Where is the time? Have you counted the time you spent on your mobile phone every day ?, -- Machine

Where is the time? Have you counted the time you spent on your mobile phone every day ?, -- Machine

The volcano video has an advertisement called "Pat, pat, and Pat". Today we are talking about "Click and brush", "click and brush", "click and brush" on a daily basis, and click "cell phone" or "click on a circle of friends, mobile phone addiction! It must be difficult for many people to quit!

For example, you may have experienced the following daily fragments:

It was work time, but I accidentally took out my cell phone and started to brush it. I didn't know how to put it down until I couldn't get a fart.

 

In the next half an hour that has just been sent out in the circle of friends, you must click it again and view it five times. It mainly depends on who likes me and who gives me comments. New message prompts on the mobile phone interface always make you feel angry, even if it is only one second.

 

It seems that someone is always asking me to talk about the illusion of an eight-digit order ......

 

If your mom tried to persuade you, it would be like this: "watching your cell phone all day is not going to happen! Give me less time !」 The effect of this talk is as thin and worthless as you say to a drug addict, "drug abuse is not good, don't suck in the future.

 

In fact, you also know that it is not good to do this, or even brush your mobile phone with a sense of guilt.

 

The core issue is: You know the problem, that is, you cannot quit.

 

When you do these things, most of them are unconscious and imperceptible. Most of them, driven by the brain, directly execute actions that may cause self-doubt and guilt in the future. This article not only discusses mobile phone addiction, but also describes addiction in the general sense in daily life.

 

Let's talk about addiction first. Let's talk about how to become a healthy and lively contemporary young man from a serious game addiction.

 

You may not believe it. I have been playing games for more than 12 hours on weekends in junior and senior high schools. You can drop water or drink at a time. A day in the game and a living fairy. If you have money or don't want to buy anything else, just buy a card. At that time, when I was a minor, I also studied how to start up in an Internet cafe without displaying my ID card.

 

Brilliant Achievements in the game are everywhere in reality. In fact, the appearance is just plain. The score goes from top to middle, to bottom, and then to the limit. The teacher smiled and comforted me, so I don't have to worry too much, because there is no space to drop. The front of the score is basically supported by strong liberal arts ......

 

I used to think a lot of amazing ways to completely quit the game.

 

For example, my mom went on a business trip and hid the computer power cord to prevent me from playing games. I smiled. After she left, she turned the house to the sky, and finally found the dear power cord in the cupboard where the quilt was placed. My mom even said, "The next time you play the game, I will hit you .」

 

There are some amazing ways. For example, I also thought that if I had to spend money on surfing the Internet, I would hand over some of the netbooks to my deskmate and ask him to keep them safe. Later, I really wanted to go online, and the old man couldn't stop it. I rushed to a friend's house and threatened him to pay the money... and then he broke the money with me ......

 

Some countries and research centers in Asia once investigated that when people are addicted to online games, their brain activity tends to be similar to that of game addicts.

 

The Mental Illness Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, published by the American Psychiatric Association for 13 years, introduces the concept of "Online Game Barrier.

 

If a certain area of the brain often gives birth to a sense of excitement due to games, other areas will weaken. Emotion, cognition, and other capabilities will also decline.

 

Last year, the World Health Organization turned game addiction into mental disorder ......

 

I also realized the crazy and absurd aspects of my life a few years later. So the question is, why does this happen and how does it happen? Is it related to the operating mechanism of the brain area?

 

We all know that dopamine is a neurotransmitter and also a brain secretion associated with a variety of addictive behaviors. Since the 1950s S, psychologists have been constantly changing their cognition of dopamine. For example, I thought "dopamine is the source of happiness", and later I realized that dopamine does not directly bring you happiness, but stimulate your expectations and make you feel happy if you do so.

 

It can be easily understood as a motive material that drives your mind and promises to you. 「 Do it, dear. After you finish this, you will be happy .」 Brain said.

 

Dopamine hijacked your free time attention.

 

For women's day a few days ago, all kinds of merchants launched the slogans "Goddess Festival" and "Queen's Day", which were both full reduction and rebates. In fact, your dopamine was also being hijacked, let your point of view jump between promotional products unconsciously, let you think that you have bought that, what will happen. Let you think that after you buy it, you will be happy.

 

This process is like this: information recognition (external stimulation) → brain reward system (dopamine secretion, making a happy promise) → executing actions ......

 

But the strange thing is that after we get that thing, we are not happy. To be accurate, it is not as happy as what the brain promised us.

 

For people who want to lose weight, the happiest time to eat fried chicken is before and before eating. The mental state after eating is a disaster.

 

You think you will be happy, but you are not.

