Effort is a disease: Slow down to run fast

Effort is a disease: Slow down to run fast

Text/Cong non-slave

　　1. Are you busy at work?

My friend said that I felt a lot of pressure and would like to go back to my hometown. It turns out that we work very hard, conscientiously, and conscientiously. I have several projects in my hand. I have to deal with some trivial work every day and the relationship with leaders, customers, and subordinates every day. I feel exhausted and exhausted. A leader is a perfectionist and has high requirements for work. He wanted to accumulate more capital when he was young, but he felt powerless. After consulting for a period of time, I slowly sorted out the following idea: Slow is fast.

I think of one of my former leaders who worked overtime every day: You don't want me to worry, what can I do.

To put it bluntly, if you know how to stop it, you can know how to accelerate it.

I 'd like to talk about this topic. This is almost a common problem in this city and even in this era: hard work. If you are not satisfied with your project, you will automatically seek for one more project. Or when the leader increases his workload, he does not know how to refuse. I think we should do our job well. When you are working overtime, you are happy or helpless. Each report can be checked many times to avoid errors, even if you know that such a check is not necessary. Everything should be the best, and more time and energy should be paid to do the best. In short, this is a good model with All-in-One efforts.

　　2. Hard work is a disease.

Maybe I am ill. I think hard work is a disease.

I vaguely felt that the cost of this kind of effort was extremely hidden but heavy. Every effort has a price, because one's energy and time are limited. When you put more time and effort into your work:

Family and partner relationships are unbalanced. Family members or lovers feel your indifference and indifference, and you will unconsciously bring your emotions at work to another person. If you have a child, you will be finished. The attachment relationship will be poorly established, and the sense of security will be poor, which will be fatal to the child. Many men complain about women: how can you not take good care of your children if I make money to raise a family? Women complain: I work so tired every day. Why don't you care about and understand me?

Personal life is unbalanced. The hobbies you are interested in, such as calligraphy, painting, and cooking, will be compromised accordingly. This means that your life has gradually lost the corresponding sentiment and adjustment, and you can only do it for a while. When we lose things to adjust our mood in our life, the trouble comes, and the whole person will not find the sense of presence. Every day, I work hard to cope with the work, but I have to work hard because I have lost my sense of presence, however, no motivation can be found. Hard work has become a kind of self-forcing, making your mood worse.

The time for reflection and awareness is lost. This is even worse. When you focus most of your energy on your work and take care of your family, you no longer have the energy to take care of yourself, or to reflect on the status quo, summarize your work, and gain insight into your life, improve IQ, EQ, and smart commerce. This means that you can only cope with your work and run blindly, instead of having time to stop and reflect on whether it is in the correct direction. At this time, you are not at work, but at work. You are being pushed by work. If you lose the time for reflection, the cost is huge: the decline in focus and joy index directly leads to a decrease in work efficiency, and then, in turn, blame yourself for your lack of effort and focus, it then takes more energy and time to work and falls into a vicious circle.

At the same time, innovation capabilities will also be lost. Once the work is hard, it is difficult to maintain a pleasant and easy working mood. Without pleasure and ease, innovation becomes a luxury. We cannot break the old framework, find a new way out, do not be unconventional, and be surprisingly successful. We just repeat what we have already done over the years, so some people say: you do not have many years of work experience. You just repeat one experience for many years. However, the soul of your work is a sense of innovation. When this is lost, your substitution will become very strong. So you can only be defined as one: a good employee.

Reduced immunity. This may be worse than above. Effort means a great deal of energy. It takes a long time to maintain a certain action, over-brain, or even overtime or stay up late to complete the effort. When the engine is desperately running, the fever is too high, the loss is too high, and it is close to retirement. When the brain is over-used, it is also excited. The spontaneous protection state of the brain is the instinctive protection from slow response and decreased memory. At this time, you still do not want the brain to protect yourself, then your body can only send energy to the brain, obey your command. So you will find that there are many young old men who are only 20 or 30 years old, but have no luster, low immunity, and fail before they get old. Or this is more appropriate: old and ugly.

The rear yard caught fire. When your life, yourself, and body are unbalanced, your work will be impacted accordingly. Life is a system that interacts with each other in many ways. When the back yard is on fire, the power of the front lines will be greatly reduced. Then you will get into a more anxious situation: poor job performance, poor life handling, and poor health. Then you are more anxious, more effort, and a vicious circle.

Of course, people do not want to do well with such hard work. They also have a certain advantage: people's experience will tell them that it is easier to succeed. Why did our ancestors say: "The course is bitter, the course is bitter, and the course is for people" and "the book Hill has a path of diligence, and the book Sea has a boat"? From an early age, we also held "learning like mountain climbing, it will be difficult to climb mountains, there must be bitter in difficulties, and sweet in bitter ". The whole cultural education system is promoting an education that strives hard for success. So we tried our best to pretend that we could succeed, at least to make ourselves safe. Let you believe that you can change your fate through your own efforts.

I have never been opposed to people who need to work hard to change their fate. However, I always feel wrong when I work so hard.

　　3. Do not work hard if it is better than hard work.

But I gradually found that the better way than hard work is not to work hard. It is because you cannot work hard to make better efforts. Of course, you do not give up, but learn to follow suit.

A friend said thoughtfully: I just want to do what I should.

As I said, your education actually limits you. It's not about doing well, but about doing well. A hard-working person will divide many things into his own responsibility scope and feel that he should do well, so there are many things that he should do well. Even if he does not want to do so, he will force himself to do well. As I used to work, I feel that cleaning, commuting on time every day, punching in according to regulations, and finishing the work of leadership arrangement should be done. Therefore, we need to make great efforts to do what we should do.

