17th-threat count

17th threat count

-- How to Use the weakness of human nature to control others

Everyone knows that "ELE. Me, ELE. Me, And ELE. Me ". But most people cannot endure fear and defeat them. This is the psychological basis for the effectiveness of intimidation.

At the beginning of the competition, intimidation is often used to establish a psychological advantage for yourself. In addition, it can surprise your opponent and lead to weakness.

To scare people, you must find ways to be more courageous than ordinary people and be more aggressive than your opponent. Taking the game as an example, there are several ways to make people more brave: ① find the reason to despise your opponent; ② speak loudly and create a hacker; ③ use your eyes as a sword to force your opponent; ④ The Body presents a winning posture; ⑤ The backlights stand.

There are several common tactics to intimidate: I. using the law to put the "Shang fangbao Jian" under pressure is an important method different from the past in contemporary legal society.

2. the word "fear" is often used in the pop-up and compliment, but sometimes it is not necessary.

3. preemptible action, winning first-hand actions, and striving to create opportunities to win.

4. Make yourself more firm with a dull and low profile. This is a relatively familiar method.

5. Use silence to give rise to terror, and ignore your opponent. This is the best threat.

In addition, it should be emphasized that intimidation is a very difficult technology, and it is very risky to be self-defeating without knowing the depth of your opponent.

1. I am brave enough to destroy my opponent. During the Eastern Han Dynasty, Lian fan was a descendant of Zhao's famous Lian Po during the Warring States period. He once worked in the cloud (managed by the Tokto flag in Inner Mongolia. At that time, the Huns invaded the system on a large scale, and the alarm went viral every day. In the old example, if more than five thousand people were attacked by an enemy, a message can be sent to the neighboring counties. The officials under Lian fan wanted to spread the plain text and request assistance. Lian fan did not agree, but personally led only a few troops to go to the border to defend against the Huns cavalry.

Many Huns are flourishing, while Lian fan's troops are inferior to Huns. It happened that the sun fell down. Lian fan ordered the soldiers to bundle the two torch together, ignition three of them, and put the other in their hands, scattered in the camp and camp around the line, suddenly fire like stars, very spectacular. The Huns army was far from seeing the expansion of the Chinese army's camp, with a lot of fire and fear of many reinforcements. Lian Fan said to his subordinates: "Our strategy is to raid Huns by fire in the dark, so that they do not know how many people we have, in this way, they will be scared, and we will be able to annihilate all of them."

When the enemy was about to retreat in the early morning, Lian fan ordered the troops to get up early for dinner, and then went straight to the Huns camp to catch up with the strong wind. Lian fan ordered more than a dozen people to ambush behind the hunu barracks with a war drum, and agreed with them that, as soon as the fire burned, they wanted to drum and call. All the others were armed with weapons and bows and arrows, and lay an ambush on both sides of the gate of the enemy camp. Lian fan set fire to the wind, while the people waiting in front and back were drumming and shouting. The Huns army was not able to defend against the attacks. They joined forces in disorder and trampled on, killing thousands of people. The Chinese army sought after several hundred new enemies and achieved a major victory. Since then, Huns have never dared to infringe on the cloud.

One of the prerequisites for intimidation is that it looks like a decent image. Only when the other party has a fear can the other party be held down. A timid and low-performing person cannot use intimidation. If it is difficult to do so, it will harm himself. In the end, it is a battle of courage and will.

The following describes some brave ways to intimidate or dare to intimidate each other at critical moments: ① find out your opponent's weaknesses when you are timid or inferior, it is a way to defeat your opponent first.

When you feel the other party's threat, you can find out the other party's ridiculous places. When you think about it, the pressure and timidity will all disappear. If you cannot pick out the opponent's faults within the scope of your vision, then imagine his humble position on other occasions, in this way, the other party will be pulled down from the throne of authority or power. For example, if the chairman of the board in the branch office is on the board of the head office, he may be a small role in his seat. When he returns home, he may also be a Mr. inner, who cannot beat his head in front of his wife; in entertainment, it may be a father who is bullied by a child and has no fighting power.

