empathy is "emotional intelligence."

Specific point:

Empathize is that the leadership to hand over a job, you want to read his purpose, to see his intention. I often encounter such a situation: When the team members to arrange work, repeatedly asked "I understand it?" "There is no problem," repeatedly confirmed, the submission of things still unanswered. So when I accept the task, I always confirm to the leader: What do you want? What is your purpose? After understanding this, you can stand on his side, effectively help him solve the problem.

Empathy is that in motivating staff, punctuate their "excitement", not exposing "scars." Everyone has a reason to work hard, family wealthy In order to prove their ability, poor family in order to improve their own lives, bravely afraid of losing their jobs. Understand the different psychological needs of different people in order to mobilize the enthusiasm of everyone. If you do not ask indiscriminate, holding a whip shouting cheer, can only be futile.

Empathy is that, in cooperation with others, to understand each other's needs and psychology, the subtle persuasion of each other, both for the same goal and work. Want to use pressure to subdue others, usually not so good.

Second, obedient, to live;

Seven years ago, I chatted with Pan Jiuyang of Beijing Traffic Station. He said: "What is a good employee, a good employee is very simple, and he has four words: obedient and alive." I have always remembered these words, this is the wisdom of wisdom.

What is "obedient"? There is an old adage called "work is not the East, exhausted and reactive", who is "East" ah? Your immediate leadership is "East", most of the time, to listen to his words .

A friend said: I have the ability, I am higher than the level of leadership, I do not listen to the leaders! Let's not say who is the highest level - since he can be your leader, there must be stronger than you - let's say Level and ability of this thing, what is "capable"? Leadership with you, you have the ability. Without you, no matter how big you are, you're in vain.

In my experience, in general, leadership is higher than you, at least on the point: he is more comprehensive than you, and more accurate. Because it is easier for leaders to reach higher levels and to know more about higher level intentions, you do not know what you know. You think in your own eyes that you are "doing the right thing," but you do not necessarily see leadership at a higher level.

Another friend said that my leadership is a blind conductor. It is obviously not right. Why should I listen to him? This is another question. The last one we talked about is that if you feel that the current environment can not be improved, you may consider leaving.

What is "working out"? It is the work that the leadership gives you, and you have to finish it on time and report it. If this job is going to take a long time, then you need to give leadership feedback step by step. We often make mistakes and lead the work we arrange. He does not ask you nor does he say that he does not mention that he did not mention the matter even if it has passed.

The past? Where is it so easy! The leaders remember that when you asked him - "How old is Chen, what was the last thing you did?" - He already gave you in his heart Write on the label: "No fly".

A "do not fly" need to use ten "fly" to reverse the two "do not fly" it is difficult to change the impression that the three "do not fly" you have no chance.

"Survival" there is a meaning, that is, "beyond expectations." This we talk about the next point.

Third, in order to make pre-eminent dignitaries, you have to suffer in sin.

Work in the company, everyone's IQ are similar, no one is much better than anyone, fight is the level of effort and hard work. You work harder than others. Oh, I was never smarter than the others. When you get off work, you get off work. When you play, you play. You can make bubbles by other people. Why do you do better than others?

It is not hard to understand the principle that "to think before your dignitaries, you must suffer in your own hands." That is, when it comes to suffering, it is ambiguous. Some people may say that I am young and why I can not enjoy my life well. This idea is very common. This is a question of values. There is nothing that one can think How life is right. But some friends are entangled in the pursuit of ideal and enjoy life, and these friends can talk.

Ma once said: We should pursue the great balance of life, rather than a small balance (after all). New Oriental also has a saying: afraid to endure hardship for life, not hard to suffer bitter life. Two words the same effect, it is worth pondering.

A job, you thoughtfully done, the leadership of a look you know, you want to fool, but also a look to know, this is not luck. Leadership in judging this issue, the standard is very simple: I think of, you never thought, certainly not in the least; I think, you think part of the intention is not enough; I did not think of, you think of it, it is intentional - This is "unexpected." If you can give your boss an unexpected result every time, you are definitely a good employee.

