3 kinds of thinking to cultivate children with decision-making ability

We often say "think Twice", in which "Think Twice" is the "positive, anti-integration" of the 3 kinds of thinking, that is, positive thinking, reverse thinking and comprehensive thinking.

Positive thinking, is from the positive to consider, do one thing the advantages, opportunities, advantages, etc. reverse thinking, is from the negative to consider, do a thing of the disadvantages, weaknesses, problems and even traps; comprehensive thinking, combining positive and negative thinking, is a comprehensive and systematic thinking, thus choosing the best solution.

I give an example of two sons, the pastoral days, to illustrate how these 3 kinds of thinking work.

Shortly after his son was called "the Mother of American Aeronautics and Astronautics", he heard that some teachers needed teaching assistants. He thought that the TA's work has a certain income, but also can learn something, can double benefit. So he began to inquire and look for such opportunities. Later, I got an opportunity to teach a physics teacher as a teaching assistant, and physics was his forte. The teacher promised to pay him 10 dollars for a class. The process of thinking is positive thinking.

However, after receiving the teacher's email reply, the pastor began to consider the matter from the opposite side. This teacher is not really a physics professor, but a graduate student. The pastor has contacted the graduate student's discussion and the experiment class, does the graduate student's teaching assistant, only helps them to point to, does the health, the arrangement work, handles some chores, does not have the contact substantive work. The job is likely to be inconsistent with his original intention. Also, a trap may be hidden: by the rule, he will have to work for at least one months to resign if he agrees to the teacher.

After consideration of forward thinking and reverse thinking, the pastoral use of comprehensive thinking, the basic judgment. Then e-mail with the teacher reconfirm, ask what you want to help him do. As a result, the teacher needs to do the pastoral, is precisely the work of the handyman. So he declined the job.

I often say to shepherd: "When God wants to send you a gift, it will be packed with questions." "So whenever something goes wrong in life, he thinks it's an opportunity, and that's the result."

In college, one day, Shepherd wanted to buy some eggs, and found that the convenience store did not open the door, and ran to another convenience store to see, or did not open the door. He was wondering: How could this be? What are the bosses of these shops doing? Suddenly, he thought, this is the American Labor Day, the general store is a holiday.

When he returned to his dorm room, he found that there was a lot of food in the fridge. In addition, there are some snacks and drinks. He suddenly brainwave: the convenience store does not open the door, there must be a lot of students can't buy things. The supermarket is far away from the school, this is not the good chance that own business? As a result, he sent an advertisement in the Dorm area Network group: "Labor Day due to the close convenience store closed, the hostel provides a certain food, beverage supply, there is demand to bring cash to 0204 apartments to see goods!" ”

No sooner had the news been sent than a minute the doorbell rang. Originally is to the door classmate wants to buy milk, pastoral days and roommates just a large bottle of milk, then a little higher than the original price sold to him. Students continue to patronize their business, not long, they put the surplus of things sold out, not only convenient for others, but also small earned a sum.

Cultivate these three kinds of thinking, what should be missing what to fill. According to the child's existing thinking bias, strengthen his lack of another kind of thinking. For example, some children are bold, optimistic, suitable for challenging work, but easy careless, easy to plant a somersault, parents will focus on training his reverse thinking. Some children are more cautious, easy to see problems, but the pioneering spirit is not strong, dare not accept challenging work, then the parents should cultivate his positive thinking. More importantly, we should always consciously cultivate the children of these kinds of thinking, so that children form a habit of thinking.

Let the child develop the habit of "think Twice", can let the child develop responsible spirit and comprehensive, objective rational thinking. Today's children are difficult to form self-responsible habits, to a considerable extent because they are too self-interested, often starting from their own feelings and interests. Develop a "positive and negative" thinking that allows them to deal with problems more mature and make more effective decisions.

3 kinds of thinking to cultivate children with decision-making ability