Yu Minhong: select a path and go forward.

@ Yu Minhong: select a path and go forward.

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Dear students:

Good evening!

Thank you very much for coming to the gymnasium of Shanghai Jiao Tong University after a long journey from other schools during such a hard military training period.

I have read my PPT introduction with Qian Wenzhong. At least from my understanding, Qian Wenzhong is not as good as above. At Peking University, he was the only one who studied Sanskrit. He passed all the tests and did not compare them. On a stage without competition, he developed his leisurely mentality and created today's Qian Wenzhong. Therefore, he is used to opening a door for his own life in his own world. I said that the introduction concept is that each of us has our own life. When you compare yourself with others, you actually look down on your own behavior, because each individual is unique, every person lives for a lifetime, not a day.

I do not like the performance of my classmates after I enter the university. In college, many students do not want to be more unique than their thoughts. Instead, they want to be more boring than some boring things. They are better than brand-name clothes and family backgrounds. If I had a family background with Qian Wenzhong, I would be mad at him; from the generations of celebrities in Qian's family, if Qian Wenzhong and Qian Xuesen were, he would also be killed. However, he does not need to compare with Qian Xuesen, nor does he need Qian Xuesen's scientific and technical knowledge. He wants humanistic and philosophical knowledge, they both contribute to the development of Chinese culture and science and technology in different ways. I am also angry with Qian Wenzhong. Why? His parents and their parents all recognize words, while my parents do not recognize words. They are all farmers. When we enter the university, if we are still comparing who is better than their family background, who is better than their achievements, who is better than their costumes, who looks better than who's girlfriend, this is a lack of confidence, look down on their own behavior.

In an era without objective standards, there is no way to compare with a so-called external objective standard. The first step after entering the University, if you can get rid of these comparative psychology, you will be half done. What are the other aspects to be compared? We need to compare the lifelong ideals. in this life, you want to turn yourself into a person who is knowledgeable like Qian Wenzhong, it is still an educational and training institution like me. What you want to know is whether you like it or not. In addition, you need to compare today and tomorrow, tomorrow and the day after tomorrow, this year and next year, next year and the day after tomorrow, whether there is progress in thinking and independence consciousness. Have you ever changed from an unthinking person to a thoughtful person? From a person imitating others' thoughts to a person with independent thoughts?
Therefore, we should not compare with others. You should compare with yourself and establish your own independent consciousness, thoughts, and individuals. It is especially important that you be an independent person who can integrate into this society or lead this society. This is the first step for you to change yourself. Therefore, do not judge whether you are good or bad according to secular standards, just as you do not judge whether this job is suitable for you based on your salary. By my side, I found that people with a monthly salary of 20 thousands or 30 thousands had an unpleasant life, but those with a salary of 2000 or 3000 had a pleasant life. Of course, the more you earn, the better you get, on the premise of a pleasant job, a pleasant study, and a pleasant study. When one thing does not make you feel happy no matter how many things you give at last, in a deep sense, it has left you with no room to think and relax, it is not a good job. For example, I think that New Oriental was a perfect job for me ten years ago. After I walked into the classroom, I could bring my students to drink beer or chat with New Oriental teachers, chat with colleagues from Peking University. However, today's New Oriental is not a desire. I found that today, I am getting increasingly busy. In the VIP room just now, Qian Wenzhong said that ordinary people like you think that success is a typical success. I said that is precisely where Chinese students are immature, they think it is wrong to make a career and become a successful person with a reputation. Of course, this can be a sign of success. So far, I think the part of my life should actually be partially back to people like Qian Wenzhong, of course, as a friend, I am talking about having time to communicate and chat with him, including arguing with him. Through the collision of ideas, I can further improve myself, this is what I want to pursue now. Each stage of a person has different pursuits. This is the only way to grow a person. For example, in poverty, pursuing wealth is my goal; in rural areas, pursuing Peking University is my goal; now, we can get rid of the influence of wealth to create our own ideas, creating a self-defined thing becomes my goal.

I met two questions that students asked me most: "Is there any interest in my life, Miss Yu?" and "How should I choose my life path ".

Let's start with the first question. In fact, it is ridiculous to ask this question, because only you know whether or not you have any interest in your life. Whether or not you have an interest in the future is not the same as whether or not you have an interest in the future. Many students are the heads of student unions or groups. They are the first and second persons to take the lead in school, at least among my college students and those I know, in general, the students who keep their scores in the class are less likely to achieve significant academic and social achievements in the future. Qian Wenzhong is usually the last few in the class. When I graduated from Peking University, my average score was the fifth in our class, but this does not mean that we have no room for development in the future. Therefore, do not regard the university landscape as your future social landscape. Many students with extremely good college scores will only learn, suffer from social attacks, and then suffer from a slump. Even if they face criticism and criticism from their professors, still be able to enter the society in a "Shameless" manner.

