Five capabilities for a better life

Five capabilities for a better life

In fact, if a person wants to live a better life, he only needs to acquire several abilities. One is natural ability, the other is technical ability, the third is knowledge ability, the fourth is the ability to deal with society and people, and the fifth is the physical and psychological endurance of people.
Natural ability refers to the ability of a person to live and healthy. For example, eating, drinking, pulling, scattering, and sleeping are natural abilities of a person. Eating well and sleeping well means you are healthy, but it doesn't mean you can do more things than I do. Therefore, we still need a lot of other capabilities. One of the most important capabilities is technical capabilities.
The skills I mentioned here do not refer to low-level skills, such as cycling and cooking. I am referring Knowledge and skills . Knowledge itself is not a skill, but it can lay the foundation for the skill. What is a skill for a knowledgeable person? For example, Chen jingrun, who studied mathematics and the godebach conjecture, finally became one of the world's most famous mathematicians and earned a lifetime of honor. This is knowledge and skills. I often say to students that if you can reach the top 10 in China or the world in your research field, you will have knowledge and skills. The goal of skill possession is to live with self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence. If you want to live with self-esteem, self-love, and self-confidence, you must have certain skills. You can use this ability to get the resources you need in the world, including wealth resources and living resources.
New Oriental Teachers exchanged their expected salary with their English proficiency and lecture skills. If you want to make yourself better, it is not important to go abroad, but whether in China or abroad, you must ask yourself what to do,How can you do one thing very well, so that people all over the world can think of you as soon as they think of it. If you have this kind of skill, you will surely be able to live very well. A person with a skill will never become a beggar. Studying anything can be a skill of your own.
If you have the skills, consider the knowledge. One of the biggest flaws in China's education system is that I learned a lot from my childhood to college, but I forgot to tell you What is the final purpose of going to college.
I went to college to get a good job, but many Chinese college students cannot find a good job after graduation. Why? In the process of learning from the university, the teachers did not emphasize that you must master the skills while learning the knowledge. In addition, this skill is essential for your future social development. Knowledge itself is useless. Only by applying it to society can it play its role. Someone may ask, do you want to learn more? It is of course necessary to learn knowledge. For example, liberal arts students must learn the knowledge of science. science students must also learn the knowledge of liberal arts. The more they learn, the more comprehensive the knowledge, the better. But what is the ultimate goal of learning knowledge?
As we all know, all countries call the highest degree a doctorate. The English name of the doctorate is doctorofphilosophy. After translating it, it is a Doctor of Philosophy. philosophy means wisdom, which means learning to make life happier. Therefore, the ultimate goal of our learning is to acquire wisdom. A life without wisdom is a gloomy life, and a life without insight and judgment is a life without direction. Therefore, the ultimate goal of learning knowledge is to make intelligent judgments on the things around us and the society we live in. If you add it to your skills, you will have both skills and judgment capabilities. When you enter the society, the society will welcome you very much, because you are a smart and competent person.
With skills, people will enter the society, and the next problem will be encountered immediately after entering the society, that is, dealing with society. Chinese students are relatively weak in dealing with people, because they have never entered the society since they were young and college students. In addition, Chinese society itself is also in the process of moving from disorder to order, so it seems complicated and chaotic. As soon as many Chinese university graduates enter the society, they are lost and do not know how to cope with all kinds of personnel relations in the society. But in the end, entering the society and achieving success in the society is our ultimate goal.
In fact, it is not very difficult to get into the society and achieve success. Because society is composed of people, as long as you learn to deal with people, you will learn to deal with society. How can we deal with people and society? The method is also very simple.
For example, if there are six people in a dormitory, and you are one of them, the relationship with the other five is not very good, so the cause of the problem must not be the other five, it must be on you, you must have terrible shortcomings, but you are not aware of it, which means you will not deal with people. In turn, there are six people in the same dormitory. the other five people have a very harmonious relationship with you, and they are very willing to accept your opinions. This shows that you have a very good relationship with others, you will deal with people. You know how to use others' resources. You know how to understand others and unite others. It means that you will be a talented person who can do a career in the future. If a dormitory is divided into two groups, you are involved in one of them, and the two send people to talk about each other's bad things every day, it means that you are a boring man with no big mind or a big mouse.
In fact, it is very important to have the ability to deal with people. For example, to learn how to interact with people, you must learn to live in the middle of a wolf group. Wolf has three characteristics: first, even if the last wolf is left, it will go forward to capture food, that is, the wolf has Brave . Second, a wolf is a group animal. When a wolf crawls food separately, even if the tiger sees the Wolf group Group strength . To make a difference in society, a person must recognize the importance of group strength and learn how to use it. Third, the wolf can eliminate the incompetent wolf. When the leading wolf in the Wolf group is old, the young wolf will pull it down from the position of the First Wolf, so as to keep the overall Wolf group powerful.

