[Focus on college students] Why are you unhappy?

Source: Xi'an daily 

A good learning environment with no worries about food and clothing, and "depressing" has always become the most popular mantra for college students. A counselor concluded that college students are too confused. Even if they have excellent learning and living conditions, they will not be happy if no one opens their hearts ---
They have a good learning environment and have no worries about food and clothing. They can be "depressed" but have always become their most popular mantra. What makes them unhappy?

"There is no goal in study and life, confusion in interpersonal communication, self-centered, and inferiority on the other ." Liu Yao, a counselor from Shaanxi sunshine Psychology Research Institute, has been invited to colleges and universities for psychological counseling for more than a month. Liu Yao concluded that college students are too confused. Even if they have excellent learning and living conditions, they will not be happy if no one opens their hearts.

Boring and confused

"What is the meaning of life ?" After Liu Yao, a consultant at the Weishui campus of Chang 'an University, completed a psychological counseling session, she received about 10% of the sheets of paper, which repeatedly suggested that the life of college students was very boring, learning has no motivation. One student wrote that every Saturday, if you do not access the Internet, you will lose something, and the Internet will not bring anything.

"Their psychology is full of lack of goals and meaningless ." Liu Yao said that he entered a self-Learning University from high school, and there was an adaptation process. On the one hand, schools should guide students, while on the other hand, as adults, they should plan their own lives, determine their learning objectives as soon as possible, and establish lofty ideals.

However, this seems vague for many college students. "I really want to study hard to make my parents happy. I always feel confused about the future ."
Self-centered interpersonal communication

Interpersonal Communication problems are the most frequently answered questions by Liu Yao in colleges and universities. According to the collected questions, the reporter classified and calculated the number of people who are confused and worried about interpersonal communication, accounting for about 60% of the total number of questions.

"Some students told me that it is difficult to have a good relationship with my classmates because others always disagree with his opinion. I asked him, have you ever agreed with others' opinions? Why do you want to be consistent with what you think? Is there a right side for others ?" Liu Yao said that in many cases, not because the students do not understand how to interact with others, but because they ignore others' feelings, the self-centered consciousness of contemporary college students is too strong.

I learned why the students encountered problems. In the subsequent lectures, Liu Yao emphasized more about tolerance, understanding, thinking for others, and looking for reasons from himself, loving others means loving yourself. To make friends, you must stick out your hand first.
Two extremes: self-confidence and inferiority

"These are two extreme groups. People with inferiority often feel overwhelmed by others in their behavior models. In fact, self-esteem also stems from inferiority, which is a rejection of self ." Liu Yao said that many students do not correctly view themselves and accept themselves. The lack of ideas and behavior patterns makes them hurt themselves.

"You must not exaggerate the success of others. You must not be arrogant. You can gain confidence only by accepting what you do and recognizing yourself ." In some school lectures, Liu Yao gave suggestions to these two extreme groups, wrote down his true self, insisted on speaking to himself every day, and soon he will be able to return to himself. The most important thing is to maintain a normal heart. "Now it seems that the so-called troubles and unhappiness of the students can be easily solved. Fortunately, schools are paying more and more attention to these psychological confusions ."