A programmer's Confession (30)

Today is his 30-year-old birthday, the first thought is not where to celebrate, how to celebrate and who to celebrate, but to "stand" thinking, the old saying "Li" is "achievement", "achievement" more is an external perspective, there is a "donuts" illusion. From an internal perspective, he preferred to understand the turning point of "active thinking" as a starting point for a continuous upward and endless process ...

as husband

An "intriguing" appellation, the reason for "resistance", because this role with their own majority of life, "ruminate" is because we are always in the daily necessities of the insipid to dig different taste buds stimulate, but the real taste buds enjoy is not "not the same", but hidden in the common ordinary, We need to work together to enjoy. Just as he and she are always comforting, encouraging and discovering each other. Setbacks, what he needs most is her understanding and comfort, in the face of difficulties, she most want to get his support and encouragement, breakthrough growth, let him and her most pleasantly surprised is the mutual advantage of the discovery ...

As a father

  he would think that if he had the chance to have a child, he would need a father. The child is not another. Genetic inheritance is not an excuse for social transmission, so there can be no illusion of "creating" a child. We adults are eager for their own destiny, not to mention children, it is the right of children. So he wants to be the second teacher of the child to let the child step-by-step to find his first teacher, that is, the child himself. To enable children to have the right three views of the initiative thinking ability, is the child's most important "capital", "three years old" and "30" is a father (including mother) ability difference.  

As a son

He could not be "three years old", but as a son he would not blame his parents, he read when he was very promised to his mother said, he will not become his "father". He didn't know what to be, but at least he knew he had the right to choose. So he also understood that his parents themselves are their own choice of a result, he will not interfere, "adults" to understand mutual respect, if the so-called "moral" packaging "absolute", that is called "moral kidnapping." It's like he's not forcing his parents to help him take care of the children or live together, and he will not force them to stop their habits of life. He is more willing to use "consultation" between them, and all actions must be based on common will, and this most basic respect exists under any human "organization", including the family.

As a programmer

  This is his own choice of a social role, but also continued his reading when the initiative thinking, because his father is not a programmer. Work for 7+ years, he still feel distance programmer still have a distance, at most may be a common code farm, in the "grass-roots" moved a few years brick to now only began a little macro and logic to learn the basic knowledge of programmers. Any code is a "knowledge tree" root node, want to uproot, not a 10W hour also have at least 20W hours. Or the fact that "any node is the starting root node of another tree" when he has the ability to pull the tree up, this line of code is only his personal starting point. But in any case, these words are to give him "30" this another starting node on the blessing!!!