Love does not have a fixed appearance, what you have is yours.

When Love is long, love becomes a habit.

There was a lecture by a psychologist who told an experiment by an expert. The content is to put a monkey in an iron cage, the cage is divided into two halves, when half of the power, the monkey will be the fastest speed to flee to the other half. When the scientists took off the insulation, the whole cage all through the electricity, the beginning of the monkey as before fled to the other side, a few times, it found the whole cage full of electricity, so, it is no longer the same as the choice to escape, but desperate, innocent, honestly stay in the corner of the cage- It is accustomed to bear the hurt.

There has been such a thing around: she is a gentle woman, from love to marriage, she has been a tolerant love spoiled him, because she thinks, only she is to understand him, so she forgave his temper and capricious, she again and again with tears to wash their pain. Finally, in a shaking quarrel, she stood in the middle of a messy room, with tears in her eyes, said: "We divorce it." ”

The next day they went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to run the divorce formalities. Then she moved to her mother's house not far away, and after this disastrous emotional setback, only her mother could accept her broken heart. Only a week of time, she found herself become trance, as if lost a very important thing, seriously to think, but how can not remember. Until the day came back from work, in the twilight, she unexpectedly ride the bicycle to the original home door, and very handy push the door went in, in his surprised eyes, she suddenly found that she has been thinking home, thinking of him.

Broken impossible to recover, she told herself so, and strive to become strong and indifferent, she warned herself: he is not worthy of his love. But just after she went to the wrong door a weekend, she went to the market alone to buy food, on the way back to her mother's home, and sank into a meditation and dazed, and pushed the most familiar door, and saw that the most familiar people are squatting in the doorway stuffy smoke, haggard not like a look. That afternoon, she did not return to her mother's home, but made him a full table of dishes ... The next day, they remarried.

Now, they are still living as before, like countless ordinary couples, his problems have not changed much, and she? Still love him as she used to. She is accustomed to, when the love to become a habit, how unfair treatment is just a meaningless test, like that no longer avoid the monkeys, Ming know no matter where to hide from the pain of the body, it is better to stay in situ, let all the pain to enjoy the pressure.

If you love a person to become a habit, he becomes the most delicate part of your heart, become your Achilles heel, become you can not hide and do not want to hide the cage. Sometimes your heart is filled with hopelessness and innocence, but a feeling called "devotion" has filled your heart, it is both beautiful and painful, and if you find that you have begun to rely on this feeling, then all the retreat is closed. The only thing you can do is to love him not in return, like drinking water and eating, until you have the stamina to quit the poppy.

Appreciate this sentence: you are not the best, but I only love you. Carefully aftertaste, this reflects what kind of optimistic open-minded and rational persistent love! Some people say that since you were born, there is a set of fate for you, but the world, the boundless, life is short, how to find your perfect companion?

Modern people, can not cling to this day, can not be easy to die of youth and anxious to hold their breath to wait for it? So, they often reluctantly accept the wind to her (him), but again and again to compare her (he) and his mind that the perfect image to contrast, compare once, disappointed once.

They do not understand, how to cherish the side and already have, they do not know, they have to get, in fact, is the greatest happiness, the most true love! What is Love? The philosopher said, Love is when you know he is not the person you worship, and understand that he still has a variety of shortcomings, but still chose him, Not because of his shortcomings and abandon his whole, deny him all.

If there is such a person, he is absolutely perfect in your mind, there is no flaw, you fear him but also eager to close to him, this feeling can not be called "Love", but "worship." Worship needs to create an idol, like Totem and so on without flesh and blood, and love does not need, love is really real cut to be able to touch the heart with the hand experience. Love is you know that he is dressed very "rustic", but willing to take him out in public, you know he has shortcomings, but also insisted to bring him home to his mother to see, you most despise is to kill the pig carpenter, but just do the butcher's wife, you are a neat, but very diligent for him to wash the greasy bowl ...

