Children do not want to go to school so parents worried helpless _ consulting

The child has not gone to school for two weeks, let the parents are anxious helpless, to the child also dozen scold, also apologized, no matter how to start a good time to go to school, but the point or grasp the door frame is not willing to let go, said that their fear, said his stomach pain, said headache, when the parents have no way, the child will comfort down, will be very obedient , but also help parents do some housework, in the words of parents, if it is not because of school this matter, the child really did not say, but the child still, do not go to school how to make sense, because parents worry, also take the child to many hospitals have been checked, and even let the doctor to prescribe medicine to take home, but the child has been rebellious to school, Let the parents baffled, I do not understand what the child really happened.

In the consultation, I learned that children usually study well, at home and school is very popular with parents and teachers like, usually home from school will do their own homework, if not the recent occurrence of this thing, with Mom and dad's words really did not let their own nerve-racking things, although the two people sometimes because of business disputes, But it's not a big deal, and it's going to be calm soon, mother's temper is very hot, as long as there is anything wrong will be sent out, this time will not let her, like the consultation in the father said, she is such a person, sometimes also to children, because busy two people very little time calmly sit down to communicate, Because the wife has a view, but also to avoid to provoke her, in his own words, sometimes with the child to speak more than with his wife, because the wife nagging, temper violence to their own unbearable, especially the recent children do not go to school, two people can say together, are busy for the children's affairs, because of what methods have thought, In the end, the child is unwilling to go to school, two people to the child pain and love, will hit the child, just like dad said, because send the child to school, at home to speak well, but not to the school entrance, there is a child incredibly to dad said: Dad, you hit me well, as long as you do not let me go to school, as long as you play I can make you feel comfortable, You hit-----. Let father lift hands did not fall down, there is a faint pain, the child is how, what is the problem let the child make such a choice, even if every day beaten also unwilling to go to school, but also with the child teacher contact, the teacher also said in the school did not happen anything, Want the child parents to take the child to look for a psychologist to see, think the child psychology perhaps what problem.

Children don't talk much, in the words of the father, at home and the child can have a lot of words, one of their own on duty did not go home, and their children can call one hours, when asked this one-hour father and children talk about what, Dad said is to talk about how important, if not to go to school, No knowledge, etc will let outsiders despise------, if not really contact with the child, it is hard to believe that a 7-year-old child can talk with his father about one hours of school topics, not to hang up the phone, even promised to go to school but eventually did not return to school, in the advisory interaction, also learned that some time ago, Because the child homework problem by mother beat scold a meal, at that time, dad, and his mother quarreled, because two people bad mood, incredibly do not know how noisy, even the topic of divorce said out, mother once again, if this is to throw the child outside, to send people, Cannot because the child influence this family------two because this thing defends the child's noodles to be noisy some, also is in the psychological consultation room father just remembered then the child was frightened to crouch in the corner, cries lets the father mother not to quarrel, oneself will be obedient, oneself will go to school well-------

The child does not go to school for the like. From many cases of psychological counseling, many problems behind the children often have problems with the existence of parents to support, like today this child, although in the mother and father after the quarrel is also to go to school, but also is not long to become unhappy, no joke, not to say that their stomach pain is a headache, said not to go to school, Mom and dad think the child is disobedient, will take some medicine to leave the child to stay at home, just wait for the children do not want to go to school to arouse the attention of parents, start just think the child is not comfortable, from another point of view, the child is not willing to go to school, and worry about their parents will abandon themselves, will leave themselves, because they do not obey, Because they do not make up fear of losing their mom and dad, with their own ideas to contain mom and dad, because only their own illness, only their own not to go to school, even if they are beaten scolded their parents will not leave themselves, will not say divorce, because no one child willing to lose their parents, This is also a common occurrence in many children's problems, not children how, but perfect as parents, as a child's father and mother how, how to reverse itself, how through their own changes to affect children, give the child psychological support, let the child feel the love of parents rather than blindly reprimand and dissatisfaction, Just like the father in the text can telephone with the child one hours, I do not remember with his wife when said the truth, but the life of the topic is very dull interaction, their own mind just put on the child, when in a family, as parents can not face their own problems, can not give themselves the right position, Heart repressed many emotions and helplessness, the emergence of such a problem is inevitable.

Do not let children bear the responsibility of parents too much, the growth to the child, parents need to be responsible for their own affairs, need to first of their own emotional treatment to pay attention to their children, if only for their own heart selfish love to injustice repressed children, and how to talk about love children. Even in love, I believe this love is a deformity of love, not children do not want to go to school, but in cooperation is not willing to go to school behind want to use their own actions to prove what, want to their parents say what. Worthy of the parents in their own reflection, no one child is unwilling to go to school, and no child like with their parents toss treason, the problem is in the face and deal with children's problems, whether there is time to let themselves sink down to perceive their feelings and feelings. When you have a lot of emotions and frustration, what can be taken to help love children.