Fourth, can bear many big things, can become a big thing;

Tell a joke:

In the elevator, the leader put a fart back and asked the secretary, who put? Secretary busy replied: "Not me!" The leadership does not speak, it is over. Soon, the secretary was transferred away, the leadership of the reasons for leaving the tone said: "Fury can not stand the grievances, but also what?

At work, I want to be appreciated and reused by the leaders. In addition to having excellent working ability, more importantly, I should have adequate conservation (anti-stress or blood-returning ability). How much can be subject to grievances in order to become a multi-event, this is certain. In order to examine your "resistance to stress," leaders sometimes deliberately try you, and you must stand the test.

I myself have experienced something similar:

One day overtime, home at 2 o'clock at night, received an email from the boss, criticizing my work is not in place. After I received the mail, I collapsed and was still grieved. So immediately pen and paper, back to the mail! Explain how I work, how do I make sense, how do I do that effect ... ... wrote more than 2,000 words.

When I finished, I seemed to be calm, and I pondered one thing: if I was the boss, I was dissatisfied with the work of an employee, so I wrote him an e-mail to criticize him and I wanted to see his eloquent explanation And excuse? Obviously not. Then I suddenly understood, so I deleted the more than 2000 words, a simple reply to the effect that: I will reflect on the issue of work, and rectification as soon as possible.

I was promoted in two months. At my promotion ceremony, I talked to my boss about this. He told me that I know you are wronged. I just wanted to see how you react when you face grievances and pressures. This reflects A person's maturity.

To put it in one sentence, people will lament that "money is hard to make and shit is unpalatable," and everyone wants to "stand to make money". I even believe he did not see him kneeling. We always emphasize "dignity," Bill Gates said: "No one cares about your dignity, and you can only do as much as you can before you feel good about yourself."

For the genius of Bill Gates, let alone, Moreover, I mediocre mediocre mediocrity?

Five, always dodging leadership, you are dangerous;

Many people avoid the leadership, try to speak less with the leadership, go around the leadership. Because with the leaders close thing more, do not contact with the leaders more, things less, more leisure. This is "a leaf barrier, can not see Tarzan."

If you want to make some achievements in your work, I suggest that you should take the initiative and lead the communication. What the leaders say when they meet in peacetime is mostly the words of the grandchildren. If true or useful, valuable words may not necessarily be said. This is not what he did not want to say, but no chance to say.

Dedicated staff will always take the time and leadership to communicate and increase opportunities for private exchanges: eating together, smoking together, commuting to work together, and even play K song ... ... By this opportunity, you can understand the leadership for your opinion, for work These are all good ways for you to adjust your work.

Some friends fear that doing so will arouse displeasure from the leaders. In fact, they will not. The leaders are mostly lonely. He is very pleased if he finds an employee who humbly consults with him and actively shares his work.

A friend said, I do not want so tired, I would like to mix the day. Even so, you'd better take the initiative and leadership to communicate, take the initiative to report. You chase him, you are the active side, in fact, you are not tired; until he chased you, you are passive, and eventually exhausted.

Old Lo once told a story that you enter the unit, see the boss bowed his head, ignore him, of course he ignored you. Wait until the year-end assessment, or layoffs, the boss vaguely remember you have such an individual, but do not know your name, but do not know what you did. The boss will think: This is your fault, it is not my fault. Who do you expel from?

The boss is also a human, we use human way to communicate, everything will become much simpler.

Six, do not mean to help others;

Ma once said that success means helping others. That's right.

If you work in a company and you find that your work can be done on your own without any assistance, you are mostly mixed. On the contrary, the more complex and advanced your work requires more collaboration. In the actual work I found that I was in a network of cooperation, I could not work without the help of others.