A Hidee girl, after graduating from college, refused to pursue a lot of good boys and finally chose an inconspicuous and diminutive colleague. Many of the people around it felt incredible, even her girlfriends did not understand. But she was very calm, in the eyes of all puzzled, she put on the wedding gown and Mr. Shi Shi ran into the "siege."

Years later, when her classmates were tired of creating their own corner, disappointed in the original fantasy burst, the students gathered at the meeting to discover: The girl was not as they originally thought, trapped in a mediocre inaction circle, haggard, but still radiant, Even more than before a mature grace and profound. They walked hand in hand to the people, so that everyone in the presence of the excitement! The lady tells us that her man is not the best, and has many shortcomings, but these have not accepted him in the time she knew, and she would like to, in this lifetime to entrust her feelings to this when she encountered setbacks silently to help her, Encourage her enthusiastically when she is frustrated, and never ask for anything in return for a man.

This can be thought, if there is a persistent and persistent feelings and a respectability instantaneous "feelings", which would you rather choose? There are many wonderful boys and beautiful girls in the world, but there is only one part of the relationship that really belongs to you; never change your beloved by the eyes of others. Mo to live in the eyes of others and lose their own!

We use the heart to wait for their own, not earth-shattering love, waiting after the lifetime of the phase. No one lover is perfect, nor is there a feeling that is flawless; love and lover can only be true.

There are some secrets you should know about true love.

-he wants to get you, not to show that he loves you. People sometimes want to get something for the reason, just because you can't get it. Your desire is only a reflection of your ego, not from your heart.

-Self-betrayal, may temporarily get a man's love, but definitely not your own love. Don't try to shape yourself up to the way you think a man might like it.

-Some people painstakingly cultivate a well-remembered personality, whose purpose is only to disguise the flaws in their character.

-a commitment to growth means that he wants to be a better person. You don't have to force him to grow, he's already doing it himself.

-It's important to like the outside of a person, but don't just stop there, you have to like his inner more.

-Most of the time cheating you is not a man, but yourself. You must try to remove the positive and optimistic glasses as much as possible, and evaluate the objects of the interaction as realistically as possible. Otherwise, what you fall in love with may not be the real him, but his potential.

-He cares more about you than you care about him, your love is not equal, you will never be happy.

-When a man falls in love with your heart, he is in love with your nature. What makes you different is the secret of a woman's appearance.

-If he really loves you, he will love your idea, even if he doesn't agree with your idea.

-The man who suits you wants to make you happy, and will thank you for letting him know that he is achieving his goals.

-The more love you share with others, the more love you feel in your heart, because when love pours, you are the first one to receive it.

-True love is to find the true self, let true my nature reveal, at the same time encourage each other to do the same thing. On this basis give love and accept love, let love flow up.

-What you love is not who you really are, what you love is the one day you want him to turn into someone someday.

-You go into a relationship that looks like a cure, not a healthy balance of love

-What you should do in life is not to make him feel comfortable, but to be true to himself.

-If he doesn't like the real you, and your inner thoughts, then he's not for you.

-Have you ever told yourself that you are madly in love with a man, but after having sex with him, you understand that your feelings are not love, but desire.

-Lust Blind. After you know someone, you are very attracted to him and mislead to treat this chemical reaction as appeal to each other. This lust seems to make you invisible to this person, but in fact, you are just obsessed with this man.

-Do not lower your style, to make others like you and to be a sexual object.

-Your appearance reflects your feelings, and if you are not the real you, don't be surprised when the people you attract don't really love you.

-Tell your boyfriend what you like and dislike and let him know how you feel.

-You begin to think with "us".

-Try to express your love through words and feelings, while satisfying each other's needs.

-The feelings of deception cannot last.

-You don't need every man in the world to fall in love with you, you just need a man to love you in this world.

-The ability to feel deeply is your greatest gift, don't shut your heart out of fear.

-Every person you know is the same as you in the love of identity, affirmation of demand. Some people do those things in a twisted way, but you just have to look at the person you're trying to present on the surface and see the fragile nature of his heart, and most people will give you a good response.

Love does not have a fixed appearance, what you have is yours.