Declaration of self-esteem-source of personal strength

Self-esteem Declaration-source of personal strength submitted by: ouou67671877 Date: 2009/09/16 reading: 3600 rating: 8.52/65

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When people feel that their value is low, they will always feel cheated and humiliated. In this way, they pushed themselves to the abyss of victims. They always imagine that things will get worse and finally they can only go into self-dug graves. In order to protect themselves, they close themselves and do not want to trust others. They swallow the bitter fruits of loneliness and isolation. Because they are isolated from the outside world, they are insensitive to all people and things around them, and they are indifferent and heartless. They don't want to see, don't want to listen, and don't feel the world with their heart, but get used to sarcasm and despise others. Set a high wall in your mind, hide yourself, and then seek protection by denying everything.

Trust and self-isolation will inevitably lead to fear. Fear makes us fall back, we lose judgment, and we dare not take the risk of exploring new ways to solve the problem, turning to those actions that make us self-defeating. (Fear has always been about nothing. Once the problem really comes, the fear disappears .)

If a person with low self-esteem suffers setbacks, he or she will live as a loser. Their internal reaction is usually: "If it weren't for me so useless, all these bad things would not happen to me." "If I don't like myself, I will punish myself. I am always afraid of my life and feel that I am incompetent. In this way, I am in a state where I live as a victim without thinking ahead. I blindly blame myself for committing crimes to others at the same time, succumb to abuse for a while, and shirk my mistakes to others ." If a person constantly limits and hates himself, over time, they will use drinking, gambling, drug abuse, internet addiction, or other ways to escape, and they will become weak, become the victim of being defeated by life. The mental state that accompanied him is that he will feel that he is worthless, he will always feel rejected, he lacks foresight, and he is depressed, but he does not want to admit it, and he is a kind of deception to himself, avoiding your feelings in this way will directly lead you to lower your mind and make you less confident. This state is inferiority.

Many things depend on our mentality. Since it is mentality, it can be changed. It is gratifying that the self-esteem of all people can be improved, no matter what age he is. Because low self-value is not inherent but learned, we can choose not to learn these bad things, but to learn more valuable things instead. This learning process runs throughout a person's life and is expected to be learned from the past. At any stage of our life, we can make ourselves more confident. "Because you can always learn new things, your life can always be changed." Life is a process of constant change and growth. When we are old, it may be a little difficult to change, or it may take more time. But whether we are willing to make changes depends on what kind of attitude we have in life. The first step is to realize that change is possible and then try again. Some people may learn slowly, but we can all be enlightened. The article by using Virginia Satir hopes to help more people who need it.

Now I invite you and I to learn about two facts.

Fact 1: we all have fingerprints, and each fingerprint is unique and unique. In this world, no one except myself is exactly the same as me, so I have enough reason to make a difference.

Fact 2, all humans have the same structure-foot, arm, and first class, and the relationship between each part is the same. Therefore, we are no different from other people in terms of physiological structure.

Therefore, I am unique, so I am different from others. However, in many ways, I am the same as others.

These facts are important to the development of self-esteem. Everyone is our new discovery. We cannot shape one person as another person imagined, which means we should not let our children survive in the way our parents expect.

When we realize that we are a unique person who has something in common and has something different from others, I will not compare myself with others, nor will I judge myself and punish myself.

Each of us uses different treasures to extract energy. It doesn't matter what our parents inherit from us. What matters is how we respond to and handle this fortune, which leads us to a different life. We have some inherent unique qualities, which are a unique whole formed by the numerous features of our predecessors.

Self-esteem Declaration

I am me

There is no second me in this world. Some people and I may have some similarities, but none of them can be exactly the same as me. Everything I do really belong to me, because it is my choice.

I own everything: my body and all my actions; my mind and all my thoughts and opinions; my eyes and everything they see; all my feelings: anger, Joy, frustration, affection, disappointment, and excitement; my mouth and the words it says: or friendly, kind, rude, or wrong; my voice is either harsh or gentle; and all my actions, whether for myself or for others.

I have my own imagination, my dreams, my hopes, and my fears.

My victory and success are because of me. My failure and errors are also caused by me.

For me, I have my own hands and feet. I learned to get along with myself, cherish myself, and treat myself well. Now I can do everything for myself.

I know that some of my aspects make me confused, while others do not. But as long as I still treat myself well and cherish myself, I have the courage to solve puzzles and learn more about myself.

No matter how people look at me, no matter what I said at that time, what I thought and what I felt, everything truly belongs to the self at that time.

When I recall my performance, words, thoughts, and feelings and find that some of them are no longer appropriate, I will summon up the courage to discard the unsuitable part and save the proven part as appropriate, create a new one to replace the abandoned part.

I want to be able to watch, listen, feel, say, and do it. I can survive, integrate into groups, contribute, and make a difference, so that the world, people around me, and things only exist because of my existence.

If I own myself, I can manage myself.
　
I am myself.

It is never easy to break away from old habits and become a consistent person. The way to help you achieve this is to recognize the fears in your mind that impede your consistency. We are afraid of rejection, so we tend to use the following methods to intimidate ourselves.

I may have made a mistake.
Some may dislike this.
Someone will criticize me.
I may have influenced others.
She will think that I have no advantages.
People may think that I am not perfect.
He will leave me.
When you can give the following answers to the above statement, you will grow:

I am sure that when I take actions, especially new actions, I may make mistakes.
I am very confident that some people do not like what I do. Not all of us like the same thing.
Yes, some people will criticize me. I am not perfect. Some criticisms are useful.
Of course! When I spoke, I interrupted another person's conversation. I influenced others!
She may think that I am useless. Can I afford this? Sometimes I am not very enthusiastic; sometimes someone will take my offer. What is the difference between them?
Even if I tell myself that perfection is needed, the possibility of implementation depends on the fact that I often find my imperfections.
If he leaves, he may leave. In any case, I will survive.
Be happy if you are alive
　
Have a sincere heart.

Pray with sincerity,

Your soul will be comforted.

Prayer also requires silence.

Words breed out of imagination and make the spirit scatter.

The holy silence is the language of the soul,

Allows you to integrate your mind, body, and mind.

An Indian Zen master once said:

"If a human body needs food,

Our soul also needs to pray ."

Prayer is the key to enabling early morning,

Is to close the door bolts at night.

One seed

When there is a belief in your mind,

You should add it to your favorites,

As a seed.

This seed will sprout in the soil of the soul,

Grow into a big tree.

Pray silently.

Everyone has a holy soul.

Living in this rugged and difficult world,

If you can listen to the clear and transparent mind,

It will not go astray.

No matter how precious it is,

Once you speak out,

The heart will be like the wilderness.

Deep down your thoughts,

It will become a seed,

Sprout, extract long leaves,

Then the flowers bloom and the fruits are full of trees.

The seeds that cannot be returned are empty shells.

One seed has produced fruit,

It has a new meaning.

A person is a lonely person.

Birds never compare with others,

Just show yourself as you like,

Make the universe more harmonious.

Do not compare with others,

Only when you live your own life,

Life becomes pure.

There is a fixed number of wealth that a person can possess,

Be satisfied with this,

And always examine your own heart,

Stop greed and rashness.

Will this always happen in my life?