Change the way: 25 things that will be regretted before death

Change the way: 25 things that will be regretted before death

Recently, a post "you will regret before your death" was frantically reproduced on domestic and foreign websites, and it instantly woke up to tens of thousands of people. The author is a nursing care nurse named bolanny Mayr in the United States. The article summarizes five things that people regret most when their lives come to an end.

Regret: "I hope I have the courage to live what I really want"
Second: "I hope I didn't spend so much energy on my work, missed the fun of watching my child grow, and missed the warm companionship of my lover"
Third: "I hope to have the courage to express my feelings, instead of suppressing anger and negative emotions for a long time"
Fourth: "I hope I can keep in touch with my friends, instead of ignoring the shining friendship in my busy life"
Fifth: "I hope I can make myself happy at the beginning, instead of being used to cover up and smiling in front of people"

Coincidentally, in Japan, there is also such a young nurse dajinxiuyi, who is dying. After seeing with his own eyes and hearing the regrets of 1000 patients, he wrote the book "25 things that will be regretted before death", which coincide with the content of hot posts in the United States. Among them, "Do not pay attention to health", "do not talk about a love that persists in memory", "Do not leave evidence of your survival", etc, it has become a "life to regret" for people ". How can we have a life without regret?

Don't turn these regrets into yours.

First regret: I did not do what I wanted to do.

Dajin Xiuyi said: "The most common saying before people die is that a person's life is too short ." Some people sharpen their heads and climb up. Some people leave their posts to their hometown. Others are willing to be mediocre, and others are eager to seek help. There are many ways to live in life. Never be "kidnapped" by others' values. Never think of the life that others want you to live as what you want. If you want to fall in love, act now. If you want to learn something, start now. Life is like a tour group. It's a pity that you have already joined the group?

The second regret: failing to fulfill your dream.

When people look back at the end of their lives, they often find that there are many dreams that have not been realized. "The true regret is not because the dream has not been realized, but most of them blame themselves for failing to fulfill the dream by 100% ." Sticking to your dreams is a "easy to learn" thing. A dream without deadline is just a dream. It is easier to add an "Deadline" to the dream and turn it into a realistic goal.

Third pity: I am sorry for my conscience.

Is it true that you are not a sage? It is impossible to do nothing wrong for a lifetime. Even if you refuse to kill a Buddhist disciple, it is difficult to avoid walking on the road and killing an ant. The "Bad Thing" of the lossless principle made for survival can be forgiven. Instead of carrying a sense of guilt, it is better to let go of the burden and look forward.

The fourth regret: spending a lifetime by feelings.

In real life, emotional people always laugh at rational people and say "they live too seriously ". In fact, what do you do if you care too much about your feelings? If you laugh, cry, or vent, your life will not change. You may have to wait for the last minute to understand how ridiculous and worthless every day is for the troubles, pains, sorrows, anger, and endurance.

Fifth regret: I did not try my best to help others.

Or indifference, or fear of losses, so that many people do not dare to be a good person. In fact, kind people seldom regret it. They live calmly and with peace of mind. It is a beautiful reward from kindness. To help those who need you, the feeling of "being needed" is far better than "asking.

Sixth regret: Believe in yourself too much.

We have all had such an arrogant, arrogant, or even exclusive moment, believing that we do not regret anything we have done. In this way, although it looks positive, it seems blind. There are always some things. Others are more considerate than you think. Listening more and thinking more than one second can save you a lot of detours.

7. Regret: The property is not properly placed.

At present, there are more and more family disputes caused by property. As a matter of fact, as an old man, we must take property disposal as an important task and plan for it during our lifetime. If there are many children, the distribution must be fair. Do not hurt the children's feelings because of money or money.

Eighth regret: I have never considered what is behind me.

This is similar to property disposal. A person's life will leave a lot of marks. People and things around you will change as you leave. By planning ahead, you can not only make yourself more comfortable with life and death, but also remind yourself to enjoy your life. Don't wait until you can't walk or hear anything.

9. Regret: I have not returned to my hometown.

Each person has a place buried in the deepest part of his heart, but never forget this is his hometown. A lot of people will say that when I retire, I will go back to my hometown. Often wait, and the last thing to go home is a hardcore box. In your lifetime, try to go home every year to listen to your hometown music and eat delicious food. This is a place that makes you unable to give up, and it is also a place of your soul.

Tenth regret: I have never enjoyed any food.