The same is true for people. To be a major event, you must first be brave, and then be able to unite others to do things. Finally, you must be able to eliminate your own shortcomings and become a powerful person. If a person can do this, he will certainly not be a mediocre person. In addition, dealing with people requires another capability, that isUnderstanding. You must learn to understand the shortcomings of society and others' shortcomings, but not your own shortcomings. You must correct your shortcomings immediately. With understanding, you will have a broad mind, and your vision will become very ambitious. When your eyes are ambitious, your troubles and pains will not affect your pursuit of your future goals.

One of the most important tasks in dealing with people is to haveGood at expressing your abilitiesThat is to say, be good at expressing your own views and thoughts and trying to persuade others. In English listening, people often hear the word presentation, which means to express their opinions and persuade others. However, this word does not have an appropriate Chinese translation, which shows that the Chinese education system has never been taught by a teacher from elementary school to university, and let the teacher and others listen to you. Most Chinese teachers speak to you during class. If you dare to stand up and speak in class, the teacher will punish you. In this way, a large number of children gradually develop the habit of silently and passively treating others' opinions without any objection, so that they do not have their own views and ideas and lose their innovative spirit, the ability to think independently is lost.

A person must also have psychological endurance . What is psychological endurance? In a simple analogy, some flour is put into water and rubbed, and then a pinch, the flour is easy to scatter, but you continue to rub, rub thousands of times after, it will no longer be dispersed. If you stretch it, it will not be dispersed, but it will only become a ramen, because it has a toughness.
the process of people entering the society is like a group of scattered flour, which is continuously rubbed by the society and finally becomes a very tough dough. That is to say, your mental endurance must be continuously trained to become mature. Words such as abuse, torture, and oppression all describe a certain test of human beings. Under such a test, if you exercise, you will be able to withstand failures and pain in the future; if you do not have this ability, you will not be able to withstand the pressure of your life.
a Chinese student commits suicide abroad, mainly because the stress is too high. When I went to Harvard University last year, I heard that a Chinese student from the computer department of Harvard University committed suicide. The reason for his suicide is simple: he has always been an amazing child in China. He cannot reach the first place in Harvard in any way, and he is often criticized by professors. He could not bear the pressure and finally committed suicide. Of course, there may be other reasons. However, there is only one reason for the tragedy, that is, his mental endurance is too bad.
In addition to psychological endurance, We must exercise physiological endurance . For example, if someone else can keep learning for five hours every day, and you can keep learning for eight hours every day, others will get bored when doing one thing for a month, and you will not get bored when doing one year. You can focus on things that others cannot concentrate on. This means you have physiological endurance. In fact, the more time you spend, the more energy and physical strength you invest, the more you will gain.
the most important thing for a person is to exercise his or her abilities: to exercise his or her abilities to determine his or her goals, to improve his or her competitiveness, and to train his or her technical skills, exercise your ability to deal with people, exercise your psychological and physiological endurance, strive for a goal, and finally succeed. With these capabilities, even if one day you walk into the African jungle, it will turn into a group of monkeys or gorilla leaders. Without these capabilities, even if you are put on the top of the society, you will be kicked down by others and broken.