Everyone wants to be the best, even if it's just a lonely performance.

You must be familiar with such a scenario: In the early peak hours, people face their mobile phones and bow their heads, as if praying in the New Era; in friends, they use "thumbs up" to re-Outline friendship; family dinner, the younger generation turned their heads to their smart terminals and placed themselves in the "bubble" of distant people, leaving the elders with unknown resentment. "The farthest distance in the world is that we are sitting together, but you are playing with a mobile phone."-The Lament of the internet age has not declined with sighs, but people are getting restless with mobile phones.

 

Many people regard this as a dilemma of the times-a social network composed of strangers has an incomparable attraction, making people choose to be indifferent to people around them almost out of control. Recently, the popular CCTV documentary "the internet age" compares the process of moving humans from reality to virtual reality to immigration: "When the internet age is approaching, scholars compare the migration from the real world to the virtual world with the voyage of the navigator Columbus more than five hundred years ago. Both have a common purpose-for a new life ."

 

There is no denying that with a small cell phone in his pocket, humans are reshaping a larger self than before and redefining the boundaries between themselves and others. The real question is: is this distorted or enriches the human nature we are proud?

 

Show alone

Up till now, the Founder Zhang Xiaolong has never publicly explained the meaning of the startup page: A Boy leaves behind and looks at the parent star. It is hard to think of loneliness. In fact, a mainstream view is that although users have exceeded the total population in Europe, seemingly uninterrupted connections make people more lonely.

 

Why do people become prisoners of mobile phones? I'm afraid no one can give me another explanation of psychology. töck's better answer is that the Massachusetts Institute of Technology psychologist, known as "fread in the field of technology", was fascinated by online chat rooms and virtual communities in the early 1990s S, writing books to celebrate that the Internet will guide us to the glorious days and cover the Wired magazine, which has been hailed by geeks as a guide. However, more than two decades later, she was no longer optimistic and turned to be one of the world's most famous tech geeks.

 

In TRK's view, social networks are tempting to make up for the fragile aspect of human nature. "We are very fragile and sensitive. We often feel lonely and afraid of being bound by close relationships. Social networks create an illusion that we are accompanied without friendship. We connect to each other, and we can also hide each other ...... The feeling that nobody is willing to hear me talk about it plays an important role in our relationship with science and technology. This explains why we like Facebook or Twitter so much, there are so many automatically generated listeners."

 

Having an audience means having a sense of presence. In a sense, the circle of friends is more like a stage for people to show their presence. Unprocessed message reminders in the circle of friends are marked as presence. However, in the eyes of cautious töck, this may be an illusion. "We can experience the illusion of being concerned and accompanied without the need for true friendship. We use technology to find the feeling of being in touch with others and can comfortably control this relationship. But in fact, we are not so comfortable and cannot control it well ."

 

Due to the change of technical means, compared with face-to-face communication in reality, many people seem to be more comfortable with most interpersonal relationships in the virtual world. In other words, if life is a performance, you can perform the "best version" of yourself on social networks. Töck once asked a teenager addicted to text messages, why not talk face to face? The teenager replied, "Because face-to-face conversations happen in real time, you cannot control what you want to say ."

 

(Note: In fact, although I am not a mobile phone dependent, I am deeply disturbed-you can't imagine my girlfriend's infatuation with this stuff. I have even done more than 10 experiments: when I hold her cell phone in front of her, even if I don't press anything, this woman is deeply worried and her face turns green, as if I had caught the virtual soul she was performing .)

 

In psychology, both social tools can make everyone show what they want to be. "We can edit -- that is, we can delete, modify, and Polish our face and voice, and even the entire image ." "The relationships between humans are rich, complex, and requires skill and energy to deal with them," töck believes. Now we can use technology to make it easier. One of the most likely problems with our simplification is that we gave up face-to-face communication for easy contact. This is self-deception. In the long run, we seem to have forgotten this point, or no one cares about it ." Therefore, everyone wants to be the best, even if it is just a lonely performance.

 

Original social needs

However, the anxious psychologist seems to have forgotten to answer a question: why do humans feel "lonely "? As a matter of fact, many scholars have hinted at another neglected logic chain: Is mobile phones making people unable to put their phones down due to "loneliness" or "loneliness? Their answer is: it is better to say that social network is an addictive cigarette in the Internet age than to say that it meets the original needs of mankind.