Is there any interest in our life? What should we do? The most important thing is to understand that the process of life is a process that constantly changes your destiny. Sometimes our lives have been fixed. For example, your looks are fixed. No matter how you make your looks in your life, it will not change. Even beauty cannot change the ugly nature. As a story tells us, a couple and a woman are very beautiful. As a result, the children born out are very ugly. As a man, he thinks, our children should not be so ugly. Is she having an affair? Finally, the girl admitted that she had been married three times before. For example, boys often decide their self-confidence based on their own height. If this is the case, doesn't Qian Wenzhong try to pin it in front of me? I'm one more than him. Some people told me that I could not see myself in the middle of boys, but I still could not see myself in the middle of girls. In fact, there is no problem. Lu Xun is 1.58 meters, Deng Xiaoping is 1.57 meters, and Napoleon is 1.56 meters. If you are 1.55 meters, what kind of person will you become? Do not judge your future based on your own appearance, do not change things that cannot be changed, and accept it calmly. Only by accepting it can you have peace and confidence. I am myself.

On the basis of accepting it, let's see how it can change in our life. For example, I was destined to be born into a peasant family, but I can change myself from this point. I call this process "changing my life", that is, changing my fate. If I do not stick to the college entrance examination for three years, I have been one of the more than a dozen elders in our village so far. We are all childhood partners and will never go out of the village. Although I have done a lot of work in New Oriental, I feel that I have lived a very well in my life. I have traveled through the mountains and water in the world and met people like Qian Wenzhong. Therefore, in your life, you will find that it is up to you to decide what your life has taken. I changed from a farmer to a student at Peking University. I could have been a teacher for my whole life at Peking University, but after all, I became a New Oriental student, doing New Oriental not brings me social status and wealth, but a huge platform for me to prove my ability and vitality in all aspects. That is why you choose to change your destiny and you need to change it. As I often tell a story about waiting for a rabbit. After entering Shanghai Jiao Tong University, many students feel that they have already adhered to a rabbit. Sitting in such a famous school will have a chance. This is the mentality of waiting for the rabbit and will never succeed. From the bottom of my heart, no one will seize a rabbit for a lifetime and truly satisfy the richness of his life. If it is true, qian Wenzhong should have satisfied his academic achievements 20 years ago. He would not go to CCTV's lecture hall to interpret Xuan Zang's Journey to the West and the three-character Sutra. What you need to do for students is to turn passive farmers into active hunters. I am very glad that when I found a chance in the Education and Training Industry in Early 1990s, I did not continue to teach at Peking University, but instead came out to become a self-employed person. It turns out that it is right. Even if I fail, I will not regret it. If I have no money at the end, I will start from scratch. That's just a simple truth. Therefore, choosing to change your destiny is a long process of constant search, I am still looking for ways to make my life better.
Next, let's talk about another problem. Some people often ask me: "Mr. Yu, How do I choose my life path? How did you make this decision to stay at Peking University or do New Oriental ?" Students asked me the most questions: Do I have a good postgraduate entrance or a good job? Which one has the best impact on my life? What I want to say is that only you can answer this question. The American poet Robert Frost once wrote a poem called "the road without choice". The main idea of one section is: two roads appear in the forest, one is flat Avenue, and the other is twists and turns, finally, I chose twists and turns, and my life was different. Students, what you do is make a difference all your life. There is no saying that you are higher than others or that others are lower than you. There is no difference in the world, only you think which path is the most worthwhile and most valuable for you, rather than hesitate in your choice, it is better to make a decision. The truth is very simple, just like two women A and B are in front of you. In principle, you should immediately know which one you love most. If you hesitate, it must be that A has the advantages that B cannot replace, and B has the advantages that a cannot replace. In this case, only a can be written on one piece of paper, and B can be written on the other, which one can be captured. When you are confused and cannot choose, for example, if you are studying abroad, working, or taking a postgraduate exam, you can take this approach, this is what God tells you which path to take. Don't hesitate if you catch it. If you hesitate, how far can your life go?

Sometimes, God is doomed that you can only do this. In this case, you can do it. Once you choose to do it, you will have no regrets. This is the same as family life. Before a man chooses his or her own woman, if he really wants to spend the rest of his or her life with her, he cannot choose from love. Love is temporary, and marriage is forever. When a girl chooses a temporary boyfriend, she looks very good at finding a handsome and handsome girl. But when she chooses her husband for a lifetime, Gao youshuai accounts for at most 10% of the criteria, people with thoughts, vigor, and future are the true standards. Of course, this involves your judgment. If you fall in love at a university, you can be fascinated by the fact that you like it at a glance. If you graduate from college, you can break up. However, if you place your partner as your lifelong partner, the standards are totally different. In addition to being beautiful, a woman wants to see if she is virtuous, clean, wash clothes, fold quilts, etc. Whether her life is well organized depends on whether a man wants to be ambitious, helpful, or make friends, no matter how it works, these things are a sign that a man may have an interest in the future. This is also a question of judgment. If you select a direction, you have to go forward.