If you only see the advantages of your opponent, it is often easy to trust your opponent, and you will not be able to cope with it. You just need to think that the other person is the same as ours, but you just need to think about it, you will not be timid or inferior to him if he is humble or faulty.

② Speak out loud as much as possible, arm your own mind, and create a momentum to overwhelm the other party.

A grand and loud voice can give your opponent a confidence, and you can also use it to generate strong confidence to achieve unexpected results. In a debate or quarrel, some may involuntarily increase their noise, In order to overlay their opponents. This is the instinctive use of "voice can enhance confidence.

When both sides fought against each other in ancient China's battlefields, the higher the voice, the higher the morale and the stronger the morale of the soldiers. When Lu and Qi fought, Qi began to drum up first. At the beginning, Qi was furious. Lu Jun does not move. Gradually, the drum of the Qi army is getting smaller and smaller, and the morale is gradually low. At this time, all the troops are busy fighting and fighting to defeat the Qi army. When the little boy walks through the cemetery in the night, he whistle happily and loudly to be brave. Generally, he overcomes the fear of walking through the cemetery because he "blew up" his courage.

Your voice is your weapon. As long as you show your courage, your courage will come. If you are brave, you have the courage to come. If you are brave, you will be afraid.

③ Use your eyes to stare at a body part, such as the eyes and hands of the other party, to compress the other party. For example, in the case of a conflict in love, in order to prove that your point of view is correct, words can no longer take effect, wise people will switch to their eyes to concentrate on their hands or eyes, let your anger and requests pass through this kind of gaze to the other party, "At this time, there is no sound ". In this way, we can give the other party a psychological pressure, and avoid the calm and impulsive psychological status of both parties in the case of language conflicts.

In fact, this "one breakthrough" tactic is quite effective in any competition. The so-called "one breakthrough" means gathering all forces to attack the weakest part of the opponent.

For example, in a conversation, your eyes may look directly at a part of your body. In this way, not only will it not be threatened by the pressure of the other side, but it will also make the other side have to focus on the area to be watched. In other words, your line of sight not only balances the attitude of the other party, but also disperses the consciousness of the other party. In addition, you can also create a situation that forces the other party to be confused and receive the effect of situation conversion.

④ In the process of treating each other, the body should set a good posture to shake the opponent.

When both sides fight against each other, physical actions are also a weapon to enhance confidence. The essay "Sparrow" written by gativ, the home of the National Congress of the Communist Party of China, is a small thing: then a small sparrow fell down from the tree and could not fly. The Hound saw it, and then run. At this moment, an old sparrow flew down from the tree, blocked the sparrow, and opened its feathers at the hound, staring at the hound with an evil eye. In fact, the sparrow uses its feathers, movements, and eyes in its instinct to demonstrate to the hound and get rid of its fear.

In a sports competition, athletes sometimes consciously raise their heads to improve their confidence in defeating their opponents and make a sense of no fear of anything. During the negotiation, this can also deter opponents.

⑤ Occupies the backlight position, which can produce deterrent effect.

Standing on the opposite side of the light, not only can give the other side a dazzling physical effect, but also can have a variety of psychological effects. First of all, the image standing on the scene, just like photography, makes the recipient unable to recognize their own expressions. On the contrary, the image of the other party is swept by the sun in every corner, and thus each part of the body is exposed. By this alone, the enemy will be worried. What's more, the post-built image can also be integrated with light. This gives the other party a greater impression on themselves than the physical objects. in this post-exposure state, the other party can overwhelm the other party mentally.

If this principle is taken into account, do not stand in the dark shade of the light even if you do not stand in the light-receiving position. In this way, when the other party seems to be more powerful, the use of the effect of light can be psychologically defeated to ensure a superior position.