 

Scholars explain from evolutionary psychology that humans are the highest group of species. In the primitive age, establishing connections with others is extremely important to individual survival, and the sense of belonging to the groups is also internalized into a psychological requirement. During the ancestor period, the most severe punishment of individuals by the tribe was not to be executed, but to be evicted from the tribe. As time passes, this punishment mechanism was transformed into ancient exile and modern imprisonment. This fear of losing contact with society is rooted in the brain and continues to this day-in a sense, whether it's a telephone or social network invention, part of the important reason is human instinct to connect with others.

 

In fact, for thousands of years, humans have been doing one thing: the possibility of extending the body with technology. In the Internet era, extending human social capabilities seems to have become the trend of the times. As a result, when people ignore the people around them, they are also meeting the needs of expanding their social networking, pursuing imaginary interpersonal relationships, and connecting with more people who may become friends, as described in the documentary "Internet age", "Every past year, an adult with social experience, in his former village and city, finds a partner that is particularly interested in him, what will be a tough and exciting thing. Resources that meet people's specific interests have been scarce for the past long years. Today is different. The street on the courtyard wall, the mountains and the sea, and even the Intercontinental border are no longer bound. People who are fully linked to the earth's radius enjoy the abundance of friends and interests ." This will inevitably lead to anxiety over the past, especially when the past seems so warm. Perhaps, as Duan yongchao, a well-known Internet scholar, said: "People's loneliness and worries about the development of science and technology all stem from the fear of losing certainty and order ."

 

Better Future

Almost all prophets believe that social network changes to human life style are only the tip of the iceberg, regardless of rejection or acceptance. Some scholars further pointed out that the contradiction between social networks and social networks is not enough or is not good enough.

 

Today's social networks are cold and lack of temperature, just as TRK's core argument is, whether Facebook or Twitter. In a speech, Wang Xiaoquan, an Internet researcher, said: "This is because the Internet has deprived me of face-to-face communication, which makes it possible for me to communicate with other people like machines, there is no way to build a sense of reassurance from a certain group." In fact, sentiment-related computing has become the focus of many companies.

 

Another more substantive question is: How many friends do a person need? After all, thousands of "friends" on Weibo may not even know each other. In theory, this question has been answered by Robin denba, a British-based scholar. As early as 20 years ago, according to the thickness of the human cerebral cortex, Deng Ba proposed a very famous "Deng Ba number ", that is, the "150 law"-150 people are the upper limit for human brains to establish a social relationship with each other. In the foreseeable future, social networks may say goodbye to the chaotic so-called "friends" management, but tell everyone who is your real 150 friends, and more social functions in the real sense, instead of browsing the breakfast of a person not related to you this morning.

 

Of course, whether it is the appearance of "Bow family" or "dependency", it shows that people's lives are split, and no one prefers to split. "Devices should make us more humane and live in the present. The Internet of Things does not mean that we should have two different life types: real life and digital life ." Astro Teller, head of Google X lab, believes that the argument "technology makes people indifferent" is only limited by the current technology level, in the future, mobile phones will certainly not develop towards "two-thumb interaction", but will fade away their background. "Cell phones are not cooler, lighter, longer-lasting, and better-looking because they do not need to be taken everywhere ."

 

Past years have proved that successful inventions will eventually disappear from people's consciousness. As Kevin Kelly, the global Internet culture spokesman, said: "We no longer think of chairs as technology, but think of them as chairs. However, we have not yet worked out how many legs a chair should have, how high should it be. When we try to use them, they often get out of the shelf. After a while, computers will become trivial things everywhere like chairs (and more than a decade later, the computer is like a piece of paper or sand.) We will no longer be aware of the existence of the computer." The fate of mobile phones may also be the same.

 

Today, more than 1.6 billion of the world's social networks have users, and 1/4 of the world's population is in the virtual world, with the growth of the so-called "digital indigenous peoples"-a generation without any prejudice against digital survival, the boundaries between virtual and reality will become increasingly vague.

 

But what is the virtual world after all? In the face of this problem, children who grow up with mobile phones may cite the story of a small reader who wrote a letter to the author of Charlotte's Web, E. B. WHITE: "Is your fairy tale true?" White replied: "No, they are imaginary stories-but real life is just a kind of life, and imagined life is also a kind of life ." (This article is from titanium media)

Everyone wants to be the best, even if it's just a lonely performance.