Do you want to leave all the delicious food to your children because you are busy with your work or eat the so-called "nutritious" food every day for good health? Eating not only satisfies our needs, but also satisfies our psychological needs. Tasting food is also a good kind of spiritual treatment. Another thing is, don't give up any chance to eat with your family. One day, the people at this dinner table will gradually disappear.

11th regrets: I spent most of my time working.

In this profit-driven society, work, money, and power have become gold standards for success. Many people regret it when they are old. How can they devote their good youth to work? Looking at what nature looks like, feeling the changes of the season, and listening to the call of art, these things will not make you richer, but make your life meaningful.

12th regrets: I did not go on a trip to the desired place.

Because the children are too small, the money is too small, the vacation is too small, or the work is inseparable? Many people think that travel can be done anytime. Only people who are ill know that travel is a luxury.

13th regrets: I did not meet the expected person.

It may be your favorite teacher in elementary school, maybe your first love, and no one's life can last forever, especially those older than you, even if they are in different places, you can also make a special visit. We should live with the idea of "one period of time. This is the term of Japanese tea ceremony. "Phase I" means a lifetime, and "A moment" means a meeting. It means that every moment of life cannot be repeated, therefore, every meeting has become the only one.

14th regrets: failed to talk about a love that persists in memory.

Love is also a proof of human survival in the world. We often see that people together may not fall in love, but those who love each other are forced to be separated. This is impermanence, and it is also strange that many people do not work hard. Love should be a kind of loyal and selfless dedication, a brave and fearless expression. This is our right as a person and we must never be alone.

15th regrets: never married.

Many young people feel that marriage is dispensable and a person is more comfortable. When I was older, I began to regret it. There was no one who could support each other. Although a good marriage is not desirable, you have to work hard and never hesitate to meet the right person. There will not be "the most appropriate" people in this world, and "the most suitable" people will not wait for you forever.

16th regrets: no children have been given birth.

Many people now think, "I am still a child. How can I raise a child ?" In fact, being a parent is not only for the purpose of inheriting the blood, but also a kind of "living evidence ". Think about the joy of elders and grandchildren. What is the bitterness of raising children when I am young?

17th regrets: I didn't see my child get married.

Some children think that "not married" is their own private affair and has nothing to do with their parents. On the contrary, the biggest regret of many old people is that they did not see their children get married. Marriage is indeed a private matter, but sometimes it is "selfish" to get married. You may wish to consider it from the perspective of your parents, but they may regret it.

18th regrets: I did not pay attention to my health.

When you are young, your body is the most squandering capital, staying up late, drinking, smoking ...... Health is such a thing. When you own it, you often don't feel its existence. When you lose it, you can discover it. It is so important. From now on, we have worked hard to get rid of some bad habits and make a healthy life for ourselves and those around us.

19th regrets: No smoking cessation.

Many cancers and chronic diseases are related to smoking. Many patients do not regret smoking until they find lung cancer. Many people smoke with luck and feel that the bad luck will not fall on their own. It takes courage and effort to restrain your desires, but your efforts will be returned to you in a "healthy" way.

20th regrets: I did not express my true wishes.

We are afraid of offending people, worrying about the troubles of others, and caring about how others think about ourselves. In this way, we virtually ignore our true intentions. In fact, you should always tell your real thoughts at any time. As long as you are willing to communicate, you will find that things are much simpler than you think.

21st regrets: do not recognize the significance of living.

Being alive is not just a number of lifetime, but the quality of your life. When dajinxiu met a patient with a late stage of cancer, he divided the remaining three months into many cycles, each of which did one thing he wanted to do. Even if you have only one day left, you have used the best life. This is what life means.

22nd regrets: there is no evidence of your survival.

Many people think that leaving a house or property is evidence of survival. Since we have walked through this world, we should leave some spiritual food to future generations. Whether it is work, research, academic achievements, or a letter to friends or family members, it is such "evidence ".

23rd regrets.

Seeing Life and Death does not mean ignoring life, but living in a more rational attitude. Chinese people tend to be reluctant to talk about death. In fact, death is only the same path for all lives. Don't worry, let alone fear.

24th regrets: no faith.

Although many people live well without faith, those who have faith will have a better understanding of the meaning of life. Faith can become a powerful healing force, especially in the face of hardship and helplessness.

25th regrets: I did not say "thank you" to those who love me ".

Most of the time, we are polite and have no scrubs about talking to close people. Using good language is a college question about interpersonal communication. Even close people do not have to be shy. They often say "thank you", "I'm sorry", and "I love you ", this is the best way to keep your feelings warm.