2. Without fear, I am at a loss. Master Li zongwu has some insights on the relationship between the hold and terrorism. When talking about the old officialdom, he said, "The meaning of intimidation is a thing-like verb. I can say a few more words. How valuable should we be and can we give it to people easily? Some people have set the word selection to 0.12 million points, which cannot take effect yet. This is a lack of time for terrorism. All the important people in power have a soft place. As long as he finds the key point and clicks it, he will be surprised and immediately send the government officer. Scholars must note that terrorism and holding are used in combination. Those who are good at terrorism have a fear in their hands. The audience watched what he said in front of his boss. The sentence is a meeting invitation. In fact, he was hitting the key. The boss listened and sweated. Good support, there is a law in fear, watching people look at his arrogant and arrogant, a sentence to blame the boss, in fact, listen to people happy, bone festival are soft. This is the so-called 'mind-to-God, lies in everybody ', 'A brilliant carpenter can teach people to do according to the rules, but cannot tell you the skillful '. This requires the officers to be considerate. The most important thing is that when the word is used, the officers should be well-balanced. If the word is used too much, the officers will become angry and make a right decision, is it against the purpose of seeking an official website? Why? When there is no alternative, the word cannot be used easily ."

It is the same in daily life that people will be bullied to compliment and join. For example, when men are entangled in women, there are always more or less concerns. If he is the director, he will naturally be worried about the failure, which will affect his reputation. The problem is that a man is impulsive at the moment, and the consequences of the incident are ignored early. Therefore, a smart woman must give a threat to the other party, prompting him to withdraw his original intention. A woman, whose husband is a sailors, has been wandering for a long time. She is always alone and lonely. It's okay to say that you will be restless in the evening when you go to work during the day. In order to spend time, she took an exam. In the first class, I found that one of my husband's students was also sitting in the classroom. This student had a good time with her husband, so he naturally got close to him. I didn't expect this classmate to secretly beat her mind. The woman was aware of the bad motives of the student. She said to him very seriously: "As the saying goes, 'Friends and wives cannot be bullied '. You are a friend of my husband. He is so nice to you at ordinary times. What if I tell my husband that he will do to you ?" When I heard it, I was shocked: "You can ...... Never do this !"

In history, "a cup of wine to release the weapons of war" is a typical success of the first choice. Zhao Kuang grabbed his position from the back of the week and led his men to fight South and North, basically unifying the Central Plains. Then it wiped out the South Tang Dynasty and the mountains and rivers, and the world was peaceful. I gradually felt that those who had been bloody and desperate during the war were useless. They not only share their honor and wealth with themselves, but also all hold the weapons of war. If any of them thinks that their official positions are too ill, it would be difficult to clean up the situation. However, if you want to start with your brothers, you may be afraid of anger in the world. And every brother had a large number of cronies. If he started with all his brothers and stirred up their rebellion, his throne would also be unstable. What should we do? He thinks about wine. In the face of wine, let the brothers hand over their weapons. If you do so, this will be solved. If someone raises an objection, they will use the drunk voice to conceal it.

The next day, he summoned his men to hold the power of war, drinking, talking, and laughing, and drinking until the red sun and the West sink, all eyes blushing. Zhao Kuang said, "how nice it would be to live in that period forever! Kill during the day and go to bed at night. Which of the following questions may be asked, "How can I stay asleep? "Zhao Kuang said:" isn't that clear? We mean, we are brothers. No one should sit in my seat. But who doesn't want to sit? "Everyone looked at each other and felt that the situation was very serious. When Liu was shocked by the old history of killing Heroes one by one, he said," I dare not ". Zhao Kuang looked at the expected results and followed suit and said, "although you do not dare, it is difficult for others to think so. Once pornography is applied to you, you will not be able. "Once you hear it, we understand that Zhao Kuang is already making guesses. I was so scared to bow my head on the ground that I did not dare to get up; I beg Zhao Kuang to find a solution. Zhao Kuang said: "My life is short. If you have been suffering from me for half a lifetime, it is better to get more money and have a wonderful life at home. "Everyone nodded and said," Just do it."

The next day, the heroes of the old days asked to return home one by one, handed over the military power, received a batch of money, and went home to live a rich man's life.

