10 reasons for marital indifference

The indifference between husband and wife is often a dangerous signal of "marriage change". In today's society, which is constantly improved, such as clothing, food, shelter, and transportation, the emotional factors become more and more important.
　　So what are the main causes of marital indifference?
1. After marriage, we will strengthen the "memories and sweetness that cannot be wiped out" in less than our intention"
Nowadays, it is normal for young people to get married only after three or five of them fall in love. However, an abnormal psychological phenomenon is: "The loss is always the best ." Some young people who "passively Fall In Love" due to various circumstances always habitually beautify the "lost one" and miss it again in regret. This kind of "Nostalgia" mentality is more intense, especially when the spouse is not ideal enough after marriage. In this kind of "special liking", it is bound to show a passive indifference to the spouse's emotions. After the other party detects this kind of "injury", it will also play down the feelings in the stimulus.
　2. repeated conflicts and frustrations
As the saying goes: "You can't afford to hide ." However, in husband and wife Life, "It's hard to hide when you cannot afford it ". What is the beauty of a husband and wife's emotions when one party's overbearing, arrogant, or bad habits and quirks repeatedly make a negative stimulus to the spouse? This is one of the so-called psychological phenomena of "near distance is the most prone to rejection. Therefore, it is not difficult to draw a conclusion: to maintain the relationship between husband and wife, it is important to promptly discover problems, communicate in a timely manner, and correct and adjust the relationship in a timely manner. For example, some couples have become a habit of fighting, and some people are still happy with this. They feel very full. One day, the two men are truly active, so they are too heavy to beat each other and hurt each other, then the emotion will be completely indifferent.
　　3. Be patient with the spouse's mistakes. One is to remember and hate, and the other is to be forgiven and tolerant.
To deepen the feelings between husband and wife, you must be tolerant and understanding. For example, the passive spouse should give the other party room for correction and understanding of the hot-headed "Extramarital Love" or the pursuit of novelty and excitement at the moment. Nowadays, the most common behavior is to worry about the spouse's negligence, and the emotion will be indifferent.
　4. the spouse is not placed in the correct position.
In the minds of some "male", the wife should be a natural slave to serve men. When his wife served him with hot meals or handed over his bronzing clothes, he did not know how to say thank you politely. He also saw friendship between "friends. On the contrary, in the eyes of the wives who hate each other, the vast majority of husbands are mediocre. They care for their husbands. Words of affirmation and encouragement are always more expensive than gold. This will inevitably not affect the self-esteem of the other party.
　　5. Always give "lowest score" to the other party"
In a sports competition, for the sake of justice, several referees always have to rate the contestants of gymnastics, skating, and other projects, and finally take the average value. However, in husband and wife life, you are the most rated for your spouse. The survey and tests by psychologists show that the score given by more than 90% of spouses is lower than that of non-marital members. Behind this kind of prejudice against the spouse, the "heartless killer" hidden is what people expect from "high expectations of marriage ". For example, there is a clear gap between a man's view of his wife and the height of his husband. However, this "negative score" is one of the main reasons for indifference.
　　6. I have not developed a common interest for a long time.
Although couples do not have the desire to transform their peers, it is necessary for them to actively cultivate common interests. Observe the indifference of couples who are similar to passers-by. Most of them have their own hobbies and friends in addition to eating and sleeping. Couples who do not have a common hobby naturally lose many "Hot Topics". How can they deepen their emotions without speculation?
　7. Do not really understand each other
A psychological mistake between husband and wife is: once they get married, they feel very familiar with it. In this self-righteousness, we often do something that hurts the feelings of the other party. For example, a wife with a cheerful and big personality is actually delicate and fragile. When she fell ill in bed, she needed her husband's care, but she went to the field with her team. Before leaving, I also said to my wife, "I have one hundred peace of mind when your mother is by your side ." Women, almost hope that men really care about and love them.
For women, their understanding of their husbands is more likely to be biased. Do men focus on their careers or love and life? In this regard, the wives are often not very clear, some women think that their husband is a "workaholic" type of business type, so the emotional care for him is careless. After a successful career, men are most likely to look back to find their emotional richness and sustenance. A woman who does not know this often finds out that her husband has a new life in the dark.
8. seemingly reasonable habits are just a kind of emotional wear
Generally speaking, most couples are used to earning money, and women prefer to purchase and spend money. Although the average revenue is growing, it is increasingly difficult to compete. As a wife, if you do not know how hard a man is to earn money and habitually buy fashionable clothes that are increasingly dazzled by you, it will be an irrational act that affects the feelings of husband and wife. It is a good wife to spend money before marriage.
For men, "Breaking the habits of life" is a kind of creativity, which is easier to do than women, which can enhance the feelings of husband and wife. For example, if you try to have a lunch on weekends, new tricks will appear in the same sex life, and take the initiative to give her a birthday gift or something when you get used to buying new clothes for you by your wife. Another example is that if you are a man who prefers to smoke or drink, breaking the "habit" and "Half the control" for your wife will also greatly enhance the cohesion of both parties.
9. "plain or light" may not be "all true". Too much hiding is not conducive to emotional enhancement.
In plain life, couples need to be vigilant against conflicts and conceal the true and emotional aspects.
If a husband and wife have a prominent family background, his husband and wife are greatly influenced by the light of his father-in-law's family ". As a result, the bad habits and behaviors of the wife will not offend the daughter and her family. His wife does not analyze her husband's repressed inner world too much. Over time, the man lost his sexual function in his mental distortion, and his husband and wife felt at the freezing point. Later, in an exciting extramarital affair, the man suddenly found that his sexual function has been restored, and thus had a sudden awakening of his previous life, "plain or not true, in this way, I will go back and seriously reflect on the abnormal relationship between my wife and my love and marriage.
　10. "interest in exploration" is greater than "ability to absorb"
After marriage, couples have a "degree" in dealing with the opposite sex. At the same time, there should be a kind of internal ability to absorb various directors and supplement nutrition for marriage. Some people have only "exploration interest" for the foreign sex after marriage ", the lack of ability to absorb beneficial nutrition makes the relationship between the two sexes more boring. For example, when a male is in normal contact with the foreign sex, it is not only the appreciation and entertainment of both parties, but also the common mentality and psychology of some women, so as to reflect on the shortcomings and mistakes in communicating with his wife.