 

If we divide what we want to do into two types:

 

The first is something that seems painful and actually happy.

The second is something that looks happy but painful.

 

In most cases, we are happy to do the second because people are cheated by the promise of the brain.

 

The so-called "dopamine hijacking" is actually not so happy. It is wrapped in a "happy" package by the brain. Brain, a sly product manager, has sold you the product "truly makes you happy" that does not actually make you happy for a moment.

 

Unreasonable things are given reasonable motives, so you can do anything you don't want.

 

In the social network era, you don't hesitate to brush your phone because you are looking forward to an illusory reward-thumb ups, comments, and forwarding ...... the cost of getting these "fake happiness" is so low.

 

In this case, your physical experience is in conflict with your psychological experience.

 

From the physiological experience, you can easily move your fingers to see the new world in the circle of friends. However, you do not have to concentrate on your work, your efficiency is low, and many things are not done. These inner stones make your psychological experience extremely bad.

 

In the past, I used to indulge in playing games. Objectively speaking, it was quite cool, but I had a terrible psychological experience. instead of enjoying the game's expected pleasure, I fell into the abyss of self-doubt.

 

Many people may fall into a vicious circle: do not want to work → brush the phone → do not want to work after the mobile phone is refreshed → do not want to work, do not want to brush the mobile phone more ......

 

In this vicious circle, our real intention is to delay infinitely. In order to escape the dilemma of reality, we unconsciously enter the cycle with some sweetness. A working person suddenly clicks his circle of friends. One of the most important reasons is that his work consumes energy. his mobile phone farming behavior is just an unconscious feedback of his work anxiety. These unconscious distracting actions are the projection of anxiety, and they are not what they really want.

 

It seems to make you happy, but it actually increases the pain. There is no other way to eliminate anxiety. The only way is to do things.

 

Even if you need to break down 1000 small steps to solve the problem, even if you solve one of them, your anxiety will disappear from 1 point, then you go to the positive loop.

 

In contrast to the second one, the first one looks painful, but actually happy.

 

Running and fitness are typical examples.

 

Running is a kind of objective exercise that will make you feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable. However, after running, you will feel exceptionally nice and especially approve of your feelings. It is a real and real happiness. Most people are willing to do the first thing on their own, but they will not consciously do the second thing. How can this problem be solved?

 

I used to indulge in games and write my homework in front of the computer. If I write half of my work, I have to play a game of Warcraft. At that time, I didn't realize that, in fact, when I clicked the game icon, this pathological brain loop had taken effect. The next step is to play the game. After the game is completed, you can see that you do not want to do the job. Continue to play the game ......

 

The most important step to break this habit loop is to realize what you are doing. You are consciously executing the action, not unconsciously executing the action driven by the brain.

 

When you work halfway, you start to brush up your circle of friends. When you open your circle of friends, there is a bullet in your heart: "What are you doing? This is not what I really want to do !」 Then stop! Stop! Stop!

 

You can repeatedly ask yourself, "What do I really want to do now? Is it better for me to finish my work? Or is it better for me to brush the circle of friends? If I am a friend of mine, do I get tired, disheartened, and do not want to work in 15 minutes ?」

 

The key lies in the following: Make Choices consciously and do not become a zombie of the brain unconsciously. You must realize that you are making a choice, and you have a choice in your hand. As long as you calm down for a moment, you will find the happiness that the brain promises to you, just like an illusory bubble. You can't afford to think about it.

 

A person's most precious ability lies in active choice.

 

In essence, everyone tends to take the initiative to do valuable things, but most of their lives are passive choices. We choose not to do it, but the brain chooses to do it. Passive choice brings guilt, guilt, and apologies for yourself.

 

If you are just a soup puppet of the brain, there is no difference between you and the mouse that is happy to eat sugar in the lab. The biggest problem with procrastination is that you are never aware of what you are doing. Without stopping refreshing, refreshing Weibo, refreshing Weibo, and refreshing Douban.

 

In the end, I felt the weakness of my life and the loneliness of being abandoned by the world. Then I moaned one or two words of sorrow in my social network. He never thought about the inaction of his own.

 

Remember the day when I quit the game addiction, it was a distant and sultry afternoon. I understand that the first step to solving fear is to go into the fear and see its appearance. It's like the tentacles are all wandering in the deep sea, and the big devil is wandering in the depths of the cave. As an online addiction youth, I am determined to face it and do what I really want to do in a dangerous place.

 

On that day, I wrote a paper in the Internet cafe, read a book, and recite 30 English words.

 

That day I sat in the noisy temptation. I sat down in the temptation to see if I had the courage to make a choice.

 

Then we verified one thing with the result:

 

In fact, people will always choose.