When you are busy with a job, some colleagues come to you and ask for help. In many cases, we will directly or even rudely refuse to do so. We do not know that this is the seed that will give you trouble in the future. Geomantic turns, in a company, everyone's work a great chance of crossing each other, maybe you will spend money, these connections need to be maintained. Today you helped others, maybe the other side will become your life-saving straw, which is very possible.

One day I was struggling to cope with a project summary when a colleague from other departments came to see me talk about cooperation and I did not know him. I patiently introduced him to the situation and really formed several times Happy cooperation, six months later, my promotion to the defense, I found him to be my respondent ......

Seven, goals and then goals, quantify and then quantify;

No goal, not called work; not quantified, are not called the goal.

When accepting a job, ask what the goal is; in arranging a job, explain what the goal is. This does not make it clear, are nonsense.

Do not want to become a donkey blindfolded? Then in addition to clearly aware of their goals, you have to know your department, your company's goals, the most critical, you need to know that your work in the overall goal of What position, what role to play. If you find that the purpose of your job and the overall goal of small or not, then you can easily be removed.

Dismissing employees or scoring employee performance "unqualified" is a headache, but in fact it is not difficult. The key is to work with each employee in advance to develop quantitative goals, and always remind staff, whether his work has met the requirements. Did not reach the quantitative indicators, dismissal or "unqualified" is taken for granted, in front of the data, then hypocritical people have nothing to say. On the contrary, if we talk about feeling and talking about hope, we can not do it.

It is my duty to find a solution to the problem.

The work arranged by the leadership can not be said "I can not do it." "I can not do it."

The company asked us to work, is to solve the problem, if we can not solve the problem, we have no value. Difficulties in work promotion, can not continue, this is a normal thing, we need to do is take the initiative to find answers and ways, even if you do not fit, then go ask, but in any case can not lead you Say, I will not.

The day before yesterday, I heard in the company's leadership team next door to arrange colleagues set a meeting room, the company's work experience, people know that the meeting room is very difficult to order, get out, you still need to "care relationship, go back door." This little fellow may not have been booked, so he and his leader said, "I did not subscribe to it." His leadership was immediately in a hurry and said: "What to do? Need me to order it?"

It is justified to get angry with this leader. After finding out he can not find a conference room, the little fellow should do his own work to solve the problem - the simplest is to consult with his old colleague.

The ability to solve problems is one of the most critical capabilities of employees. It is particularly normal for us to encounter difficulties in our work, at which point we have an obligation to find a solution to the problem.

Nine, try not to say "not me, I do not have";

The vast majority of people in the face of criticism, instinctive reaction is to shirk its responsibility, this time the mantra is "not me", "no me." I always feel that in many cases, the more mature people, the less they face the problem with instinctive reactions because they have more self-control.

Try not to say "no me" or "no me", because these words have no effect and the leaders are accustomed to such shirk without any action at all. At this time if we can take the initiative to assume responsibility, but it reflects a burden

when. Even if it really was wronged, on the spot justification is often not the most sensible choice, you can first remain silent, private opportunities and leadership to find opportunities to communicate. See Article 3 for details.

Ten, "words will lose" died miserable;

In the company, less gossip, do not say nonsense, do not be non-human.

You believe it: every word you say, your boss will know. Good words may not necessarily bad words are certain.

Or to be honest person, so the most simple, but also benefit the most. The principle of integrity is: criticize the face that praise behind the talk.

Eleven, know when to leave.

A lot of colleagues and friends talked to me about the topic of separation. My advice to my friends is that if you feel unhappy about your job, do not leave your office because you are unhappy because you are not in charge, boss is not like, Too tired, relationships are too complicated ... My experience with many large companies I guarantee: Almost all the companies I work in, the unhappy things are the same.

So when did you leave? I think there are two situations:

1, in this company, you have no room for growth, can not learn more things;

In this company, you have learned enough knowledge that you can get started on new areas or new platforms.