Simply choosing or not will make the other party consciously have no fear, and the answer does not promise to be determined by his high unhappiness, the initiative is in the hands of the other party; while holding China-Canada fear, the initiative is in our hands, and holding words is only used as a step, in essence, it is not obedient to the other party.

3. Let's speak out first, but once we win, Chen Dong, a Chinese businessman in Los Angeles, bought a batch of cloisonne at the Hong Kong boom group, and said that he would pay half of the cash and half the one-month promissory notes. On the day of the transaction, Chen Dong left alone and sent his son Chen Xiaodong. One month later, the promissory notes expired, but the bank withdrew the tickets. After several contacts, Chen pushed them again, and then simply refused to answer the phone. The prosperous group knows the trap. Chen Yushu, the boss of the Group, said: "unless he is always in the United States and is not doing business in Hong Kong, as long as he comes to Hong Kong, I will pay the money through him ." Chen Yushu came to Hong Kong one day. Chen Yushu immediately sent someone to contact him and invited Chen Dong to the company at the discount price of the birds and animals. Chen Yushu kicked his foot and opened the door. He shouted, "Chen Dong, you're down !" At this moment, Chen's face changed, as if Wu Niu Panyue, but standing opposite.

"Now that you are here, let me take care of you ." Chen Yushu stretched out his palm and asked him, "What about my money ?" "I did not owe you any money, but my son did ." "It's not your promise on the phone. How can I ask your son to pick up the goods ?" "The son is in debt and asks Lao Tzu to pay back the money. This is not in line with US law !" "This is Hong Kong! If you can leave this door today, I will not be surnamed Chen !"

"We are rational people, and there is always a way to deal with unreasonable people. You know who I am ?" Without waiting for the other party to answer, Chen Yushu said loudly: "I have been a rogue in Indonesia since I was a child !"

As the saying goes: "soft fear of hard, hard fear of horizontal, horizontal fear of death ." At this time, Chen Dong cold sweat DC, with his hands touch the chest, and busy to dig out the medicine, it seems that the heart is a bit inappropriate. Chen Yushu said to Chen Dong: "We are talking about humanity. What I want today is to pay back the money. Otherwise, you don't want to leave this door ." Chen Dong knew that credit was useless and he could not do any tricks. He had to call a jewelry merchant and ask him to open a check. It is estimated that he had saved the money there.

Chen Yushu preemptible the threat and assumed a psychological advantage. As a result, he achieved the first advantage in the confrontation and thus successfully won the game. As the saying goes, "first hand is strong.

Many people have heard that they want to fight against a strong competitor, and they may feel a big fear in their hearts, or they want to escape as soon as they meet each other. In fact, this approach is just like self-defeating. If you can take the lead, this mental oppression can be mitigated.

The former world champion, Muhammad. Alibaba, before each competition, he must write a song of praise for himself. He vowed to knock the opponent down and then play again. The move earned him the title of "brag King", which is actually a unique psychological strategy of Alibaba. By announcing the goal of the game, you can beat each other psychologically before the game to gain an advantage.

In interpersonal communication, although it is not about meeting with a knife or a gun, there is a question about who gets the psychological advantage. The following describes several methods to beat people first: ① At the beginning, the minimum target was announced to suppress the other party.

For those who meet for the first time, if they can give a preemptive blow, they can overwhelm each other psychologically. For example, if you say, "today, you only need to remember my name, please give me five minutes. "Then, the other party will often accept your suggestion and feel that you have at least the obligation to remember your name or give you a five-minute chance to speak, make future topics develop in a favorable direction for you.

② In the argument, you can raise questions first to take the lead.

Do not wait until your opponent asks a question, and you will passively answer the question mechanically. First, ask the other party and force the other party to follow your ideas. In this way, at least psychologically, you will win the first victory.

③ Let the other party show courtesy first, and you can deliberately ignore etiquette.