If you need to work hard to do a good job, it is not worth doing. What you really want to do does not require effort. When I spent a lot of money to report to an interest class, I will arrive to occupy the seat early. At this time, I don't need to work hard to get up early, and I will automatically wake up and fly to the class place. When I had an idea in my mind, I didn't have to try to write it down. I had no idea how to open my computer, even late in the middle of the night. When I want to be nice to a girl, I can't help but care about her. When you need to work hard to do a good job, it can only show that your subconscious is resisting, it does not want to do it, it is you have to force it to grievance, let your consciousness superego play a role. What I don't want to do at all in my heart, why bother myself with doing the opposite?

You may say that it is difficult to love and be interested in your work, and you are responsible for your work to survive. However, I can only say that you have been exhausted. Even if you are not so fond of work, if you reduce your current workload by half, what will you do, you will easily do your current job well, and do not need to work too hard, remain happy and focused, and automatically want to do better. The responsibility I understand should be to do things well within the scope of ability, energy, and responsibility, rather than to do the most.

You may also say that you are busy, lead command, and have to use depletion to complete a lot of work. I can only say that you are too good at pushing the responsibility to the leadership or the environment, and lose your initiative. As a leader, it is his responsibility and right to arrange work for you and what he should do. Your responsibility is not unconditional obedience, but an acceptance within the scope of your ability. Deny is one of your rights. Respect the reality. You do not have the ability and energy to do well. You do have a personal life to handle and cannot work overtime. You can refuse to work overtime and work hard. Although the leader has opinions, his opinion is his problem. If you want to take care of his feelings, you have to give up your feelings. If you are afraid of being fired, you can only say that you are too hard and have lost focus and innovation, making your substitution too strong. A good employee is definitely not a person who obeys commands and works hard, but a person who makes leaders love, hate, hate, and inseparable. Because he has a view, an idea, and a soul.

This is what I want to say. When you give up your efforts, you can do well and be responsible for your work.

The responsibility for your work is to take your opinion, thoughts, innovations, soul, ease, pleasure, and concentrate on your work, rather than the heavy workload. The previous mental action is to reduce the burden and take back the time. Because when you have time, you can:

Have innovations and opinions. Only with energy can you be refined and have your own ideas.

Have a pleasant attitude. A pleasant attitude not only comes from the ease and ease of work, but also from the love of life. When you pick up your love for life, have time to accompany your family, and have time to write calligraphy, if you have time for cooking, you have time to adjust your life, so that you can maintain an optimistic and cheerful state of your life. You can also enjoy this pleasant mentality at work.

Ability. In addition to practice, the ability also depends on your understanding ability, knowledge scope, and interpersonal breadth. When you have time, you can calm down and learn, think, and participate in activities to meet people.

All of this will in turn feed your work, so that you have more resources at work to do better. Therefore, this is a way to stand out and be responsible.

But the cost is also there. I have always said that to break an old mode and enter a new mode, you need to start insecure as a support. Reducing the burden on yourself, deleting the workload, and rejecting leadership is a matter of security. Not only does it mean that leaders will be disgusted and uncomfortable, but they also need to overcome their own relatively low income within a period of time and even worry about being dismissed. In fact, the recruitment cost of an organization is too high. Unless the recruitment cost is too high, the organization generally does not like dismissal. People who are worried about being dismissed may not have to think differently and consider it from the company's perspective. It is very costly to recruit and cultivate you. Who would like to give up on their own? What's more, you only need to reduce the workload, not to stop working.

　　4. slower than faster and easier to succeed

Slow down, you know how to live, know how to start, know how to make progress. The philosopher said that the choice is greater than the effort. Success is not how hard you work, but how you make the best choice on every choice point. The best choice is based on ample energy, good physical strength, and a pleasant attitude. This requires you to: slow. Perform subtraction instead of addition for work.

I used to have two very busy periods of time, but I was not very happy, and the benefits were very low. I spent some time in my 2nd jobs. I worked very hard. I had more projects at work than my colleagues. I also worked part-time to write a manuscript to a magazine when I got off work. I often write to my sleep and secretly appreciate my efforts. I work 16 hours a day. After I resigned at home for a while, I had a burst of confidence. I took a book and wrote it all day and night. Then I was denied and I was unwilling to write it harder, the attempt to write nearly 0.1 million words is complete. I have worked very hard these two times, but it is clear that I have violated the principle of work-and-rest, so that I can stop working. Later, I gave up writing in despair. Instead, I felt inspired from time to time and couldn't help writing. Later, I did not write so crazy, but I also found that it is more popular and of high quality. This makes me really understand that quality is more important than quantity. The quality does not depend on how hard it is, but on how slow it is.

People can be leaders of their own. The best leader is not just as arrogant as Zhuge Liang, But Sima Yi's ability to withstand loneliness and review the situation. Therefore, even though Sima Yi was defeated repeatedly in the war, he eventually won the entire three kingdoms. The best job is not to rush into the front line and focus on the current task volume. Instead, we can jump out and look at the long term from a higher perspective. From a long perspective, we can jump out of the current situation and reflect on it, and then re-choose the current situation. Only the victim's role can feel helpless and unable to live.

Remember, you are your own master, you are the master of life, you can be responsible for the future, you can be responsible for yourself.

Effort is a disease: Slow down to run fast