Many of our colleagues are now opportunistic. Why are they opportunistic? There are two reasons: First, we grew up in an only-child family, so that it is difficult to change our personal-centered thinking. Any personal-centered thinking in this world will eventually suffer a major blow, because once you leave your parents and walk into the society, you must build your own individual with the Social Center. Second, this society itself has a very serious list of opportunities. For example, our classmates generally judge whether to do the job or not based on how much money they earn, rather than whether the job has become part of their lifelong career, in this way, we will sacrifice our long-term goals and ideals, making it difficult for you to stick to one thing. In addition, we were confused when we were in college, and our current college students are much more confused and distracted than our generation. The reason for distracting attention is that in addition to the poor reading atmosphere, the University has a strong atmosphere of surfing the Internet, playing games, drinking, and so on. Why? Because the family has money. At that time, we spent the most time drinking wine once a month, saving our living expenses, using a hot water bottle to bring a pot of beer back, and buying a few stacks of small dishes. When we were drinking, we exchanged ideas and felt very emotional. At that time, I had to drink because I had to release my mood after studying hard for a month and exchange my thoughts on reading. We neither have a recorder nor a computer, nor an iPad. The only thing we can do is to brag in the dormitory after reading a few books. This is not the case now. We can't even live in the dormitory sometimes. We just rented a house out of the dormitory when I first reported to my freshman year, I lost one of my four-year college students who were the easiest to accept thoughts, the easiest to accept influences, and exchange with each other. So far, if I want to talk about the four years of my life that have gained the most from me, develop good habits, cultivate my personality, and train my abilities to deal with people, there is no doubt that it is the four-year dormitory life in college. In college, escaping from the dormitory for the sake of comfort is a very stupid thing, but now many people are escaping, and they cannot stand the foot of a person in the dormitory, I cannot stand the snoring of a person in the dormitory. At that time, there were six people in our dormitory, and two people snore in turn, but it was just like this. When I saw the dormitory again, I felt like a brother and I was still in my heart, this is a very precious part of life.

After four years in college, I often say three things are the most important. First, make friends. It is to make friends with boyfriends and girlfriends. It is particularly important to have a group of friends who can talk to you about things and communicate with you. You can accept others' ideas and others' thoughts can change you. Second, if it is possible to talk about a vigorous love affair, I think people do not need to be especially lofty in doing things, but they cannot break the bottom line. Many of us have broken the bottom line. For example, when a college student sees a book, he wants to vomit because he or she is a reader. If you see Professional Books, you want to vomit. If you want to change your major, you want to vomit if you see humanistic books. This is a problem, indicating that you reject your thoughts and knowledge. Also, the relationship we mentioned just now is not about falling in love because of love, but about it because of emptiness, which breaks the bottom line. You can love more than once, but you cannot lack true love. If you are so young, you lose sincerity, purity, and sincerity, it is impossible to want greatness in your life, because the way of love means the greatness of your future soul. In short, there is a bottom line for doing things. Do not break that bottom line. Third, you need to study. Qian Wenzhong: if he does not want to read books or endorse books, he cannot have the ability to export his seal today. In college, I think it really doesn't matter whether the score is good or not, but you have to keep the bottom line. It cannot be said that Steve Jobs has not graduated, Bill Gates has not graduated, and you have not graduated. This is totally two concepts. People drop out of school because they are creative and innovative, and think that their knowledge is higher than that of the classroom. In the United States, you have never graduated from college. After 10 years, you want to go to school again. The original credits are still counted. Therefore, do not steal the concept. I do not like classroom learning when I am in college, so I don't want to learn it, but I can maintain at least one mood. I am studying outside and can read one book after another. Even if you forget the books you have read, it is especially important that you still feel that you are still reading them. Reading a book can give you a kind of self-confidence and create your vision and thoughts. If I do not study in college, it is almost impossible to turn myself into a person with thickness, depth, and career in my life. Without broad thinking in doing big things, it is impossible. Therefore, you must read hundreds of books carefully and turn your experience into your own wisdom.

I will summarize it again. First, believe that you can do things and change your fate. Make a clear choice for your own life, and unswervingly go on. Even if this road is narrow, as long as the road is in front, as long as you can go farther, you can see the scenery not seen by others. Second, remember what you do when you come to college, and do not treat University as a place of mixed life. You can mix, but there are different ways to mix the days, university and you mix the days is completely two concepts. If you grasp these key points, you will not be wrong if you stick to these principles during your college life or after graduation. There are some bright spots in life, and I feel that my mind and spirit are as rich as I think, even if I am down, I feel that I am still a person with full and spiritual wealth, I think this is the ultimate goal of people. As for whether you can earn money in the future, whether you have friends walking with you, and whether you have many honors to add to you, it is a good fate to treat them with a casual attitude. However, all these things do not prevent you from reading, making friends, thinking, and turning yourself into an independent thinker.

My speech ends here. Thank you!