Etiquette is designed for the smooth communication between people with high or low social status. For example, in terms of etiquette, a person with a low position should first greet the person with a high position. As for meals, the person with a high position should first trigger chopsticks. It can be seen that etiquette clearly reflects the sequential relationship between people. Therefore, if you want to take the actions of those with a higher sequence, for example, when you bow, let the other party bow first, and when you eat, you need to move the chopsticks first, so that you can take advantage. Sometimes, deliberately ignoring etiquette is also a very important psychological tactic.

④ Arrive at the agreed place ahead of the other party. When you are later than the agreed time, you will inevitably feel embarrassed. If you find that the other party has not arrived, you will feel comfortable and at the same time feel calm, when you see your opponent, there is always a kind of psychological superiority.

⑤ Do not take the initiative to apologize to avoid being at a disadvantage.

It is often said that when a car accident occurs abroad, never say "sorry" first ". Even if Hu Ming is responsible for the other party, the European and American people will think that the first party to apologize has a responsibility. In addition, the parties who open their apologies at this time will certainly be at a disadvantage. Because the "sorry" clause determines the psychological order.

In a word, once a successful player takes a psychological advantage, it may cause a panic or frustration for convenience, and intimidation can be done. Next, let's take the initiative.

4. The story of terrorism should be told in a low voice, "Your eyes are talking like your mouth". This sentence not only refers to the content of your speech, but also the tone of your speech. When you are excited, the voice of anyone will rise. If you are in a bad mood, your voice will be low. When a rogue threatens a person, he deliberately lowers his voice for the target person to say, "In this case, I am still very calm ."

It is often said that people with loud voices have the upper hand during the meeting, but when they want to persuade them, loud voices will lead to reverse effects. The more you yell at each other, the more you think it is just a simple one. Even if you know that the other person is justified, it is easy to feel resentful. Therefore, it is best to whisper to others. The other party is also relatively easy to open the room, in addition, the other party to speak in a whisper, In order to fear the wrong, will also look out and listen.

A gentleman had a very small thing, but he was inspired by the fact that an abusive police officer gave me a penalty order to stop for more than an hour. His attitude was not very decisive, so I went to him. He is standing at the crossroads.

"Officer", I whispered, "I plan to investigate parking problems in this town. How far is the one-hour stop sign from here ?"

"I guess it's going to be bigger or lower," he replied, and took the penalty ticket away.

It is easy to convince people to speak in a whisper, because it can show the strong confidence of the speaker, and there is no suspicion of bluffing.

When others make an insult, Liu blushes his face and doesn't stride like a confident giant. If you think that he wants to cheat you, you will give powerful evidence to the backend. The more trouble you have, the less powerful you will be. Only cowards threaten and yell.

In communication, there is often a situation where the biggest sound, the most fierce noise, and the most terrible pain points are often. If we select the pain point as the breakthrough point, we can beat each other in one fell swoop. Ask the tax officers to report and seal up a tax evasion shop. When the tax officer opened his mouth and asked about the situation, the boss loudly accused the tax officer of eavesdropping and scolded his peers for jealous and framed him. It seemed like the tax officer had offended him, he counted it. However, the tax officer learned from his rich experience that the more people there are, the more problematic they are. Instead of conflict with him, he left a simple sentence: "You should stop making a quarrel. In a few days, we will bring several people to check and draw a conclusion ." This is increasingly difficult for cigarette sellers. Although the customer was forced to face off, the customer had clearly seen the pain points of his bercha. The tax clerk told him that a friend standing on the opposite side of the smoke shop secretly watched his house and immediately called to notify him. In the evening, smoke was commercially loaded with more than 20 boxes of cigarettes for transfer, and the tax officers who arrived in time seized the goods on the spot. If the tax officer and the chimney knife work together with a knife and gun, they can only fall into the meeting of the tobacco dealer, neither can they complete the task nor prepare the other party.

In this confrontation, the tax officers used the fear that the people in Gulshan had been stunned. The key to success was not to make public comments during the fight, but this one sentence played a real deterrent effect. If you are too scared, the other party will not only suffer from it, but will think that you are scaring him and beating him. Therefore, the other party will have psychological doubts and precaution against you.

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